How best to answer 'What are your preferred pronouns?' in an intervew

Jesus Christ, so you can't talk about them without checking what they've decided to be on that day? Fucking hell, how can you be she, he and they? It sounds like the people you work with really need some help.

OP look offended and say 'can't you tell?'

Please tell them your favourite pronoun that you use as often as you can in emails, formal presentations and any other occasion when you represent the company and its values and want to impress with your intelligence and excellent educational background is “myself”.

as in

So please get back to myself with any queries that you have to myself and the team.

Janine, our managing director and myself have re written the staff handbook to reflect the views of the workforce as shown in the questionnaire they completed themselves.

Myself and Jeremy will be looking into this issue for yourself.

Sex based !!!!

“I don’t feel that’s an appropriate question for a variety of reasons, I wouldn’t dream of asking you about your gender or sexuality.”

I wouldn't take a job if that question was asked, it's not a legitimate selection question.

But it won't be.

Just tell them? It’s not difficult

i look at "what are your pronouns" or other references to pronouns as a proxy for asking you what your Gender Identity is, in the same way i regard the way you have to use "bathroom" when you mean "toilet" in the US. It's a euphemism because people are embarrassed to use the actual word/question for some reason.

Me/mine/my

Guess it’s time for this again for all the “but why is it a problem?” comments

it’s because it’s normalising the idea that men can use female pronouns and vice versa and that others should be compelled to go along with it

Ah yes there are! I have a colleague who is she/her on certain days of the week and she/zim on others. And some who are she/he/they

"I don't mind" because a) that's completely true and b) it's quick.

I would want my mind clear and my nervous system calm for answering the actual questions. Starting the interview by pretending to have preferred pronouns would feel like I started out by fibbing. Starting with an overt comment about sex based oppression might feel too risqué.

If they didn't immediately move on after my answer I'd be surprised and might try PP's suggestion to turn it back on them with curiosity.

I'd have thought bringing up the personal beliefs or politics of potential employees puts them on dodgy ground.

This is an excellent point, like 2nd wave trans activism.... so just say " I feel that asking for pronouns is very transphobic, if someone is unsure of their gender it could be triggering - can we move on"

They will be so scared of offending you i bet they do 😂

haha, yes just keep saying 'what?' every time they try and explain what they mean.

I'm sorry what does that mean?
' just wondering if you prefer to be called he, or she. or something else'
I'm sorry, what, something else?
'some people prefer to choose their pronouns'
'what?, what does this mean?'

If you're in an interview and you want the job don't try to be clever.

If you've no strong feelings say so.

'Oh, you can call me you. I think thee and thou are a bit old fashioned, don't you?'

In reality I'd say 'I'm a she, thanks'

Never understand why you have to give two pronouns, as if anyone is she/him or he/her

There is a gender neutral "mx" that people use to replace Mrs/miss/ms/mr.

I'm not really sure on the pronunciation, but I assume something like mux

Give them a look as if you don't really understand the question, as it should be so blatenty obvious, then say 'oh, 'she/her' ' with a dismissive wave of the hand (which could be interpreted as 'are people STILL asking about this BOLLOCKS?')

IME HR are much more likely to 'do pronouns' than any other roles.

I think I would go with "Ah, no fixed preference" and a smile. That'll confuse them 😂

I don't see the big deal. Just say 'she and her is fine, thank you.'

Assuming you actually want a job (and as you identify as female) why would you say anything else?

It’s unlikely that you will be asked. The person who sent the email may have wanted to put them on or not really thought about the reason to do so. They also might not be interviewing you.

I don't suppose 'standard English is fine but I don't mind Yorkshire dialect either tha' knows' would work.

How do non-binary teachers ask to be alerted by pupils who would usually say Sir or Miss?