the reality is, of course, that if there are honestly trans men (trans identified women) who actually look like men, and they are in a crowd who has no idea - they will easily be able to continue to use the men's. I am not comfortable with this.
If we know that the only people using women's toilets are actual born women, then I'm ok with trans men using them too. Even those who look like, say, Buck Angel.
But yeah - if they can't use public facilities because of this? they are going to find their lives restricted. In the interests of utilitarianism, i prefer that a few trans men, or trans women, have their activities curtailed than have the vast majority of the population have to accept mixed sex toilets.
A pp asked if this is the outcome we wanted, that people who transitioned 30 years ago and have been living their lives quietly since then, are now greatly restricted.
In a word: no. I didn't
But they should have taken that up with the TRAs who pushed and pushed and made the whole issue so ridiculous that this was always going to happen. Willoughby, Bridges and the ridiculous Sophie-Molly. Thank them. Not us.