Feeling inadequate about my body because of the trans ideology

It isn't.

This thread has turned very odd and the change of voice raises big suspicions, but the issue of women being mistaken for men is a real one.

I can see what you both mean re. tone. And yes, potential exploitation of vulnerable groups. We've seen a lot of that recently.

I'd always just rather be sure, and think there's more to be gained that way, long-term, than the other. And it's hard to be sure-sure - even there, I was prepared to wait a while.

But then - you guys were sure from the start, and goodness knows posters have been right to be enough times - and I know you could easily argue the opposite about pros and cons too, so 🤷‍♀️.

It's such a pity we have to think this way.

Whatever, though - the great and telling thing is, almost every single thread here becomes a pretty damn excellent argument for a need for GC feminism, whichever way it unravels (word chosen informedly, with an eye on many such!)

I agree that it's a pity. It really is .

But I won't sit back and see women genuinely pour their hearts out when I think the person prompting that has bad intentions.

I really like your posts and your outlook, so I hope you see this as it is intentioned.

What, by their mum? Once? Presumably their mum knows she had a female child.

The thread was odd and ridiculous from the beginning tbh. It was always pretty unlikely that a only somewhat tall woman with body hair (which we basically all have) and breasts which she's presumably not whipping out on the tube for closer inspection of their shape is actually being mistaken for a trans woman. And any paranoia about feeling like a man despite having what sounds like a completely unremarkable female body is much more likely to be due to personal mental health issues than to the "trans ideology".

I didn't say anything about mothers or trans in the post you quoted.

It's that trans activists don't see biological sex as immutable reality. And while i hold gender critical beliefs, i still have thoughts "what if it isn't true? What if anyone can be a woman if they identify as such? What if I'm old fashioned and just believe something that will be outdated in several decades". That implies that there are no differences between men and women. That my biological sex is just something that doesn't matter. Sure, it's not the most important thing in my life, but being a woman is still a part of me. And someone blurring something that's actually a part of me or making it optional makes me feel distressed. What makes me feel even more distressed is that certain feautures are similar to those trans women have. I was just expressing my emotions and was curious if anyone had this feeling.

Mmmhmmm.

Please could you really tell me what's wrong? Genuinely? Call me a pervert, a transphobe, a man lurking. Just tell me. I'll leave because i see i can't prove that my English sucks and i want to be a mom.

What, by their mum? Once? Presumably their mum knows she had a female child.

The thread was odd and ridiculous from the beginning tbh. It was always pretty unlikely that a only somewhat tall woman with body hair (which we basically all have) and breasts which she's presumably not whipping out on the tube for closer inspection of their shape is actually being mistaken for a trans woman. And any paranoia about feeling like a man despite having what sounds like a completely unremarkable female body is much more likely to be due to personal mental health issues than to the "trans ideology".

Just a minute. I posted my experience, which I've related on here before. Other women shared their differently relevant experiences. My best friend in the 1990s was frequently addressed as Sir by waiters, etc - I was there - for no better reason than she wore short hair and trouser suits. (No women made this mistake, btw; men often did.)

It's not really on to invalidate the issue as odd and ridiculous. We're telling you it's not.

I try to answer posts in a spirit of cautious good faith. I observe others doing the same. I agree it'd be wise for OP to get some support with her self-esteem.

Just a minute. I posted my experience, which I've related on here before. Other women shared their differently relevant experiences. My best friend in the 1990s was frequently addressed as Sir by waiters, etc - I was there - for no better reason than she wore short hair and trouser suits. (No women made this mistake, btw; men often did.)

It's not really on to invalidate the issue as odd and ridiculous. We're telling you it's not.

I try to answer posts in a spirit of cautious good faith. I observe others doing the same. I agree it'd be wise for OP to get some support with her self-esteem.

Please could you really tell me what's wrong? Genuinely? Call me a pervert, a transphobe, a man lurking. Just tell me. I'll leave because i see i can't prove that my English sucks and i want to be a mom.

I would (genuinely and respectfully) advise you that you should be discerning about which posts on this topic you decide to respond to.

(And as an aside, someone being referred to as Sir because men erroneously think they're a man because they have short hair and are wearing "male" clothing isn't, as far as I can see, really related to an [alleged] concern that a woman is being confused with a transwoman - is it?)

Why? What terrible things will befall me as a result of offering a little possible support to people - OPs or lurkers - on issues I can empathise with?

Short hair. Yep. Suits. Yep. Tuberous breasts?

It's that trans activists don't see biological sex as immutable reality. And while i hold gender critical beliefs, i still have thoughts "what if it isn't true? What if anyone can be a woman if they identify as such? What if I'm old fashioned and just believe something that will be outdated in several decades". That implies that there are no differences between men and women. That my biological sex is just something that doesn't matter. Sure, it's not the most important thing in my life, but being a woman is still a part of me. And someone blurring something that's actually a part of me or making it optional makes me feel distressed. What makes me feel even more distressed is that certain feautures are similar to those trans women have. I was just expressing my emotions and was curious if anyone had this feeling.

Short hair. Yep. Suits. Yep. Tuberous breasts?

And being 5ft 8... 🙄