I'm in a relationship with someone older than my father AMA

[RoseGardenDreams]

27 year gap to be precise.

Ask away.

How did you meet?

camel he was my driving instructor.

How old were you when you got together? How long have you been together?

Has it changed your relationship with friends or family?

Does anyone in your family mind?

Do your parents like him? My DH is 22 years older than me, he is great friends with my parents.

How old are you both? How have your families reacted?

How old were you when you got together? How long have you been together?

I was 27 when we got together, we've been together just over a year.. still early days really.

Has it changed your relationship with friends or family?

Yes it has. My parents no longer speak to me and I've lost a lot of "friends". They can't understand it. On the other hand, his friends are really great and were very welcoming.

In 28 and he has just turned 55. Certain members of my family are absolutely fine with it. My older friends are much more accepting than friends who are my own age - we've had a lot of negative opinions and name calling.

He has children my age and younger, who I get along with. I also have young child who is now beginning to form a really nice relationship with him. It's just such a shame she has had to lose grandparents.

What happened with your parents?

Sorry to hear about your parents, I hope they come around in time. I think I would find it odd as a parent so can understand a bit although I hope I would react slightly better and not lose contact with my own child, that's very sad

What happened with your parents?

My father wrecked DP's car and spray painted 'pervert' on his garage door, before telling my that I'm no longer his daughter and not welcome in his house. I used to meet up with my mother without my father knowing but now she's decided that it's too complicated for her and to contact her when our relationship ends

I can understand why they're upset but at the same time, we're both adults and it was me who initiated the relationship in the first place. It really upsets me that DP has had to suffer so much because of it.

28 and 55 if you don't mind me asking, what do you have in common?

No questions but wanted to say I’m so sorry about your parents, i was in a very abusive relationship with someone my own age, and now as a mother I’d like to think if my children were with a partner and they were treated kindly and in love, their ages wouldn’t matter to me

28 and 55 shock if you don't mind me asking, what do you have in common?

I don't mind at all.

Our personalities and sense of humour are extremely similar and we honestly just click so well together. He loves hearing my views on the world as a younger person and vice versa - I never get bored of hearing what he has to say. I really love him more than any man I've ever met in my life.

Thank you rainbow that means a lot

I've nc for this.
I'm 28
My partner is 49 we have 3 children together 1 ds and 2dd twins.
We click. I'm a lot older than my age men never act there age imo.
I don't feel an age gap when we are together at all. I just worry about the future...like when he won't be around as long as I will be if I don't die first
An age gap means nothing imo appear from the obvious

Do you want children?

If you do, does it not bother you that he is unlikely to see his kids reach adulthood.

I know any parent can't die, but his odds are far higher.

How would you feel if he does in 15 years and were then to old to meet someone and have kids?

If he does die in 15 years.

I worry about the future too but at the same time, I'd rather the spend the time I have with him than decades with someone who I didn't feel as strongly about. Age gaps really don't mean anything if you're happy.

Age gaps really don't mean anything if you're happy.

I don't have an issue with age gaps. However I do think this is naive.

Short I don't want any more kids, I'm perfectly happy the way things are. I doubt that will change

I don't have an issue with age gaps. However I do think this is naive.

I can see why you think that it's naive, but believe me - I've spent so much time going over and over this in my head and the age gap really doesn't bother me. We're too much of a good fit to let it bother us. I think it bothers him much more because he worries more about what people think when we're out. I've past caring.

Blimey - some of these responses are funny. He's 55, not 85. I wouldn't be delighted if this was my daughter but I certainly would come round in time I suppose - given the fact you're not exactly 17

I think it's a large gap but I don't think it's head spinning. Was your relationship with your parents poor anyway, given how they've reacted? I'd understand them being disappointed and not getting it but to for your dad to behave how he did - sounds like it's the best thing all round that he's cut contact with you

@shortstuff08... Unlikely to see them reach adulthood?? Obviously without knowing anything about his health, he's probably got near enough 30 years left in him, going by average life expectancy.