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Trans sibling in law

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Primrose86 · 12/06/2025 18:40

DH's sibling has just come out as a man. She is 26 and autistic, lives at home with mum, spends life on the Internet, got kicked out of school at 16 etc etc She has plans to go overseas and transition in germany where apparently you can get surgeries on the public health system while living with her grandpa. Her mum is fully supportive of this.

How should I react to all this. Should I start referring to him as my brother in law? What usually happens after people come out. I assume they progress to hormones and surgery but honestly based on what I read, Germany is quite resistant to health tourists who never paid in even if they are citizens. Are people really happy identifying as another gender when they wouldn't look like the other gender?

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TheKeatingFive · 14/06/2025 09:41

AidaP · 14/06/2025 09:39

I am not here to sell it, to quote Falkner few weeks ago when she was still trying to actively miss-sell her "interim guidance" as law (a position she has since retreated due to amount of lawsuits EHRC is now facing as a result): the law is clear, now everyone should just follow it.

GRC is law, you may not like it but it is.

GRC is law, you may not like it but it is

But not relevant to sex classifications in the law.

Next

AidaP · 14/06/2025 09:39

Merrymouse · 14/06/2025 09:37

There is of course an issue that it's entirely unenforceable in practice. As per GRA you can only ask about GRC status in exceptional circumstances, it cannot be a routine thing (we literally had judgement in ECHR handed down on that on issue on Wedsnday, in T.H. v. THE CZECH REPUBLIC it finds that doing so violated Article 8 of human rights) and without that, as per even EHRC Falkner's admission on tuesday in front of WEC this type of segregation cannot be enforced.

You aren't really selling the concept of a GRC here.

You seem to be explaining why they infringe on other people's human rights.

I am not here to sell it, to quote Falkner few weeks ago when she was still trying to actively miss-sell her "interim guidance" as law (a position she has since retreated due to amount of lawsuits EHRC is now facing as a result): the law is clear, now everyone should just follow it.

GRC is law, you may not like it but it is.

Merrymouse · 14/06/2025 09:37

AidaP · 14/06/2025 09:03

Not at all, the judgement absolutely removed rights from us as the change is on definition of what counts as sex/gender in this act, and the FWS specifically reworded it in a way that means possessing a GRA no longer applies. Which means where previously trans person with a GRA could access single sex services just fine, now they cannot, that is a direct loss of rights.

There is of course an issue that it's entirely unenforceable in practice. As per GRA you can only ask about GRC status in exceptional circumstances, it cannot be a routine thing (we literally had judgement in ECHR handed down on that on issue on Wedsnday, in T.H. v. THE CZECH REPUBLIC it finds that doing so violated Article 8 of human rights) and without that, as per even EHRC Falkner's admission on tuesday in front of WEC this type of segregation cannot be enforced.

Maybe worth a small reminder that updating gender marker on almost all documents in the UK, passport included does not require a GRC, and that came from another judgement as UK refused to make GRC process less annoying, so instead made changing of the document markers easier.

There is of course an issue that it's entirely unenforceable in practice. As per GRA you can only ask about GRC status in exceptional circumstances, it cannot be a routine thing (we literally had judgement in ECHR handed down on that on issue on Wedsnday, in T.H. v. THE CZECH REPUBLIC it finds that doing so violated Article 8 of human rights) and without that, as per even EHRC Falkner's admission on tuesday in front of WEC this type of segregation cannot be enforced.

You aren't really selling the concept of a GRC here.

You seem to be explaining why they infringe on other people's human rights.

Myalternate · 14/06/2025 09:34

Out of this topic again, keep the uneducated sabre waving going!

Don’t forget to leave it behind when you go then.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/06/2025 09:31

That Committee has been anti women’s rights on this matter for almost a decade. It’s quite funny to see people noticing it for the first time. Caroline Nokes and Maria Miller were the previous two Chairs. Craven and devoted to men’s rights.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/06/2025 09:26

The WEC are (with a couple of exceptions) a bunch of halfwits with little real power. The Chair didn’t even understand what the ruling applies to. I know it’s gone down very well in trans land to see them bullying Falkner in such an unprofessional way but it’s a mistake to put any faith into them saving the day. Or Jolyon Maugham.

Igneococcus · 14/06/2025 09:24

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/06/2025 09:23

Aida has mentioned both.

True

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/06/2025 09:23

Aida has mentioned both.

RedToothBrush · 14/06/2025 09:22

AidaP · 14/06/2025 09:10

> But if they are labelled as sex segregated (using the Equality act permitted exemptions to allow discrimination on the basis of sex) then this has to be on the basis of biological sex (as confirmed by the recent Supreme Court ruling).

I will ask my learned colleague to provide on which paragraph of FWS they rely on for this I cannot find it, and I've read it too many times. And the link of application to Workplace 92, which I assume you rely on, is not tested in court, it's possible (and I did caveat that in) but far from a given.

You may be confusing it with EHRC "interim guidance" which is not law (Falkner own admission on Tuesday WEC hearing if you need a source), it's far far away from the law: first finish consultation, deal with lawsuits (I know of 3), present a bill, have it voted through parliament and so on, 6 months+ at the very least.

And I never thought I will have my English as 3rd language throw in my face, or the fact that I learned and practiced it mostly in context of USA. But ah well, what can you do with a strong argument like that.

The fact WEC referred to the supreme court ruling as an 'interim ruling' and the Baroness stated that regardless of whatever advice the EHRC give, the law is still the law seems to escape you

The Baroness also made the point that if the EHRC hadn't given advice immediately it would have been criticised.

The Supreme Court Ruling was explicit in saying that anything described as single sex MUST be single sex not gender.

A consultation period for the EHRC advise will not change the paragraph in the the Supreme Court's (final) ruling.

Igneococcus · 14/06/2025 09:22

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/06/2025 09:19

And no one thinks the EHRC guidance is the actual law. It’s important though, as it sets expectations for organisations who want to create a female only space, which in itself is generally not obligatory. But when you do, as most women expect, it must be actually female only.

I think Aida is talking about the ECHR, otherwise there'd be no reason to mention the Czech Republic (or Czechia as it is more commonly known these days)

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/06/2025 09:19

And no one thinks the EHRC guidance is the actual law. It’s important though, as it sets expectations for organisations who want to create a female only space, which in itself is generally not obligatory. But when you do, as most women expect, it must be actually female only.

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 14/06/2025 09:17

I also did not read the thread and do not plan, just looked at the last few posts, but I am sure it's filled with lies how "everyone detransitions" (rate below 1% in every single study/survey ever conducted, with 80%+ reason for it being lack of acceptance [that's even in cass report]), "no one is happy with medical transition" (98% satisfaction with HRT on 44k people cohort survey, 99% with surgeries on 14k cohort) and all the other bollocks to justify why trans people do not deserve to be treated as people and have their law-given laws respected. Especially when some twitter told them that the law never protected trans people or let them change sex anyway (which is probably why the law let me change my sex marker everywhere, including on medical records, just fine).

Out of this topic again, keep the uneducated sabre waving going!

youve not read the thread so you have no leg to stand on with regard to ‘uneducated’

and if you had read the thread you’d realise that your last paragraph is complete rubbish

(thats not to say your other paragraphs aren’t rubbish…)

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/06/2025 09:16

FWS are a feminist campaign group. The Supreme Court made the ruling. The poster seems confused.

RedToothBrush · 14/06/2025 09:16

Igneococcus · 14/06/2025 08:54

So, all the TRAs wailing that this judgement has taken rights from trans people are talking nonsense then?

Edited

In a word. Yes.

They never legally had some of these 'rights' in the first place.

Igneococcus · 14/06/2025 09:15

AidaP · 14/06/2025 09:03

Not at all, the judgement absolutely removed rights from us as the change is on definition of what counts as sex/gender in this act, and the FWS specifically reworded it in a way that means possessing a GRA no longer applies. Which means where previously trans person with a GRA could access single sex services just fine, now they cannot, that is a direct loss of rights.

There is of course an issue that it's entirely unenforceable in practice. As per GRA you can only ask about GRC status in exceptional circumstances, it cannot be a routine thing (we literally had judgement in ECHR handed down on that on issue on Wedsnday, in T.H. v. THE CZECH REPUBLIC it finds that doing so violated Article 8 of human rights) and without that, as per even EHRC Falkner's admission on tuesday in front of WEC this type of segregation cannot be enforced.

Maybe worth a small reminder that updating gender marker on almost all documents in the UK, passport included does not require a GRC, and that came from another judgement as UK refused to make GRC process less annoying, so instead made changing of the document markers easier.

But if the SC judgment has only clarified what the people who wrote the law meant when they used the term "sex" (biological sex) then people with a GRA never had that right in the first place.
Maybe don't try to base laws on lies in the first place and then all this wouldn't have been necessary.
I also don't think FWS reworded any laws.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 14/06/2025 09:13

AidaP · 14/06/2025 09:10

> But if they are labelled as sex segregated (using the Equality act permitted exemptions to allow discrimination on the basis of sex) then this has to be on the basis of biological sex (as confirmed by the recent Supreme Court ruling).

I will ask my learned colleague to provide on which paragraph of FWS they rely on for this I cannot find it, and I've read it too many times. And the link of application to Workplace 92, which I assume you rely on, is not tested in court, it's possible (and I did caveat that in) but far from a given.

You may be confusing it with EHRC "interim guidance" which is not law (Falkner own admission on Tuesday WEC hearing if you need a source), it's far far away from the law: first finish consultation, deal with lawsuits (I know of 3), present a bill, have it voted through parliament and so on, 6 months+ at the very least.

And I never thought I will have my English as 3rd language throw in my face, or the fact that I learned and practiced it mostly in context of USA. But ah well, what can you do with a strong argument like that.

If English is your third language and you mainly learned it in the US, how did you come to qualify as a solicitor or a barrister in the UK?

And in case you missed my earlier question, which one are you? A solicitor? Or a barrister? If you are either of these things you will know that there is a big difference between the two.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/06/2025 09:13

AidaP · 14/06/2025 09:03

Not at all, the judgement absolutely removed rights from us as the change is on definition of what counts as sex/gender in this act, and the FWS specifically reworded it in a way that means possessing a GRA no longer applies. Which means where previously trans person with a GRA could access single sex services just fine, now they cannot, that is a direct loss of rights.

There is of course an issue that it's entirely unenforceable in practice. As per GRA you can only ask about GRC status in exceptional circumstances, it cannot be a routine thing (we literally had judgement in ECHR handed down on that on issue on Wedsnday, in T.H. v. THE CZECH REPUBLIC it finds that doing so violated Article 8 of human rights) and without that, as per even EHRC Falkner's admission on tuesday in front of WEC this type of segregation cannot be enforced.

Maybe worth a small reminder that updating gender marker on almost all documents in the UK, passport included does not require a GRC, and that came from another judgement as UK refused to make GRC process less annoying, so instead made changing of the document markers easier.

It’s never been enforceable what toilet people use. This isn’t a new thing. It isn’t a matter of law, it’s a matter of respecting women and girls. Decent men do. No men belong in women’s spaces. It’s a matter of “trans women” following the same rules as all other men.

AidaP · 14/06/2025 09:10

nutmeg7 · 14/06/2025 09:00

Toilets/changing rooms in a shop or restaurant sports facility etc do not have to be sex segregated by law, except for staff.

But if they are labelled as sex segregated (using the Equality act permitted exemptions to allow discrimination on the basis of sex) then this has to be on the basis of biological sex (as confirmed by the recent Supreme Court ruling).

It was clear that this labelling can be symbols, or words such as man/woman ladies/gentlemen or male/female, or any similar proxy.

It remains to be seen whether businesses choose to continue sex segregating their public toilets, or move en masse to
mixed sex facilities and risk taking a financial hit from people avoiding those businesses and taking their custom elsewhere. Or wait for someone to sue for indirect discrimination against females as they are at most risk of assault or intrusive filming in shared facilities.

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> But if they are labelled as sex segregated (using the Equality act permitted exemptions to allow discrimination on the basis of sex) then this has to be on the basis of biological sex (as confirmed by the recent Supreme Court ruling).

I will ask my learned colleague to provide on which paragraph of FWS they rely on for this I cannot find it, and I've read it too many times. And the link of application to Workplace 92, which I assume you rely on, is not tested in court, it's possible (and I did caveat that in) but far from a given.

You may be confusing it with EHRC "interim guidance" which is not law (Falkner own admission on Tuesday WEC hearing if you need a source), it's far far away from the law: first finish consultation, deal with lawsuits (I know of 3), present a bill, have it voted through parliament and so on, 6 months+ at the very least.

And I never thought I will have my English as 3rd language throw in my face, or the fact that I learned and practiced it mostly in context of USA. But ah well, what can you do with a strong argument like that.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 14/06/2025 09:08

AidaP · 14/06/2025 01:24

Incorrect, you are making up terms based on no idea what, definitely not law, and especially not UK law which in it's wide body uses terms sex and gender interchangeably. FWS 2025 is first time there is attempt at some weird unity, but that only applies in scope of EqA 2010 (which means access to single sex SERVICES only, nothing else) until some court or legislation says otherwise.

What you are presenting is exactly the view had in late 90's after section 28 was abolished, where sure people can be "trans" but people can also just decide to ignore it and there was no legal protection against harassment that comes out of it. That's what was decided in Goodwin 2002 (and later affirmed in cases since) as not acceptable.

It even notes that while this change of sex may be an inconvenience to some of the population, the balance of right of the minor incontinentie for small segment of population vs inability to exist in dignity for transgender people is not proportionate, and thus decided that this must be protected under article 8. Because that's how you balance competing laws, take what one side gains, see what other maybe looses, and weight them together.

This is for example how we arrived at sometimes having to suffer a walk across long accessibility ramp instead of just 5 tall steps where there is no space to put both in, because for able people it's a minor inconvenience vs inability to participate for people with limited mobility.

So while you can still not believe in transgender people and their ability to change sex, just as you do not have to believe in nutrients or even human rights of any sort, acting on it by, for example, intentionally misgendering transgender people in the uk in public life context can be a hate crime, and unlawful harassment in the workplace and direct discrimination. Context and particulars matter of course and particulars, but if you know someone is transgender, and you intentionally misgender them while knowing well they do not invite it, you are almost certainly breaching the law.

It's almost like law is more complicated than a soundbite.

You are telling me that I cannot refer to my son as my son, and that if I do so I am breaking the law. You'd better report me to the Police, then. I am not prepared to deny my son, whom I have loved since his birth. As a matter of pure fact, he is not my daughter. All actual evidence says he is male; only his inner feelings say anything else. Do you accept that if his "identity" trumps facts, that means that my identity as the father of a son is violated, and my wife's identity as the mother of a son is violated? Why do you want to deny our existence?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 14/06/2025 09:07

AidaP · 14/06/2025 09:03

Not at all, the judgement absolutely removed rights from us as the change is on definition of what counts as sex/gender in this act, and the FWS specifically reworded it in a way that means possessing a GRA no longer applies. Which means where previously trans person with a GRA could access single sex services just fine, now they cannot, that is a direct loss of rights.

There is of course an issue that it's entirely unenforceable in practice. As per GRA you can only ask about GRC status in exceptional circumstances, it cannot be a routine thing (we literally had judgement in ECHR handed down on that on issue on Wedsnday, in T.H. v. THE CZECH REPUBLIC it finds that doing so violated Article 8 of human rights) and without that, as per even EHRC Falkner's admission on tuesday in front of WEC this type of segregation cannot be enforced.

Maybe worth a small reminder that updating gender marker on almost all documents in the UK, passport included does not require a GRC, and that came from another judgement as UK refused to make GRC process less annoying, so instead made changing of the document markers easier.

The judgment didn't remove any rights. Judges can't remove rights which parliament has granted to people in legislation.

What the judgment in fact did is confirmed that the legislation intended sex to mean biological sex and not legal sex, and that some people have been incorrectly applying the law for the last 15 years.

I would expect a solicitor or barrister to understand how these things work, to be honest.

RareGoalsVerge · 14/06/2025 09:05

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 14/06/2025 08:22

Are you a solicitor or a barrister, @AidaP?

@AidaP certainly knows very little about uk law, having entirely falsely asserted bathrooms and changing rooms in the UK are in no way gendered, with exception of those as a part of defined single sex services (which there are only few hundreds of across the entire UK at the very most) - this isn't remotely true.

The law specifically requires single sex lavatories and changing rooms in schools for pupils. Nb we don't call rooms with a toilet but no bath "bathrooms" in the UK which might give a clue as to why @AidaP doesn't know much. In all work places any communal/cubicle type lavatories and changing rooms for employees are legally required to be single sex, although unisex single-occupancy rooms with floor to ceiling enclosure and no communal aspect (eg no separate communal handwashing) is acceptable if there isn't room for or sufficient personnel to warrant larger single sex rooms. Other facilities that aren't schools or facilities for employees are governed by Building Regulations Document T (which also covers many other requirements) for all new buildings. This requires that "toilet accommodation in non-residential buildings is to be separate single-sex toilets, with single-sex shared or individual hand-washing facilities. Unisex toilets can be provided in addition to single-sex provision where space allows." - older buildings that don't already meet this standard are not required to build new facilities to meet the Document T standard if they were built to meet whatever regulations were in place at the time they were built, but they are not allowed to downgrade their provision to be further removed from current Document T requirements.

AidaP · 14/06/2025 09:03

Igneococcus · 14/06/2025 08:54

So, all the TRAs wailing that this judgement has taken rights from trans people are talking nonsense then?

Edited

Not at all, the judgement absolutely removed rights from us as the change is on definition of what counts as sex/gender in this act, and the FWS specifically reworded it in a way that means possessing a GRA no longer applies. Which means where previously trans person with a GRA could access single sex services just fine, now they cannot, that is a direct loss of rights.

There is of course an issue that it's entirely unenforceable in practice. As per GRA you can only ask about GRC status in exceptional circumstances, it cannot be a routine thing (we literally had judgement in ECHR handed down on that on issue on Wedsnday, in T.H. v. THE CZECH REPUBLIC it finds that doing so violated Article 8 of human rights) and without that, as per even EHRC Falkner's admission on tuesday in front of WEC this type of segregation cannot be enforced.

Maybe worth a small reminder that updating gender marker on almost all documents in the UK, passport included does not require a GRC, and that came from another judgement as UK refused to make GRC process less annoying, so instead made changing of the document markers easier.

nutmeg7 · 14/06/2025 09:02

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 14/06/2025 08:59

Excuse my scepticism but I've never come across a UK qualified solicitor or barrister who writes in American English.

Well quite.
“Fully qualified” no less!

nutmeg7 · 14/06/2025 09:00

AidaP · 14/06/2025 08:47

Yes - fully trained, not practicing as I got a better career.

And to the other misinformation like schools, this is where again knowing law comes handy, yes schools usually are required to provide single sex bathroom and changing rooms, but that once again is not part of EqA.

And for the other person yelling "but the judgement" please point out by which act of parliament do you think bathroom in a public place, like a store, is sex segregated (hint: does not exist, uk has bathrooms wild west with exceptions of specific acts, like Workplace 92 and few other acts providing some more definition for places like schools).

Toilets/changing rooms in a shop or restaurant sports facility etc do not have to be sex segregated by law, except for staff.

But if they are labelled as sex segregated (using the Equality act permitted exemptions to allow discrimination on the basis of sex) then this has to be on the basis of biological sex (as confirmed by the recent Supreme Court ruling).

It was clear that this labelling can be symbols, or words such as man/woman ladies/gentlemen or male/female, or any similar proxy.

It remains to be seen whether businesses choose to continue sex segregating their public toilets, or move en masse to
mixed sex facilities and risk taking a financial hit from people avoiding those businesses and taking their custom elsewhere. Or wait for someone to sue for indirect discrimination against females as they are at most risk of assault or intrusive filming in shared facilities.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 14/06/2025 08:59

Excuse my scepticism but I've never come across a UK qualified solicitor or barrister who writes in American English.

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