Er, this is the quote I was replying to which claimed gender did not exist all:
"They still don't understand that a lot of us do not believe in gender at all. It does not exist so it cannot be acquired outside, inside, or both."
And in any case, gender is defined as:
"the socially constructed roles, behaviours , expressions, and identities that a society considers appropriate for men, women, and other gender identities.
Gender identity is simply identifying with these expectations/stereotypes as in recognising a commonality between oneself & stereotypes. So to say its just a desire to be seen a certain way is a very limited superficial understanding.