‘Woman’ missing in Southampton

The person saying he is probably wearing 'trad female clothes' is a TRA.

So maybe have a pop at them?

I thought it must be time to be scolded. Like clockwork.

Remember the one a few years ago, police appealing for information regarding missing woman, who sometimes dresses as a man, with a cctv picture of a very obvious man.
I hope this person turns up safe and sound.

Or perhaps they'll be looking for the person identified in the picture? Generally that's how it goes when someone is missing. Or do you think people ignore the picture and start looking for any woman?

Quite.

Calling him a bloke in a dress isn’t ’being judgmental’, it’s just stating facts. He is a bloke, wearing a dress. If facts offend you then that’s a you problem.

I would assume that the police have more knowledge about the situation and perhaps this person is very vulnerable. Maybe by describing him as a woman will calm his brain. The important thing is he is found safely not how he is described so I'm all for anything that will bring them back safely

Has anyone seen this cat?

Not so. People can go missing in minutes. Especially vulnerable people (albeit more likely to be urgent in the case of a young child or very elderly person obv ).

Spare me the emotional blackmail and cry bullying, you're shamelessly exploiting the situation to pontificate, yet again, on your hobbyhorse. It's your concern that's fake, you're using it as a cover to spread hate and justify criminal behaviour.

Other posters have raised legitimate concerns about this man being called a women, if the police are asking the public to help them find him, they should make it clear they're looking for a him. The fact that you can't recognise that as genuine concern is because you're not capable of such an emotion.

@TransParentlyAnnoyed
Have you stopped to think about the damage this may do to her mental health?
Funny how the mental health of women is never taken into account when men want to use their showers and changing facilities.
Or wish to be placed in the female part of the prison estate.
Or... (it's a long list)

I hope this person is found safe and well, and gets the care he needs.

Those two things - not wanting men in women's spaces, and wanting a missing person to turn up - are not mutually exclusive.

It's a counterfactual narrative, who knows if this person had not been fed lies, he wouldn't be under the mistaken impression he was a woman and if his real mental health issues had been addressed he might not be missing now.
Join the dots.

I hope this man is found safe and well.

It must be awful to go through life in a way that leads you to think like this.

Hopefully Sam will turn up and get the mental health support he so clearly needs.

Translation - I don't have a good comeback, it must be exhausting to deflect this hard when you disagree with someone.

The whole appeal is odd. 3 days isn't a long time for an adult to go off by themselves, and the police appeals don't seem to say anything about vulnerability, though that obviously may be the case. Also no mention of family or friends worried for them, or very much information about where they may be/what they may be doing.

I agree that it is unhelpful and counterproductive to call a man a woman, when the pictures leave no doubt at all. It just seems very odd to make a police appeal that offers little clarity, and potentially makes the person missing vulnerable to even more distress caused by all the online discussion that it prompts.

Two things.

What is wrong with calling yourself a transwoman if that is how you identify? What is wrong with owning that fact instead of the pretence that you are a woman?

Then we get this ridiculous situation describing an obvious male as a woman when the use of the word transwoman would say it all.

Internalised transphobia. It’s rife.

The appeal has changed to missing adult on Facebook. I can see why they have used woman, but it really isn't helpful. I hope Samantha is found safe and well.

Most missing person news I hear about is on my local radio station as I am driving to and from work. If the description of a missing person doesn’t work for radio, it doesn’t work at all.

Where's the missing woman's pictures? 😆

Where a missing person has severe MH issues eg may harm themselves or is a danger to others anyone who spots them are told to ring 999 . So that may be the case here.

It helps no one, including the missing person to call him a woman. 'Person' is too vague, man or 'man who Ids as a woman, wearing....'- is more accurate and helpful. They need to find him, not virtue signal. His safety is more important. And yes, descriptions need to work on radio too.