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I think I'm becoming transphobic

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MyGhastIsFlabbered · 25/02/2025 08:16

I feel unpleasant writing this but I need to put it down somewhere. I know trans people, I have no problem with them and I've always said TWAW. But recently, especially in light of the Sandie Pegge, Beth Upton case my views are changing. I don't have a problem with people wearing what they want, I'm even fine with pronouns.

But I'm starting to believe that you cannot change sex. All the surgery and hormones in the world will not make you a woman. Saying 'I'm a woman' doesn't make it so.

What's worse is that my 15 year old stepdaughter is identifying as male and I just find myself getting so frustrated whenever they refer to themselves as 'a dude'.

Am I transphobic or just realistic? How can I come to terms with my feelings as they are evolving?

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NotbloodyGivingupYet · 25/02/2025 08:24

Well yes. According to the loudest voices, you are now a terf. This was how I found out that I'm one.
I naively thought that wanting everyone to be safe to be who they want, wear what they want, not get beaten up in the street for looking different, and have safe spaces meant that I was on the side of trans people.
Turns out that wanting the same safety for women too meant that I'm a trans-hating witch.
Who knew!

Withoutuse · 25/02/2025 08:22

Well woman is a sex, not an identity, and no one can change sex.

Many of us used to be where you were. Then you start to realise the real world implications of TWAW, and you start to think, ‘hey, hang on’.

If only Stonewall et al had focused on getting men to accept TW in their spaces, all of this could have been avoided…

Crouton19 · 25/02/2025 08:22

Not all trans people believe in gender identities. Not believing in GI does not make you transphobic. I don't believe in any God but still get on fine with religious friends. That word is used and overused to guilt trip people into shutting up about their concerns.

SleepDeprivedButAlive · 25/02/2025 08:20

Don't let them tell you you're transphobic. You don't hate trans people. You want equal rights for trans people. You want trans people to live with the same respect and dignity as anyone else however they identify or present themselves to the world.

But you're damn right they can't change sex.

ThePeppyMoose · 25/02/2025 08:20

Transwomen aren't women, they're men. Thats not transphobic.

You won't be the only person to be peaked by the Sandie Peggie case. Every day the number of people supporting trans rights over women's rights shrinks, this is a good thing, not a bad thing.

CissOff · 25/02/2025 08:18

First response nails it.

You’re a sex realist. Humans can’t change sex.

Distantview · 25/02/2025 08:18

You're pro-women's safety, privacy and dignity, not transphobic. They're different things.

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