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My parents were heroin addicts ask me anything

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Addictschild · 07/07/2018 20:34

I spent time in care and was lucky enough to be in a long term foster home . But my first 11 years were in the hell of a heroin addicts life .

Ask away :-) no issues here

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SilverDoe · 07/07/2018 20:37

So sorry OP Flowers

May I ask if you know how they started? Were there any gateway drugs, like medicinal opiates? I know someone who is a wonderful parent and just the best person but they became addicted to OTC medicine and I worry so much for them.

Was there anyone there for you during the time you lived with them? Was there any support?

What got you finally taken away from them, and I’m so sorry if this is too personal and prying but do you know when they became addicts? Was it before or after you were born?

I’m so happy that you are okay now Flowers

Mistressiggi · 07/07/2018 20:50

Do you wish you'd been taken away sooner?
Flowers

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Addictschild · 07/07/2018 20:51

My mum found the break up Of her parents difficult and she lived in a town where drugs became rife in the seventies . I don’t know what she started on but she was about 14 from accounts . She’s still alive. Now 62 and living in a hostel in Kent I believe .

I had a variety of aunties neighbours etc looking out for us

So yes she started before I was born , I was born addicted to heroin it’s all in my social work files which I applied for .

We had a physical fight when I was 11 and I left and refused to go back home and demanded to be taken away

Please don’t feel sorry for me i just want to answer questions in case anyone was curious about a different sort of life

When I watched train spotting my life was very much like that .

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colditz · 07/07/2018 20:52

What alerted the authorities to your poor living conditions?

And what would you say the most difficult part of your early childhood was?

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Addictschild · 07/07/2018 20:53

Yes we should jave been taken away sooner or wouldn’t have been so hard and I wouldn’t have seen so much crap in life . You’re quite jaded by the time you’re 11 .an old soul and streetwise . Which wasn’t really necessary . If was the 70s when families were encouraged to stay together .

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ilovetomatoes · 07/07/2018 20:53

Thank you for this thread. Have you suffered any physical or mental issues as a result? My niece has FAS, I feel so raw every time I see her. It’s too much.

NODDLES · 07/07/2018 20:54

Have you or any siblings got addicted to drugs?

SoNotaWendy · 07/07/2018 20:55

What age were you when you realised?
Were you always aware of the existence of drugs?

Nofilter · 07/07/2018 20:55

Sorry OP this was your reality..

Sounds like you’ve your head screwed on now though...

How has it impacted you as a person, personality, strengths and weaknesses?

I had a tough childhood and think it gave me this huge drive to succeed, I often wonder what it will be like for DD who is having an idyllic childhood whether she will still have that drive?

Xo

SoNotaWendy · 07/07/2018 20:57
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TheQueef · 07/07/2018 20:57

How was social care for you?
Did you get through it unscathed?

ivechangedmyusername · 07/07/2018 20:57

Have you ever seen your mother again. ? Or father ? Do you have any relationship with either ?

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Addictschild · 07/07/2018 20:57

The authorities were aware from the day I was born as my mum took me out of the incubator when I was going through withdrawal and left with me . She took me back to a caravan . Yuk . Then we were in and out of care depending on things . Lots of times we were taken away so she could go to rehab instead of prison .

The worst thing was sexual abuse , and seeing a man set himself alight with a petrol bomb. And the death of my step dad in bed next to me when I was 8!.

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Anotherdayanotherdollar · 07/07/2018 21:00

I see you were born addicted. Did you have a tough withdrawal do you know? I'm a nicu nurse and withdrawal is awful for the babies but some withdrawals are really protracted.

Also, this is very personal, do you have any other addictions? A lot of research shows that babies born addicted continue to crave the substance until they find it again later in life.

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Addictschild · 07/07/2018 21:02

Physical issues not really although I’m very very sensitive to any medications. I can’t smoke or tolerate alcohol and I’m sure this has something to do with whatever they gave me as a baby .

Mental issues , not sure , depression I suppose .i went to university but couldn’t cope with having no home or family and tried to take my own life .no one gave a shit . Shortly after I became pregnant and had my wonderful son who gave me all the love in the world I needed .

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SoNotaWendy · 07/07/2018 21:02

Nofilter, she'll be calmly confident, driven to go and just reach out for what she wants.

My controlling mother raised me to be a people pleaser. It affected by self worth and i have never had a healthy relationship so i admire OP so much. A difficult childhood doesnt necessarily give a child drive. It didnt destroy me but i withered. I smalled down.

MonsterChopz · 07/07/2018 21:02

Do many people know you had neo natal abstinence when you were born? If so, has anyone had a negative reaction? My daughter (adopted) had significant drug withdrawal at birth and I worry about how she will process her history and hope that people don't react negatively.

Thank you for being so open.

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Addictschild · 07/07/2018 21:02

I used to inject my dollies and could do roll ups so I guess it’s always been my normal .

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SoNotaWendy · 07/07/2018 21:03

Omg addicts child. What awful things to witness.

HollowTalk · 07/07/2018 21:03

Do you have children? If so, who do you use as a parental role model?

ilovetomatoes · 07/07/2018 21:03

So pleased you have broken the cycle and have an amazing son to share your life with

ChristmasTablecloth · 07/07/2018 21:04

What do you do for a living now as an adult?

Have you managed to survive in the sense of going on to live a relatively "normal" life (sorry that's a clumsy question but I don't know how to word it better).

Will you go to your mother's funeral?

SoNotaWendy · 07/07/2018 21:04

Were u removed from them before you thought you would/could take drugs?

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Addictschild · 07/07/2018 21:05

I choose not to see my mum or dad . Last time I saw my mum she was being sent down to prison and was in shackles in the box. That was harsh ..

3 Sinlinfs on my mums side are all ok but we don’t have much of a relationship, two half siblings on my dads side,one now dead from drugs the other was an alcoholic at 21

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SoNotaWendy · 07/07/2018 21:05

I mean, doing something to a doll is like an act of caring.