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Are younger generations more regressive?

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bryceQ · 06/10/2024 16:48

I'm in my mid 30s, my brother is in his early 20s. He believes in gender ideology, TWAW... But also agrees there are sex differences in sport 🤷‍♀️. Knows I've faced a lot of street harassment by men which makes me feel unsafe... Knows our mum faced domestic violence. I think his opinion is quite confused, but also think his opinions in general lack maturity which is normal at his age.

Anyway.... Today he was saying that his girlfriend has decorated her room in very "girly colours" - and apparently gen z call this "girly core". I found it really irritating that this generation seem to cling to gender stereotypes in a way that seems so regressive. It feels like we are going the opposite way. I find it so perplexing, for all the obsession with what you identify as...., all of the identifications seem to be rooted in outdated stereotypes. Girls like pink 🙄

I know this is just a silly anecdote, but I wondered those of you with grown-up children or younger siblings, have you noticed this too?

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popeydokey · 11/10/2024 12:28

dadJoke on every thread gets it really wrong about "gender critical" people.

Can you articulate what it is you think GC people believe, in a way that all GC people would agree with?

I assume you can't, because you seem either genuinely muddled (or dishonest) about it.

Also just saying "the EA" doesn't specify individual rights. You're incredibly bad at being specific about literally anything you claim to believe.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/10/2024 12:23

(1) This is a lie. Of course I know why you do it. It allows you to use emotive language like "remove human rights" as a thought-terminating tactic. The problem for you, and the reason why you laud "younger people" so much, is that the older one gets, the more one is aware of these tactics and the less one falls for them

YY, exactly.

DadJoke · 11/10/2024 12:21

@FlirtsWithRhinos you've listed a lot of human rights violations, all of which are bad, and none of which I agree with.

The EA2010 and GRA codifies some human rights

Some of those rights are specifially for transgender people.

You want to remove those rights because you disagree with them.

Which of these statements is a lie?

FlirtsWithRhinos · 11/10/2024 12:16

DadJoke · 11/10/2024 09:53

You can call them “additional rights” and by doing so you are acknowledging you want to take them away.

So you are acknowledging that gender critical people want to take away codified human rights they already have. It would be great if gender critical people could at least admit this.

I don't know why you think this is such a gotcha (1)

As a woman (sex based meaning) I am very conscious that the law has often encoded the right of male people to exclude, oppress and abuse women. No feminist who knows her history would ever accept "the law says it's ok for me to do this so it must be ok for me to do this" as a viable moral argument.

However, I'm glad you raised it because it gives me the opportunity to say that one of reasons I so strongly reject male appropriation of female language is that it separates us from our history and obscures the reality of who oppressed who, of who was given the power by law to oppress who.

No trans woman was ever denied the vote because (s)he was a woman. That was female people.
No trans woman was ever legally raped by (her) his husband. That was female people.
No trans woman was legally beaten using a stick no thicker than the thumb. That was female people.
No trans woman was ever legally locked in a scold's bridle. That was female people.
No trans woman has been forced to carry a baby to term because abortion is illegal. That was female people.

(1) This is a lie. Of course I know why you do it. It allows you to use emotive language like "remove human rights" as a thought-terminating tactic. The problem for you, and the reason why you laud "younger people" so much, is that the older one gets, the more one is aware of these tactics and the less one falls for them. My thoughts, in short, do not terminate because someone tells me I am in danger of thinking the unthinkable - I'll appreciate the concern but I will think just a little bit further to draw my own conclusions thank you.

user98786 · 11/10/2024 11:36

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/10/2024 11:23

Can you be more specific about which rights you think gender critical feminists want to take away from trans people, and why?

Maybe he's talking about the "right" to perv over women and girls in the toilets... 👀

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/10/2024 11:23

DadJoke · 11/10/2024 09:53

You can call them “additional rights” and by doing so you are acknowledging you want to take them away.

So you are acknowledging that gender critical people want to take away codified human rights they already have. It would be great if gender critical people could at least admit this.

Can you be more specific about which rights you think gender critical feminists want to take away from trans people, and why?

MarieDeGournay · 11/10/2024 10:55

DadJoke · 11/10/2024 10:31

@MarieDeGournay ”the law is an ass” is at least an original framing of “I oppose trans rights.”

No it just means that the law was found to be an ass in this case, was repealed, and I get to keep my £6 horseGrin

Helleofabore · 11/10/2024 10:37

DadJoke · 11/10/2024 09:53

You can call them “additional rights” and by doing so you are acknowledging you want to take them away.

So you are acknowledging that gender critical people want to take away codified human rights they already have. It would be great if gender critical people could at least admit this.

No. Admitting they are additional rights is not “acknowledging you want to take them away.” That is a facile argument from a group of people who are only interested in vilifying women who are campaigning to find equitable solutions.

“So you are acknowledging that gender critical people want to take away codified human rights they already have. It would be great if gender critical people could at least admit this.”

This is your polarised and catrastrophised opinion. Equitable solutions have been suggested by women’s groups.

Your support of people having these additional rights that no one else has, is not dealing with equality. These rights have always been inequitable for women and women have been trying to point this out for over a decade.

DadJoke · 11/10/2024 10:31

@MarieDeGournay ”the law is an ass” is at least an original framing of “I oppose trans rights.”

MarieDeGournay · 11/10/2024 10:25

DadJoke · 11/10/2024 09:53

You can call them “additional rights” and by doing so you are acknowledging you want to take them away.

So you are acknowledging that gender critical people want to take away codified human rights they already have. It would be great if gender critical people could at least admit this.

Sometimes the law is an ass. Sometimes it realises it has made an ass of itself, and repairs the damage done. Sometimes laws are made that turn out to be inadequately thought through and have unforeseen consequences. Sometimes, bad laws are repealed.

Fortunately. Otherwise I would still not be allowed own a horse worth more than £5. Repealing that law took away from Protestants the codified 'additional right' of nicking my horse.

DadJoke · 11/10/2024 09:53

Helleofabore · 11/10/2024 09:49

So the additional rights that organisations can then claim exceptions for and legitimately exclude those male people from being treated as if they are female people?

The additional rights that no other people in the UK have to be treated differently to their material sex?

You can call them “additional rights” and by doing so you are acknowledging you want to take them away.

So you are acknowledging that gender critical people want to take away codified human rights they already have. It would be great if gender critical people could at least admit this.

Helleofabore · 11/10/2024 09:49

DadJoke · 11/10/2024 09:22

The rights transgender people have under the EA2010, and GRA and under the ECHR. You know, the ones you want to remove.

So the additional rights that organisations can then claim exceptions for and legitimately exclude those male people from being treated as if they are female people?

The additional rights that no other people in the UK have to be treated differently to their material sex?

SeptimusSheep · 11/10/2024 09:30

I think what DadJoke may be saying is that as women are not a minority, their rights are not fashionable amongst the young. I'm not sure why he's so very obsessed with persuading women to have fewer rights than they used to, though. Why?

CocoapuffPuff · 11/10/2024 09:28

Ah.....those "rights"

stomp stomping GIF
MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/10/2024 09:24

DadJoke · 11/10/2024 09:22

The rights transgender people have under the EA2010, and GRA and under the ECHR. You know, the ones you want to remove.

You mean the extra special rights they have in addition to all the same rights everyone else has, some of which infringe on the rights of other groups?

DadJoke · 11/10/2024 09:22

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/10/2024 06:32

What rights do trans people not have, @DadJoke?

Most people support women's rights to have single sex spaces and sports. If young people don't support that, it's not because they're more likely to support minority rights, it's because they've been gaslit into believing women aren't allowed to have boundaries.

The rights transgender people have under the EA2010, and GRA and under the ECHR. You know, the ones you want to remove.

lollylo · 11/10/2024 06:39

FKAT · 06/10/2024 19:47

Yeah I do think it's regressed very badly. I grew up in the 80s (which had its own issues) but we had a female prime minister, female head of state, lots of very gender non conforming female role models in pop culture (Annie Lennox, Tracy Chapman, Salt n Pepa, Alison Moyet) and strong ambitious women (being a 'bitch' was a good thing) from all backgrounds were all over TV. Women with short hair and trousers were normal. There was no 'be kind'. Pop videos weren't 3 minute soft porn and Germaine Greer was a celebrity.

Same age as you. Sorry but women with short hair and trousers were sometimes soundly derided! See viz. And the expectations on girls were deeply set and we were expected to be kind (hate that too by the way). Women were only just going to uni in bigger numbers, less than 5% of parliament was female - until the late 1990s actually. Let’s not romanticise it! Gendered expectations were being massively challenged but that wasn’t the societal norm.

lollylo · 11/10/2024 06:35

Swamphag · 06/10/2024 18:00

I think maybe 20-25 years ago things like clothes and toys started to be split very heavily along the lines of everything for girls being pink and everything for boys being trucks and dinosaurs. The marketers managed to find a way to sell twice to families who had both male and female children. Even pushchairs began to be gender coded. I've often wondered if that's why kids who were born around that time rely very heavily on sex stereotypes around gender identity.

I tried to push against that and DD was steered away from all the pink nonsense. I question whether if she'd been bought Barbie's etc would she ever have gone down the non-binary path or if she would have accepted that she was a girl because her toys and clothes marked her out as one just like her peers. In trying to do the right thing and smash stereotypes, did I push her into gender ideology? Can't do right for doing wrong ☹️

I’m late 40s, this is not a 20 year old phenomenon. Loads of things were gendered coded in my childhood. Plus a society that still had deeply drawn lines about what ‘boys do and girls do’. I do think there is a regressive element in gender ideology. But overall, kids have had less overt gendered expectations growing up over the last 20 years. Note my use of overt. And yes, I’ve got kids the same age as yours of both sexes. I was fairly relaxed about gendered stuff and just made sure they could access what they wanted. My one massively into dolls and prams, never wears makeup and likes the baggy masc look now as an adult.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/10/2024 06:32

DadJoke · 06/10/2024 22:13

Younger people are more likely to support minority rights, just as they did when gay people were more vilified and oppressed. There are always exceptions, of course, but time usually deals with the problem.

What rights do trans people not have, @DadJoke?

Most people support women's rights to have single sex spaces and sports. If young people don't support that, it's not because they're more likely to support minority rights, it's because they've been gaslit into believing women aren't allowed to have boundaries.

Helleofabore · 11/10/2024 06:26

Let’s not forget that there are now more than one poll that shows that people up to age 28 are also not being open about their opinions with friends, colleagues, social groups and even family because they are afraid of being ostracised

So much so that I think that until there was this public push back, the court cases such as Forstater, Bailey and Pheonix and the highly publicised sports and prison issues, young people were not vocal about their opinions.

Since then we have have mass student protests about schools forcing gender neutral toilets in the UK. In the USA, we are seeing female school/college sports teams forfeit their games against male players. Internationally, we have seen the growing number of social media posts from young women who reject being told that they have to accept males as being ‘female’.

And we have seen the growth of the detransitioner voices.

I think it is blinkered to assume the position of young people is one where the majority support accepting male people as being female people for single sex spaces, sports and representation and other opportunities.

Plus there is no comparison between the fight for LGB equality and the additional rights demands of people who demand they are treated as the sex they are materially not. Yet despite there being no comparison, this comparison is attempted all the time
by those who seem to just repeat this trope.

TempestTost · 10/10/2024 23:31

EmpressaurusDeiGatti · 10/10/2024 17:37

But when I came out in the late 90s, the acronym was still LGB, queer was a term of homophobic abuse. If someone said that masculine-looking lesbians were actually men, or that there was such a thing as a male lesbian, that would all be viewed as homophobic bollocks.

Back then there were lesbian bars, bookshops, quiz nights, discussion groups, social groups of all kinds and it was understood and accepted that they were single sex.

I think that the concept people had then of trans was gay men, and they were included because they and everyone else knew they were gay men, and a couple including such a person was understood as a gay couple.

XChrome · 10/10/2024 21:47

ByMerryKoala · 10/10/2024 14:16

I'm not sure how being wedded to very conservative ideas about gender, so much so that you feel it is better to demolish your body to fit the stereotype of pink and blue brains, is at all indicative to being favourable to minority rights?

To me, it seems the opposite of progress to be waiting and hoping for a tipping point when a highly conformist generation can lean into very conservative ideologies without an opposing voice to contend with.

Yeah, gender ideology is conservative, but being sold as progressive.
Here in Canada the Conservative party used to paradoxically be called the Progressive Conservative party. They dropped the progressive part when they merged with a religious right party. It seems to me that Gen Zers are both progressive and conservative at the same time, only they label their conservatism around stereotyped gender expression as progressive, because it's being packaged that way to them in order to sell products. What astronomical profits cosmetic companies and clothing manufacturers must be making off the trans fad, not to mention entertainment. They even make toys now which are profiting from it. Check out trans Barbie;

https://creations.mattel.com/en-ca/products/barbie-tribute-collection-laverne-cox-doll-hcb99

There are also gender neutral dolls like Creatable World dolls.

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XChrome · 10/10/2024 21:29

Puppalicious · 10/10/2024 15:32

i don’t know if they’re regressive but what’s wrong with pink? I would have thought it very old school (not in a good way) to think pink is any “lesser” than any other colour just because it’s perceived as girly. I am sometimes inclined to “power dressing” for conferences etc and my next dress I think will be pink - I see it as a bit of a statement that you can dress in traditionally “feminine” colours and still be powerful. Bit off topic I know!

It's just that it's gender stereotyping to consider pink "girly." There's nothing wrong with pink. I love pink, but anybody who tries to tell me I love it because it's "girly" is going to get properly told off.
I dress like a dude much of the time, only in nicer colours than the usual drab ones men wear. I love purple as well.
According to some people, this would mean I'm non-binary. 🙄

XChrome · 10/10/2024 21:20

DadJoke · 06/10/2024 22:13

Younger people are more likely to support minority rights, just as they did when gay people were more vilified and oppressed. There are always exceptions, of course, but time usually deals with the problem.

This is not responsive to the OP. The question was not about minority rights. The question was about gender stereotyping eg; "girlycore." Is gender stereotyping regressive or not?

MarieDeGournay · 10/10/2024 21:10

EmpressaurusDeiGatti · 10/10/2024 17:37

But when I came out in the late 90s, the acronym was still LGB, queer was a term of homophobic abuse. If someone said that masculine-looking lesbians were actually men, or that there was such a thing as a male lesbian, that would all be viewed as homophobic bollocks.

Back then there were lesbian bars, bookshops, quiz nights, discussion groups, social groups of all kinds and it was understood and accepted that they were single sex.

If I remember rightly, the 90s was also a time when lots of gay women objected to being called 'lesbians' because ... wait for it... they 'didn't like labels'!!

There are not enough eyerolls in the universe to express the irony of comparing that with the LGBQT2SIA+++ labels around today!

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