My OH earns millions AMA

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Just that really. I'm a SAHM. He's earned over a million pounds for the last few years. 7 last year probs not as much this year. Presume I will get a lot of abuse but do think that there are a lot of misconceptions as to.how much money it really is after tax and what sort of person you are so....

@gorgonLondon what is the name of the charity in Kenya? I believe it may be the same one I support! X

OP - will you give your DC money eg to get on the property ladder

Trying to answer common themes. He could stop tomorrow but we couldn't afford to stay in the SE with the same quality of life. We also think it is highly likely that the children will settle in the SE. If they didn't we would upsticks and leave. We've had a lot of instability over the years moving around for work etc. and are really trying to stay put and have a base for the children.

"It felt unfair and wrong to have that as a privilege" - so presumably you've cancelled all your private medical healthcare?

OP: Why don't you have a job?

@IsBrexitOverYet the charity is called Osiligi and they run a school and orphanage for Maasai children in Kenya.

We will give our children money to get on the property ladder. We were religious when we met but aren't any more. We have some v. old towels but they are for the dogs. We own 3 other properties but think they are a bit too outing to mention. The are rented out. I think if I was looking to buy a holiday home now it would be Cornwall.

Interesting thread. Of course you don't have to earn millions to sponsor children in Africa or do charity works. My mother always taught me 'money is a tool to be used wisely'. We sponsor an African child and both do voluntary work. We're not uber wealthy, just comfortable. So my question to you is 'what do you do with all your millions to make a difference?'

001000001 I don't need a job financially. I haven't worked for nearly 20 years. I think it would be good for me to have one but I don't want one enough. Sorry if that sounds lame.

Yes I cancelled the free private medical care that we have because that would help others???

Yes Gorgon!!

OP - how do you feel about the saying, “if you have more than you need build a longer table not a taller fence”

And how do you feel your life mirrors this phrase

OP are you bored not working? I get bored on annual leave sometimes 😂🤷‍♀️

I think a lot of people on here who aren’t dealing with high net worth won’t understand the general slog that goes into it.
There seems to be constant meetings, lawyers etc.

Part of that is our own fault: we started our dream project which provides employment, training and homes to many and the work involved is Terrifying. Plus there is now the realisation that a good few hundred families are now reliant upon us to continue making good decisions.

Have you considered leaving your mark for posterity op?

OP: are you not UTTERLY BORED SENSELESS not working???

You say that if DH lost his job you wouldn't be able to afford to live the way you do...so why don't you want a job?

Medical care: so you feel guilty about having the privilege, but don't actually stop having the privilege...? So you don't feel that guilty....

That's like saying "Oh i feel SOOOOO guilty that I can buy any food I want from the supermarket" and then walking straight past the foodbank collection with a trolley full and not giving anything

Do your kids do summer camp? Like in the US?

Why are people talking about LuMarie?

What is your attitude on single mums who don't work. I mean morally they're no different to you, are they.

@IsBrexitOverYet hello! Nice to meet a fellow supporter.

They are a great charity, aren't they? We chose them after a lot of research because the money all goes to the people who need it, doesn't get creamed off in 'overheads' (let alone the worse horrors of Oxfam etc)

I liked the transparency of it, my kids draw and write letters for the Osiligi children and we actually get photos/video of them opening the envelopes. It's a lovely connection to have.

I genuinely can't understand people who have a ton of money and don't use it to help others less fortunate. I wouldn't want to know someone like that. Luckily a lot of very wealthy people are also generous and philanthropic.

I'm not bored senseless by not working, I have mums net!
That's not my point re private healthcare. There are some luxuries that we have that are simply that, luxuries. There are also some things that we have bought that I think everyone should have. Healthcare and education. If everyone in the UK gave up private healthcare and education tomorrow what would happen??

When you go on holiday do you and your husband fly first class and bung your kids in cattle class with the nanny?

over 8 hours we fly business. have never had a nanny.

Just wanted to stick my oar in to say that I think it is moral, not immoral, not to get a job if you don't need to. If you're loaded and don't need the income then why not leave the job for someone who needs it?

I am only commenting on this specific aspect of the posts, but I genuinely cannot see why people are criticising OP for not working when she doesn't need or want to.

I think similarly with retired people - don't keep a job unless you need to or really want to! Free it up for someone who needs it to support themself / their family

Back to lurking now

OK. Think I've covered most of it. Wasn't as much abuse as I thought and I really feel challenged thinking about some of these questions. Don't think me not working is a problem but obvs. the charity thing is something I need to sit down and do something about. Thank you.xxx

Do you feel like your husbands money is yours?

Would you expect spousal maintenance if you divorced?

How do you feel about the suggestion that you being a landlord of multiple properties, giving your children money for property and sending them to private school contributes to processes that keep other people poor, like the housing crisis and nepotism?

Do you feel any kind of compulsion to share your wealth or give back into society to help those less fortunate?

Re healthcare. You said it felt unfair to have that privilege.

So maybe don't come out with such words if you don't actually back your words with actions?

Its easy to say "Oh ist't X awful" and do nothing to change it even when it's in your capabilities.
In that situation it is probably best to acknowledge how very fortunate you are... Or even better don't mention it at all. (Rather than pretend to feel guilty)