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Women with alopecia harassed in woman's toilets at airport

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Christinapple · 13/10/2024 15:03

https://x.com/lindSAYhanNAH3/status/1844696180887794159

I've said it several times, the gender critical movement harms all women. Any women who doesn't meet the criteria of what a woman "should look like" is at risk of being wrongly accused of being trans.

Also makes me wonder about that other thread about FWSSport. If a woman with alopecia plays sport with other women are people who are gender critical going to mistake her as a man and report her to FWSSport who will store data on her?

Women with alopecia harassed in woman's toilets at airport
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Snowypeaks · 15/10/2024 13:11

DustyAmuseAlien · 15/10/2024 12:58

What I don't get is why the shouty woman in the story is being called "gender critical". People who are gender critical know that there is no clothing or hairstyle or behaviour that affects whether someone is male or female. Bald women witn alopecia, hirsute women with Polycysric Ovary Syndrome, butch lesbians etc etc are all just as much women and there are no standards or criteria of what a woman "should look like". Any such standards or criteria eould be sexism, which we reject. Which is why there's nothing a man can do to become accepted as female.

A woman who challenges another woman for not being feminine enough to use female facilities is not Gender Critical.

People often say GC when what they mean is sex realist.

Although as others have said, it sounds like this particular woman was just being an utter arse.

DustyAmuseAlien · 15/10/2024 12:58

What I don't get is why the shouty woman in the story is being called "gender critical". People who are gender critical know that there is no clothing or hairstyle or behaviour that affects whether someone is male or female. Bald women witn alopecia, hirsute women with Polycysric Ovary Syndrome, butch lesbians etc etc are all just as much women and there are no standards or criteria of what a woman "should look like". Any such standards or criteria eould be sexism, which we reject. Which is why there's nothing a man can do to become accepted as female.

A woman who challenges another woman for not being feminine enough to use female facilities is not Gender Critical.

hihelenhi · 15/10/2024 12:44

TofuTart · 15/10/2024 12:30

The OP hasn't said they're a man, where are you getting that from? 😕

A frequent visitor who id's as a transwoman. Only men can be transwomen, Tofu. Come on, let's not be disingenuous and pretend we don't understand facts.

I expect you'll be claiming to be "bemused" next. Nice touch with the sad emojis though.

TofuTart · 15/10/2024 12:30

TiredEyesSoreHeart · 14/10/2024 21:37

"it will make some women more scared of questioning men."

And that, right there, is the motive of men like the OP.

The OP hasn't said they're a man, where are you getting that from? 😕

Greyskybluesky · 15/10/2024 10:45

WhosPink · 15/10/2024 09:19

I’m surprised at the number of people refusing to believe a woman on this thread. I can completely believe it. I have relatives with visible disabilities who have been abused, been told they are a disgrace, been told they shouldn’t be seen in public because they’ll ‘frighten the kiddies’. I can fully believe that a woman with such a visible condition as alopecia would attract abuse.

That's awful, of course it is.

But you're describing a different scenario from one that allegedly took place here.

hihelenhi · 15/10/2024 10:38

As they always do. Disingenuous and bigoted. And as usual, using someone with a condition to further their own anti-woman agenda, and make false claims. With the help of some equally disingenuous "allies" and much DARVO.

Despite the (scientific evidence) that, as shown previously, the vast majority of people can easily identify the sex of most people, almost 100% of the time.

This has nothing whatsoever to do with "GC" women, the view that men aren't actually women on their say so, nor why we should all agree that some men should be allowed into women's spaces. Which of course, goes way beyond toilets.

wincarwoo · 15/10/2024 10:28

@WhosPink I agree the scepticism is unnecessary.

However OP used the post to disingenuously further their own agenda.

TofuTart · 15/10/2024 10:04

WhosPink · 15/10/2024 09:19

I’m surprised at the number of people refusing to believe a woman on this thread. I can completely believe it. I have relatives with visible disabilities who have been abused, been told they are a disgrace, been told they shouldn’t be seen in public because they’ll ‘frighten the kiddies’. I can fully believe that a woman with such a visible condition as alopecia would attract abuse.

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WhosPink · 15/10/2024 09:27

BigBadaBoom · 15/10/2024 07:21

This would not have happened if women felt safe in singe-sex spaces.

Why? Rigorously enforcing single sex spaces will do nothing to stop those with visible medical conditions suffering abuse. They do it in places like toilets because they know they can get away with it and are less likely to be called out by passers-by.

WhosPink · 15/10/2024 09:19

I’m surprised at the number of people refusing to believe a woman on this thread. I can completely believe it. I have relatives with visible disabilities who have been abused, been told they are a disgrace, been told they shouldn’t be seen in public because they’ll ‘frighten the kiddies’. I can fully believe that a woman with such a visible condition as alopecia would attract abuse.

BigBadaBoom · 15/10/2024 07:21

This would not have happened if women felt safe in singe-sex spaces.

Helleofabore · 15/10/2024 03:53

It is much harder to sex people from photos.

For a start, our brains need to interpret skeletal proportions and facial proportions. Hips, and then movement. And voice will all be assessed by our brain.

But even from photos things like brow and forehead and the slant of a person’s eyes the space between nose and lip can be seen.

Josette77 · 15/10/2024 02:51

AliasGrace47 · 15/10/2024 01:46

Sorry, here's the pic.

That's interesting! I would actually think she was a man. Her features seem masculine to me.

AliasGrace47 · 15/10/2024 01:46

Sorry, here's the pic.

Women with alopecia harassed in woman's toilets at airport
AliasGrace47 · 15/10/2024 01:44

I think most people can correctly sex gnc people. Rain Dove is interesting as looking close I would see she is probably female, but without knowing I might have taken her for a man.
I'm studying history at the moment, and I'm currently doing some research into Mathilde de Morny, a 19th century French aristocrat who liked trad male clothes & pursuits, and dated women, including Colette. According to accounts, some people, including men, took her for a man when they first saw her. I wonder if this was bc her clothing and behaviour were v unusual for French women of the time, so there was cognitive dissonance, bc in the picture below her face seems obviously female to me.

miraxxx · 15/10/2024 01:24

Alopecia areata and alopecia universalis/totalis affect both sexes. It is not a women's condition.

miraxxx · 15/10/2024 01:22

Faldodiddledee · 13/10/2024 15:29

If you look at how bald or shaved head women present in public like Jada Pinkett-Smith or Sinead, they deliberately wear lashes and make-up and enhance their other features, they don't go out with no-make up on with a pair of joggers, do they? I don't think looking at their ultra cultivated young or surgically enhanced faces tells us much about what it's like to live with alopecia in the everyday.

I have alopecia areata and have had super short hairstyles and don't wear make up 90% of the time. I dont need to enhance my faetures for people to tell me apart from a man. Calling bullshit on the faux concern for women with alopecia. Btw, it is a one of the easiest conditions to live with. No threat to life, a bit of a hit to one's vanity initially but it makes character and therefore is a net blessing.

swimsong · 14/10/2024 23:00

Christinapple · 13/10/2024 15:03

https://x.com/lindSAYhanNAH3/status/1844696180887794159

I've said it several times, the gender critical movement harms all women. Any women who doesn't meet the criteria of what a woman "should look like" is at risk of being wrongly accused of being trans.

Also makes me wonder about that other thread about FWSSport. If a woman with alopecia plays sport with other women are people who are gender critical going to mistake her as a man and report her to FWSSport who will store data on her?

#thingsthatdidnthappen

TiredEyesSoreHeart · 14/10/2024 22:34

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 14/10/2024 15:13

Not quite. It didn't happen to the woman who has reposted the story. She has however posted it to raise awareness yes.

I looked up Hannah and her instagram, and it looks like he did happen to her, as she makes mention a couple of times in the days later to the incident shattering her and affecting her day.

TiredEyesSoreHeart · 14/10/2024 22:31

Waitingfordoggo · 14/10/2024 13:29

Makes sense @WhosPink. So the woman it actually happened to seemingly wants to raise awareness about her medical condition, but some people who don’t know her have decided to use her experience to further their own campaigns 🙄

Yep. That's it in a nutshell. There is no low mens rights/trans activists won't stoop to. Someone needs to notify Hannah that a MRA/TRA is using her for their agenda. Maybe the OP can apologise to her.

TiredEyesSoreHeart · 14/10/2024 22:18

Christinapple · 14/10/2024 10:50

oh you mean like this one I saw a few days ago?

Every now and again on twitter a post appears where someone (who has a timeline full of gender critical posts) writes a nice story about "chasing a man out of the ladies' shouting at him"

What's your point with that screenshot? That a woman got it right? If he were a woman he would have said so. The fact the man in this screenshot told her to 'fuck off' and didn't deny her allegations proves he was a man and she was right to send him out.

You've actually proved our point here. Are you confused?

TiredEyesSoreHeart · 14/10/2024 21:58

FlirtsWithRhinos · 13/10/2024 17:49

I believe it happened. It has always happened. I looked like a boy as a kid and sometimes someone would say "hey sonny that's the ladies" and I'd say "I'm a girl" and they would look closer and say "sorry duck in you go". They never accused me of being a trans girl because, while obviously even then people knew some men or boys might believe they feel like "a girl", the idea that those males might believe they had the right to be in the ladies because of it was not on anyone's radar.

So to summarise:

A small number of women taken briefly as the opposite sex and challenged about it? Always happened.

A small number of women taken as being the opposite sex and accused of being an entitled transwoman is new, and it happens now and not then because the general public is now aware that transwomen feel entitled to appropriate seingle sex resources. The cat is well and truly out of the bag on that one.

But what I find both telling and damning is that TRAs and other gender-first posters are so full of concern that the increasing awareness that transwomen are using female single sex spaces might lead to the "collateral damage" of some natal women being mistaken for transwomen and suffering hurt feelings, yet utterly silent that accepting transwomen should have a right to female single sex spaces has already lead to the collateral damage of children and women being insulted, excluded and abused by trans women in women's spaces.

One might, might, almost wonder whether these TRAs and their allies are not in fact motivated by concern for women at all, but simply acting true to form in seeing women only when useful to trans politics.

👏And using a woman's medical condition to get at women who want single sex spaces is so low it is sub-gutter level. These people don't give a stuff about women like the one with alopecia. They only see what they can use them for. Not even a medical condition is off-limits to them. They rub their hands with glee. They don't give a stuff about this woman at all.

Snowypeaks · 14/10/2024 21:58

Tiddlywinkly · 14/10/2024 21:49

Honest question - are males who identify as women allowed in women's toilets? I can't seem to get a firm answer from Google. Anyone know the law on this? I'm guessing they are?

They can be kept out - lawful discrimination. If they are allowed in, it's unlawful discrimination against women because they have no privacy from men. Applies to males with a GRC if the facilities are communal. In self-contained, single user cubicles, grey area - as regards males with a GRC only. The EHRC has guidance.

Tiddlywinkly · 14/10/2024 21:49

Honest question - are males who identify as women allowed in women's toilets? I can't seem to get a firm answer from Google. Anyone know the law on this? I'm guessing they are?

TiredEyesSoreHeart · 14/10/2024 21:44

MondayYogurt · 13/10/2024 16:54

Maybe we need to have alopecia awareness month and alopecia day of visibility. I’m serious.

Yes. The month immediately following pride is Disability month. But do businesses do a single thing? No. Because it is cheap and easy to put up coloured rainbows for pride - doing something for actual disabilities is 'too hard' and not attractive or pretty. Btw I never hear any of the pride cohort, not once - ever, mention at the end of the month 'and it's Disability month from tomorrow, don't forget'. They never mention it. That says it all. We should swap pride month for disability/alopecia month. But that of course, is too much effort and not as visually pleasing.