"My Husband Tried to BECOME Me" - Heretics Interview with Trans Widow

That was six years ago I'd be surprised if he still does.

Fionne Orlander uses the mens Why can't BW? https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/3385912-fionne-orlander updated to add link

I think AG is seeing blair whites boobs and just assumes our bodies are the same. He wouldnt clock white in a supermarket, so we should be comfortable with him in our space?

Or is it that he would be uncomfortable with blair in his space, so he pushes him into woman spaces?

The thing is, even if you knew for certain that a man wasn't a danger, most of the time you still don't want to disrobe around him.

My son's friends? My father-in-law? All delightful. No way do I want to share a changing room with them.

To be honest, i dont think AG has thought about this for long or too deeply. He can see childhood trans as a cult of sorts, the middle aged non passing men as a fetish, but womens criticism of the happy trans person?

I dont think hes really thought about how we would be able to compromise with the blair whites and exclude middle aged fetishists. Where is the line?

Conveniently for him, hes given the job to women to sort out.

Over the years, every single man who wants into women's spaces justifies it on the basis of his own personal criteria.

Debbie Hayton, because he's honest about his fetish. Tara Hudson, because men will beat him up. GRC holders, because they've got the Lady Ticket. The late Jan Morris, because he transitioned soo long ago. People like India Willoughby and Robin White, because they imagine they pass.

They've all got their own story, and it's the only one that counts. And now Blair White, because Blair makes capital out of pretending what he's doing isn't sexist. It's the opposite, apparently!

And the people whose space it is, the women, don't get a say.

It is, and deeply disrespectful of your experience.

That he thinks it's trans widows job to facilitate that is bizarre.

He's very late to the party to be throwing his weight around. Plus ça change.

The idea that women should work with men who AG sees as not extreme is madness because no man is going to listen to terfs and moderate his behaviour. And this moderate behaviour is still damaging to woman, even if AG doesn’t think it is.

What he doesn't realise is that these men despise women too. Or maybe he doesn't care.

Its women having to justify boundaries because a series of men find different reasons to remove those boundaries

This is the tale of the trans widow that I've been telling for a long time.

Now you come to mention it:

1. Women are responsible for what men do.

1. Women speaking for themselves are exclusionary and selfish.

1. Women’s opinions are violence against men, thus male violence against women is justified.

1. Men are whatever men say they are and women are whatever men say they are.

10. The worst thing about male violence is that it makes men look bad.

11. Women have all the rights they need: The right to remain silent.

12. Men are the default human. Women are strange subhuman others.

13. Everyone owns and controls women’s bodies except the women themselves.

Its women having to justify boundaries because a series of men find different reasons to remove those boundaries.

Women who critise TRA are seen as toxic, even within GC, women who maintain safeguarding are regarded as unreasonable, to say the least.

The idea that women should work with men who AG sees as not extreme is madness because no man is going to listen to terfs and moderate his behaviour. And this moderate behaviour is still damaging to woman, even if AG doesn’t think it is.

"Meet me in the middle says the unjust man"

Andrew thinks women holding the line might serve to radicalise trans-identifying men.

It's our exes who radicalise us, not the other way around.

Andrew thinks women holding the line might serve to radicalise trans-identifying men.

'Don't make me angry, you wouldn't like me when I'm angry'.

He approached me wanting to interview a UK based trans widow, who was articulate. I said I wasn't comfortable with auditioning abuse survivors based on articulacy and sent him away with lots of homework.

He can fuck off with that.

Andrew Gold thinks women need to accept help from trans-identifying men who accept that they have a fetish and/ or accept they are biologically male.

Andrew thinks women holding the line might serve to radicalise trans-identifying men.

So women have to put up with men who are already radicalised to prevent their radicalisation?

Is Andrew dim?

And now you're getting another entitled, sexist man who doesn't care about women's consent, telling women that yet more entitled, sexist men but this time with a misogynistic fetish, can help them

You can see why when AG approached me, we didn't hit it off. I'm glad Tracy has done it though.

I've never quite understood why some people think Blair White should get a pass. Entitled, sexist man, who don't care about women's consent.

And now you're getting another entitled, sexist man who doesn't care about women's consent, telling women that yet more entitled, sexist men but this time with a misogynistic fetish, can help them!

'Sex mimic' is a new term, it makes sense, says exactly what it is on the tin.