How best to answer 'What are your preferred pronouns?' in an intervew

@tofu Yes, silence silly women, stop taxing your lady brains by examining hypothetical situations.

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Again, discussing something is not the same as 'being offended' or'getting worked up' over' something. (Great bit of sexist minimising there, well done).

I thought this was a discussion board for, you know, having discussions?

But keep on minimising women's concerns, it does a great job of showing why you're really here with your faux concern.

I can't believe this needs pointing out but saying 'this shouldn't be a question' is not the same as saying that it already has been asked.

In much the same way that when I say to my kids 'don't eat ALL the ice cream' and they reply 'I'm not'. Suggesting that something shouldn't happen in future is not to say that it definitely already is/has!

Ssssh don't be bringing common sense into it, we're supposed to be getting worked up over something that hasn't even happened and is just a made up scenario on the off chance they might ask it because the OP thinks it might 😁

And that poster is contributing to the OPs discussion about potential questions by stating that, in their view, this shouldn't be one.

Weren't you the one complaining about 'misrepresenting' your posts? I'm sure you'd be equally upset to realise that's what you're doing to others.

It’s not. This entire thread is about a hypothetical scenario the OP has created based on one comm from the potential employer that included pronouns in the sender’s sign off.

I agree with you.

It shouldn't be a question

It shouldn't - just as you shouldn't be asked for your preferred religion at interview.

Sorry meant to quote @TofuTart

It isn't a question.
As it hasn't been asked.

You get that it comes up in many work scenarios, right? It's hardly outside the realm of possibility for it to come up in a job interview, is it?

It's like playing chess with a pigeon....

It isn't a question.
As it hasn't been asked.
It's a hypothetical question posed by the OP who's worrying that they might be asked.

They cannot compute, @FlirtsWithRhinos

No, they just seem the same to you because you are operating within a fixed belief system that constrains your ability to see different points of view. Kind of like fish having no word for water, genderists can't conceive that the words historically meant for sex could just mean, well, sex as an impartial and objective quality rather than subjective identity.

You cannot conceive that someone can acknowledge the word for a sex decribes them regardless of how the attached cultural constructs align or not to their sense of self, so for you a gender critical person still "identifies" as a woman. But that's your framing. It does not describe the experience of a gender critical woman at all.

As a gender critical woman I can simultaneously understand that I am a woman, that I am constrained by the social constructs of womanhood even though I do not identify with them, envision a world where these constructs are not forced upon me, describe the difference between the social construct , the physical sex and my sense of self and also the mechanisms through which despite being separate they intertwine and operate together through the intersectional and multi-layered power structures and conventions of society.

I feel very sorry for genderists that their fixed mindset prevents them from building the same understanding. I truly think it would give them the self knowledge and freedom that gendrism falsely promises but deliivers only a shaky sense of self that has to be constantly defended, and the false belief that they are feared and hated.

Obviously said tongue in cheek because that's how most people would feel if being asked this stupid question 🙄

No - they are literally the same.

Nope. 'Preferred pronouns' accepts that people may not always use the pronouns you might want them to.

A pronoun that doesn't fall naturally from the mouth of the speaker isn't functioning as a pronoun, it's functionally an alternative name.

No - they are literally the same.

Gender critical ideology does not accept the existence of gender identity, so you think your pronouns are sex-based. That’s fine. They are your pronouns.

Likewise, non-gender critical people accept their gender identity, so their pronouns are based on their gender identity, In most cases, they match their sex. They are not “preferred.”

There are many more false positives for gender non-conforming cisgender people mistaken as transgender, so asking pronouns benefits them, too.

I have never heard of an employer asking pronouns at an interview, but way to invent an imaginary problem to get mad at.

No one should be compelled to answer this

It shouldn't be a question as it's not accessible

Indeed.

Just another fine example of making language less accessible and how the gender woo interpretation is the 'only correct' one.

Except it isn't - obviously everyone can and does have 3rd person pronouns used about them. Not everyone has 'preferred pronouns' though, myself included.

Therefore 'pronouns' does not equal 'preferred pronouns' - they are different.

Yes, it’s not “preferred pronouns” it’s just “pronouns.”

Of course it is. No need to beat about the bush, best make it clear it's fine to compel other peoples speech, discriminate against people with protected beliefs different from one's own.

Yes. At my place there's basically a clear line. Above a certain level of management they all have pronoun signatures. Below that, bar the odd junior woman who has picked it up from Linked In etc as "the right thing to do" and the odd Visibiity Network bloke who is signed up as an ally to everyone, no pronouns. It's very obvious that the senior levels havebeen told to do it to model inclusivity.

The unintended consequence of this, of course, is that it makes very visible how massively our senior levels skew to He/him. Reader, I know this may astound you, but not only are they mostly He/Hims, they are mostly AMAB he/hims. What are the chances?!?

'I have no preference' would be my reply.

All being well the pronoun person doesn't actually give a shit & is just 'being kind and inclusive'.
A manger at my place has pronouns in his email sig & he's rolled his eyes at me about inclusivity and trans something something.

It's meaningless.

And it's not actually grammar as grammar has rules that include using sex to determine which pronouns to use to refer to someone so if "it's grammar innit" there is no need to ask the question.

i do wonder in this kind of situation (someone asking another person what their pronouns are) if the interviewee is autistic and takes everything literally. It may be very confusing or cause a lot of stress to be suddenly confronted by that.

So i think OP planning potential answers is a good idea.

Exactly. The time my ds was asked the question in an interview, he would have been completely flummoxed if I hadn't warned him after seeing the email inviting him to interview that it was a potential question.

He went with He/They "for inclusivity" and got the job. He and the asian girl were the only non-pronouny people employed that year.

Exactly😁
Can just imagine the response -
"OK! Thank you for your time..."
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