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Celebrity Nanny here

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AnotherCareerThread · 03/07/2018 20:41

Noticed the trend of career threads recently so thought I'd join in, always get loads of questions when my job comes up on here.

I'm a Nanny/Governess specialising in High Net Worth/ViP families - happy to answer any questions Smile

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0range99 · 08/07/2018 20:07

Fascinating thread, OP at what stage do you get to know who the family is that you would be working for? At initial enquiry or do you just rock up and find that is interviewing you?

lulu12345 · 08/07/2018 20:21

You say you wouldn't use a nanny yourself OP because you've seen too many bad ones... what do you think are the "red flags" that parents should look out for during interviews?

Oliphantintheroom · 08/07/2018 21:03

Marking place, great thread Smile

alphajuliet123 · 11/07/2018 12:01

Excellent thread! Have any of the families you've worked for, excluding Royals, been super famous, ie we'll have all heard of them?

Also, which countries would you love to work in and why?

ColdCottage · 12/07/2018 01:50

What is the most demanding thing a child has asked of you, same question for a parent.

What are your quarters like?

Top 5 gifts you've been given.

Most expensive gift you've been given.

Most OTT gifts parents have given children/most spiky moments.

Thank you.

AnotherCareerThread · 13/07/2018 15:44

Hi! I'm not dead, just had to fly to China for my next placement and have spent the week getting to grips with everything. Will be back to answer Qs asap

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PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 13/07/2018 17:18

Good, thought you’d been rumbled and Novichock’d?

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 13/07/2018 17:51

Op, do your current charges know you are going? Did you resign? How long were you there for?

theredjellybean · 13/07/2018 18:14

You say you don't have any special training or qualifications but the two girls I know working in this area of the sector all have extra skill sets, speak three languages, ski, horse ride, have close protection training, sailing qualification etc etc... They say it is absolutely expected and most jobs specify these things.
I don't doubt you're genuine but how arw you able to get these jobs when the industry standards appear to not match your qualifications?

LostMyBaubles · 13/07/2018 18:49

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Orangepear · 13/07/2018 20:24

What kind of toys do the children have?

NickMyLipple · 13/07/2018 21:38

I have several years of VVIP nannying in my past... I had a paediatric nursing degree, but no other childcare qualifications and I found work extremely easily via the right agencies.

I was only ever once interviewed by the parents - in all of the other placements I was interviewed by the family PA or current nanny although I did get to meet the parents before I started in most cases. One of my jobs I was recruited through word of mouth as an emergency placement as the current nanny had to leave for a family emergency and I started the role (and sole care of the 2 DCs) before I'd even met the parents. The nanny was told to find her replacement, and she did!! I wonder if this sort of practice still happens? I certainly used to come across the same people (though most staff are dispensable and could be gotten rid of at the drop of a hat)

I also only had 2 interviews in the UK - the others were all overseas (I was flown to the destinations). Has this changed much over the years?

AnotherCareerThread · 15/07/2018 13:35

I'm back!
Sorry for the absence, I had to start my new job in China last weekend and with the 13 hour flight and then adjusting to a new time zone and schedule, I've not had much Mumsnet Time.

It's a really sweet family I'm working for, though slightly weird arrangement that I couldn't go into without outing myself.
Beautiful big house in a VERY fancy area, I have a maid which makes me all kinds of uncomfortable (first world problems) and this means that all my laundry is done for me, my bed made in the morning (Blush), my bathroom is cleaned DAILY (who does this?!) and she keeps popping up and helping me with the child as well, she will not take a break at all Sad - she doesn't speak much English but she's been in China for 9 years, she's from Indonesia and she has a 2 year old son who lives with her husband back home Sad she misses him so much but says she has no choice, she has to work and send the money back. She has just signed another 2 year contract. She doesn't get days off. This is a whole other thread...

Chef is super fun, barely speaks a word of English but it doesn't stop him trying and his cooking is top notch, especially the sweet and sour pork. He makes me a minimum of FIVE dishes per meal every single day, despite me trying to tell him that I don't need much food.

Anyway, I'll start answering questions now...

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AnotherCareerThread · 15/07/2018 13:58

do you see say cleaners being badly treated as im guessing they are seen as the lowest employee?

Yes, they are generally treated quite poorly. It varies from just being ignored to be spoken to with disdain. This is one of my least favourite things about my job, having to work alongside such poorly treated staff and not being able to do much about it.

are staff legally employed or do rules get looked oner? Bit of both. Some illegal, some not. Depends on the country and the employer.

do the parents get up in the night if the child wakes/ill? If it's a 24 hour role then no.

Are any of the children in the public eye and do you read articles or look at pictures of them? Are any of your former children famous in their own right now? I've only been a nanny for 10 years, and a high end one for 5 so this hasn't really come to play yet. I doubt I'd see any photos unless they were on Instagram as I don't keep up with celeb stuff Smile

So when you semi retire would you start an agency yourself? Yes, a Nanny friend and I are working on something very specific in this area, though as I'm in China and she's currently in the Middle East - its slow going!

Do any of the your charges friend have normal mums and home life or is it all a bubble. All nannies. Specifically in the high end jobs, its mostly nannies that I've seen. Varying from the "low end" Philipino staff (NOT my opinion but sadly by industry standards) to the "top end" British/Australian staff)

Aretha the dc bedrooms and play room spotless too? Of course. We sterilise all toys daily, for example.

Op are all the homes shoes off, or shoe on.. Shoes off in every home that I can think of

What’s the age of the oldest child you’ve nannied for? 14

I've skimmed through the thread, so sorry if I missed it, but my dd is interested in becoming a celebrity nanny and I'd love to tell her exactly what she needs to study to get the good jobs Feel free to PM me, it really varies person to person. I don't have relevant qualifications, just the right face and voice, but it depends on what age she is and what she's interested in - obviously a child psychology or teaching degree would boost her up the ranks straight away.

Can I ask why the positions are often only short term? Wouldn't the parents want their children to have consistency? Answered up thread somewhere Smile

Have you ever worked for a parent who appeared in Hello or OK magazine, with them spouting about what a hands on mother they were, and you were thinking "what a load of BS, they only see the child for an hour a day? No but I really don't read any magazines so it could have happened. Lots of parents put on a show around others though, so it wouldn't surprise me.

in being so discreet with the RF, is it the possibility of legal action that keeps you schtum, or do you feel (maybe because they’ve put the idea in your head?) a sense of patriotic duty, or loyalty to the RF present and future (ie your charges themselves) to maintain a dignified silence?

There's nothing the RF have on me that could be used against me in court so legal action isn't a concern. I'm not a royalist AT ALL (a whole other thread). I'm staying stum purely because the purpose of this thread wasn't to gossip or talk about specific people, I don't think that would be fair, and thus I'm not happy to narrow down any of my answers to any specific people, if I did I'm sure with a bit of digging someone overinvested could figure out names and that's not fair on anyone.

Doesn’t W&K have Norland nannies? Yes they do and their current Nanny is very lovely and excellent at her job.

Do you speak other languages apart from English? Arabic, French, German and currently learning Mandarin. But I wouldn't describe myself as fluent AT ALL and don't ever use these languages at work (unless trying to communicate with the other staff) and do not put it on my CV or applications.

You say most of the mothers are SAHMs. Is there any difference if the mother is a SAHM or WAHM/WOHM? The one WAHM that I remember was an utter psychopath, but I think that was more her personality than the circumstances. I haven't had enough experience with WAHM to comment properly.

I would like to ask, have you ever been pleasantly surprised by a famous family? Have you met someone who doesn’t deserve the reputation the media might give them? Yes. I can tell you that David Beckham is an absolute darling, he's SO SO lovely and fucking gorgeous, Stella McCartney is also an absolute delight. Dame Diana Rigg is a complete sweetheart (I got to have afternoon tea with her, my best friend almost died when I told her) and David Cameron is really cool. I can name all these people (before anyone starts) because a) I met them on the job, but didn't work directly for them and b) I think its ok if I'm saying nice things? I've met a few horrors but I couldn't say here.

Great thread OP, my question is, are you single? I have a great friend who is a personal chef for VIP and celebs and he's lovely! I'm single! Is he pretty? Is he pretty? Grin Hard to hold down a relationship in this job sadly, and I've had a few horror boyfriends in the past so I'm very wary now.

Fascinating thread, OP at what stage do you get to know who the family is that you would be working for? At initial enquiry or do you just rock up and find that is interviewing you? Both! Mostly finding out before interview but twice I've rocked up to find myself face to face with a Premier League Footballer and his wife and with a Formula 1 driver.

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Ginger1982 · 15/07/2018 14:10

Name change fail OP!

Great thread though!!

AnotherCareerThread · 15/07/2018 14:17

You say you wouldn't use a nanny yourself OP because you've seen too many bad ones... what do you think are the "red flags" that parents should look out for during interviews?

This is a really great question.
First, I would pay really close attention to how interested they are in the child/ren. Are they GENUINELY interested in them, or are they putting on a show? A decent nanny shouldn't care about you, your job, your hobbies etc. only about the children. Always do two interviews (at least), and always do a trial - try before you buy!

Have any of the families you've worked for, excluding Royals, been super famous, ie we'll have all heard of them? Yes. Several.

Also, which countries would you love to work in and why? Hawaii, I don't really know why! Scotland would be awesome. TBH I don't really care where I am at the end of the day, so long as the family are decent.

What is the most demanding thing a child has asked of you, same question for a parent. Child - not a lot. Because I'll say no if its unreasonable and as I haven't done it, I can't remember. Parent...Jesus. Thats a thread in its own right actually it is anyone remember the Swiss Nanny thread? I once had to wash all of my (clean) clothes, ALL of them, twice because they didn't smell of the right detergent and Mum wanted baby to smell only her.

What are your quarters like? Usually nice. Seperate apartment a lot of the time. At the very least a bedroom with ensuite. No horror stories for this one.

Top 5 gifts you've been given. Designer Clothes, Designer Perfume, An iPhone, A car and, not me, but one of my friends got given a Saudi Princess's bed!

Most expensive gift you've been given. The car.

Most OTT gifts parents have given children/most spiky moments. Diamonds. Actual, real diamonds handed to toddlers as presents during Ramadan. FFS, still makes me cross (the dirt poor, 24/7 working maids who earn pennies an hour had to hand them out Angry)

Op, do your current charges know you are going? Did you resign? How long were you there for? No, they thought I was going on holiday. The parents always make me lie. I was made redundant on my last role, through no fault of my own but if I were to explain it'd out me probably. I was there for 7 months.

You say you don't have any special training or qualifications but the two girls I know working in this area of the sector all have extra skill sets, speak three languages, ski, horse ride, have close protection training, sailing qualification etc etc... They say it is absolutely expected and most jobs specify these things.
I don't doubt you're genuine but how arw you able to get these jobs when the industry standards appear to not match your qualifications?

I've been nannying for a fair while so have a good CV behind me, I'm also "very English", with a well spoken accent which I think helps enormously. Without sounding like a complete tit, I present well - I've been told I come across as very intelligent and very calm. I typically don't care about people's status or wealth, and I'm very laid back and I think that comes across at interview. A lot of highly qualified nannies, particularly Norlanders, in my experience come across as cocky, demanding or very rigid/inflexible - and families prefer a calm, laid back personality. I can only speak from my experience though.

Having said that, I'm 26 years old - I have travelled to 22 countries, own 3 businesses, can play the piano, ski and horseride, am a member of Mensa among other things, so I guess this helps. But no actual qualifications beyond A-Levels (not in childcare related subjects), a paediatric first aid and a clean driving license.

I honestly think its down to presentation. And my salary is so high because thats what I expect. People will value you how you value yourself. Do I believe that what I do "deserves" or "earns" £110, £120, £130k? No, not at all. But I expect to get paid that and that "confidence" comes through and puts me in that price bracket. In reality, I think as a person I'm pretty damn worthless, but I'm confident in my knowledge of the industry and my place within it. I hope that makes sense? It's late here and my brain isn't working well.

What kind of toys do the children have? This is generally the same for most families;
Step 1: Go into Harrods
Step 2: Go upstairs to the Toy Kingdom
Step 3: Buy everything. Twice.

We are talking miniature cars. WORKING miniature cars that they can ride in. Lots and lots and lots of crap as well.

I have several years of VVIP nannying in my past... I had a paediatric nursing degree, but no other childcare qualifications and I found work extremely easily via the right agencies.

I was only ever once interviewed by the parents - in all of the other placements I was interviewed by the family PA or current nanny although I did get to meet the parents before I started in most cases. One of my jobs I was recruited through word of mouth as an emergency placement as the current nanny had to leave for a family emergency and I started the role (and sole care of the 2 DCs) before I'd even met the parents. The nanny was told to find her replacement, and she did!! I wonder if this sort of practice still happens? I certainly used to come across the same people (though most staff are dispensable and could be gotten rid of at the drop of a hat)

I also only had 2 interviews in the UK - the others were all overseas (I was flown to the destinations). Has this changed much over the years?

That's exactly my experience of it!

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AnotherCareerThread · 15/07/2018 14:18

NAME CHANGE FAIL Grin Grin

Luckily this is a new name as well.

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theredjellybean · 15/07/2018 15:57

thank you OP for answering all the questions , and i hope i didnt sound rude , actually when you describe your skillset you do have all the right skills i can imagine being sought..ski/riding etc and i also agree that what i know of the industry the intelligent, calm, posh english candidate is very highly sought after.
I met a young lady a few yrs back who was going to a rival nanny college ( not norland) cannot recall what it was called, and she was on holiday learning to drive a power boat cus that apparently was what she would need for 'posh' nannying, she couldn't string a sentence together without saying ' you know like' 20 times..i did want to suggest some elocution and deportment lessons might be better than a power boat licence !

theredjellybean · 15/07/2018 16:10

can i ask another question ?

when you have one of these jobs, are you expected to basically be 'the parent' as in there 24/7 ...what happens when the child is in bed ? i cannot imagine the likes of the byonce or the beckhams then sit watching tv and attend to their child if it wakes and needs a drink or to go to loo ?

if you do work 24/7 when do you get time off ? and what happens then ? do they have teams of nannies ? I know you said one job did and i guess these were fairly absent parents so needed it . Have you ever had a job were you expected to finish in the evening and the parents just weren't around ? were travelling etc and you were left literally holding the baby ? I seem to recall this occurring in one of those nanny diary type books .

AhhhhThatsBass · 16/07/2018 08:01

@CurlyWurlyTwirly
In terms of Kate and William being hands on, one of them or Granny Carole does George's school run most of the time. Mainly William actually. Very friendly and "normal"

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 16/07/2018 08:47

Do you know anyone whose ever nannied for Angelina Jolie’s children? Because that looks as if it could be a demanding job...

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 16/07/2018 08:48

who’s Blush

ColdCottage · 16/07/2018 11:32

Need link to Swiss nanny thread now Grin

QuackPorridgeBacon · 16/07/2018 17:16

Snowcatrunsthehouse Wow that’s awful. My child was in hospital from birth for a long time, also ventilated. I didn’t leave her side for over a week and then I had to, it was horrible and we were up often given the distance and cost, I did get ok with being away but that was more from a mental health point of view I think. I couldn’t have gone shopping etc calmly while a nanny didn’t leave my child’s side. And to put such pressure on the nanny is awful. Was the child and nanny ok?

sparklydust · 16/07/2018 17:57

Place marking!!

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