DH is a manager in an office. He seems to be far busier than me with his job! I suspect he would not recognise much of what is being asked on the pilot's wife thread as I am part time and organise much of the childcare and household. He is baffled by any requests for him to arrange his work day around any of the kids' activities as he has to go to work! I am fortunate enough to be able to arrange most of my work around the kids thanks to our work allocation system (which is soon to change and will no doubt cause me considerable grief) and an active trip swapping culture.
I've been a pilot for 20 years, but stopped flying each time I became pregnant. I stopped at about 6 weeks each time and resumed flying when the first was 9 months old and the 2nd was 14 months old (I was supposed to go back when DC2 was 10 months old but due to completely unrelated issues was unable to pass my medical.)
I knew someone would ask about the reputation for unfaithfulness. I have been happily married and faithful for much longer than I have been a pilot. The majority of my work colleagues are also faithful as far as I can tell, however there do seem to be quite a few divorced male pilots out there. Having spent many hours stuck in a cockpit with just them for company, in some cases I suspect they would be divorced no matter what their profession! I've flown with quite a few of my female colleagues too - the majority are happily married and many have children. In my career I've come across 2 notable exceptions - one unfortunately has the same first name as me and I often spend introductions to other crew members saying 'no, I'm not THAT xxx!' The other one was quite open about the affair she was having with another colleague, much to everyone else's disapproval.
Am I clever? Not clever enough for my first choice of career, apparently. Before children I would often win the local pub quiz though! Is that what you mean? 
For childcare I have a local lady who has looked after my kids for nearly 8 years. Occasionally my husband ends up having to stay away overnight with work at the same time as me and we throw ourselves on my mum's mercy. At a push, I am able to bid to work weekends if we are really struggling for childcare. It's a juggling act. Throw in all the animals we have, and I end up running a very complicated diary of who is looking after what. I spend hours on my diary and spreadsheet. I often sort it out while on a nightstop somewhere.
I am lucky in that I haven't had any really scary moments. I've had complicated situations that needed input to prevent them becoming scary or dangerous, but my most notable moments at work which got my heart racing have all been on the ground. On one occasion we were waiting to take off and we discovered a significant fuel problem which would have given us the same issues as a fuel leak. Fortunately we discovered it before take off. Another memorable occasion was when a passenger died during disembarking. I've had 3 passengers die while getting off the plane but none in flight. I'm trying not to take it personally!
Some people do tend to react negatively when they realise their pilot is a woman. That's not my problem. I was called to deal with a passenger who wouldn't comply with the female cabin crew during boarding once. His religion meant he wouldn't acknowledge her or her request to see his boarding card. He was denied boarding as he has to show his boarding card, so demanded to speak to a male cabin crew member. All of the cabin crew were female, so he demanded to see the pilot. Normally I don't get involved with boarding, but on this occasion I was delighted to go and see what he wanted! He eventually got over his religious aversion to women for the duration of the flight. It was either that or don't travel. He has been the most extreme example though.
Pilots arent routinely breathalysed. I've never been in 20 years of flying. We would only be breathalysed if we had given someone reason to think we were drunk.
My first commercial type rating was the Boeing 737.
My kids think it is fairly normal that I fly. My eldest child likes to tell everyone within about 2 minutes of meeting them. DC2 is quieter about it but would like to fly for a living. We'll see about that! Eyesight may be a problem there. I do take my kids to work with me (with DH to look after them, obviously.) They have been for long weekends to places most people would consider a dream come true. DC1 will soon be old enough to come with me unaccompanied. I think school holidays will become much more fun once I am able to take a mini-me with me on a trip!
The proportion of female pilots in my airline is about 5%, worldwide about 3% of pilots are women. About 30% of women pilots are captains, the rest are first officers - it is much easier to control your home life if you have the best pick of the rosters and time off, so staying a senior first officer is much better than becoming a captain while kids are small, although I do know women who have managed it.
Wrt my rosters and trips, I like flying trips which are 3-4 days long, and take me somewhere either exciting or relaxing. I've been to the Caribbean a fair bit this year, and travelled to Asia (India, China, Hong Kong) a fair bit too. I am not a fan of going to North America or the Middle East. I am able to express a preference for where I go and my roster usually reflects what I've asked for. Frequently though, my roster revolves around parent's evening, sports day, the school play, etc! I try not to work weekends, bank holidays or birthdays, but it's not possible to get all the days off that I want so I have to balance things there.
I got into flying through an airline sponsored scheme. I think the cost of flying school put a lot of women off for a long time, but the cost of university is not much less these days.