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Mohamed El Fayed

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CassieMaddox · 19/09/2024 08:53

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cz6x635wpjxo

This is shocking. It is scary these men are so powerful they have to die before the scale of their offending becomes clear.

I think NDAs should be banned. Rich men are able to use them to cover up their crimes.

Picture of Mohamed Al Fayed - he has grey hair around the sides of his head and is bald on top, with a wrinkled face and heavy eyebrows. His mouth is slightly pursed and he is looking at the camera. He wears a grey suit jacket, black and white patterne...

Mohamed Al Fayed accused of rape by female ex-Harrods staff

Five women who worked at the luxury store say they were raped by the billionaire - BBC documentary reveals.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cz6x635wpjxo

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TheFormidableMrsC · 20/09/2024 17:02

justasking111 · 20/09/2024 16:43

You were there at the same time as someone we know who worked there one summer. She came home telling us about this. Everyone knew then to avoid him she said

Otherwise she had a great experience.

Looking back it was absolutely bloody terrible. I was around 16/17. I’m also brunette and while I was a very pretty girl back then, he had a preference for blondes. The “harem” were all blondes. I don’t like using that term because it suggests they were complicit and they absolutely were not. Horrible little man. I was also employed by a brand and placed in store so while I needed Harrods clearance, I did not go through an interview process there. I am truly surprised it’s taken this long for this to come out as it was such an open secret at the time.

WarriorN · 20/09/2024 16:57

justasking111 · 20/09/2024 16:45

I was eyebrows raised at the hypocrisy of the BBC doing this expose when they've hidden their pervs

I can see that.

At the same time they've a fucking duty to make sure these things don't happen again within their corporation

TheStroppyFeminist · 20/09/2024 16:50

I'm sick of this shit as well. Men really hate us.

justasking111 · 20/09/2024 16:45

I was eyebrows raised at the hypocrisy of the BBC doing this expose when they've hidden their pervs

justasking111 · 20/09/2024 16:43

TheFormidableMrsC · 19/09/2024 09:35

I worked in Harrods as a teen in the late 80's. It was my Saturday job (cosmetics and perfumery). Al Fayed had what was described as a "harem" in that department. Women who were called to his offices frequently. An older woman I worked with said that I would be OK as I was too young. I used to dread him and his walkabouts. This was 30 odd years ago and I am truly surprised it's taken this long to come out. It was very much an open secret at the time. I am, however, not remotely surprised at the allegations.

You were there at the same time as someone we know who worked there one summer. She came home telling us about this. Everyone knew then to avoid him she said

Otherwise she had a great experience.

crumpet · 20/09/2024 16:33

I knew someone in the 90s who worked at Harrods. It was certainly no secret at that time that he had his favourite ladies or would invite someone pretty upstairs

SensibleSigma · 20/09/2024 16:31

There’s a difference in public persona between AlFayed and Saville, as well as the obvious difference of who was in charge.

Fayed managed to behave like a rich man with access to a personal harem, in properties owned by him, with women employed by him. He was a Sultan, or Emperor, in his world. It’s unsurprising.

Saville was a celebrity fundraiser who turned out to be abusing children, disabled, dead people in government buildings and public places. That is far more extraordinary and shocking.

A man being abusive in his own home is not unusual. The size of Fayed’s ‘home’ is unusual.

WarriorN · 20/09/2024 16:19

P Diddy seems a better comparison

WarriorN · 20/09/2024 16:19

It's very much worth listening to the world at one piece on this:

www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m0023094?partner=uk.co.bbc&origin=share-mobile

borntobequiet · 20/09/2024 16:18

Savile’s crimes were of a different order of magnitude and enormity than El Fayed’s.

Having said that, Savile was known about too, for decades. I was surprised that so many individuals and organisations got away with saying they weren’t aware. I probably knew through Private Eye, which at the very least dropped some very heavy hints, but there were other sources too.

Beowulfa · 20/09/2024 15:55

Savile had accommodation at and unrestricted access around Broadmoor ffs. Who signed that off?

I like to think that some of the (no doubt many) sleazy old men still living, who've engaged in similar behaviour, are starting to get twitchy about revelations coming out in their lifetime.

RaspberryParade · 20/09/2024 15:41

CassieMaddox · 20/09/2024 14:06

I'm finding the contrast of opinions between Saville and El Fayed quite interesting.

It seems to me to be "well everyone knew what he was like, why is it coming out now". Where I am horrified at the nature and scale of his offending and the extent it was enabled and covered up. I would have thought there would be a more "Saville" like response (inquiries, investigations etc).

Goes to show how little the sexual assault and rape of women matters in my opinion Sad

You're being needlessly melodramatic, perhaps women are now no longer quite so shocked and just fatalistic especially about historic crimes.
That cynicism is protective.
Would you have us rend our clothes and throw ourselves on a burning pyre to satisfy the need for weeping and wailing.
Id rather just identify the bastards, and emasculate them literally or figuratively.

Shortshriftandlethal · 20/09/2024 14:53

CassieMaddox · 20/09/2024 14:06

I'm finding the contrast of opinions between Saville and El Fayed quite interesting.

It seems to me to be "well everyone knew what he was like, why is it coming out now". Where I am horrified at the nature and scale of his offending and the extent it was enabled and covered up. I would have thought there would be a more "Saville" like response (inquiries, investigations etc).

Goes to show how little the sexual assault and rape of women matters in my opinion Sad

I'm sure there will be some sort of enquiry within Harrods.

Jimmy Saville's crimes involved government instituitions, hospitals, the BBC - all colluding to some degree - and also involved children, the disabled, and even the dead - that's why it led to such a huge enquiry.

napody · 20/09/2024 14:20

PenelopePitStrop · 20/09/2024 13:57

The Press Conference by the representatives of the victims was long and thorough and quite heartening. I hope they can do everything they are saying they will do. Gloria Allder was magnificent. It is worth watching in full on catch up. It was on the news on BBC this morning.

Thanks, will watch this.

@CassieMaddox you're right, but I think the difference is people are less and less surprised with each of these type of revelations. And Savile was enabled by charities, the bbc, hospitals, all types of institutions. Al fayed was all powerful in his own institution, so the question 'how could this happen?' is so much easier to answer.

I hope for the victims sake they keep it front page for a very long time though.

RoseyLentil · 20/09/2024 14:20

Pity , Macnamara is dead also.

RoseyLentil · 20/09/2024 14:19

He was facilitated though wasn't he. His head of security threatened the lady that spoke at the press conference.
The first paragraph of this document makes interesting reading publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm199798/cmselect/cmstnprv/030ii/sp0112.htm

CassieMaddox · 20/09/2024 14:06

PenelopePitStrop · 20/09/2024 13:57

The Press Conference by the representatives of the victims was long and thorough and quite heartening. I hope they can do everything they are saying they will do. Gloria Allder was magnificent. It is worth watching in full on catch up. It was on the news on BBC this morning.

Thanks, I'll try to find that :)

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CassieMaddox · 20/09/2024 14:06

I'm finding the contrast of opinions between Saville and El Fayed quite interesting.

It seems to me to be "well everyone knew what he was like, why is it coming out now". Where I am horrified at the nature and scale of his offending and the extent it was enabled and covered up. I would have thought there would be a more "Saville" like response (inquiries, investigations etc).

Goes to show how little the sexual assault and rape of women matters in my opinion Sad

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RoseyLentil · 20/09/2024 14:03

thisisdynamite · 20/09/2024 13:47

Frankly, if a man is:
a) rich
b) in a position of power over women
c)over a certain age (55?60?)
d) has either had that power for a long time or expects to have it for a long time

I reckon it is fairly likely he sexually exploits some of the women he has power over.

Doesn't have to be rich. Just needs to have the power.

napody · 20/09/2024 14:03

beguilingeyes · 20/09/2024 13:48

Rich, powerful men seem to be untouchable don't they? The level of entitlement and control.
A part of me wonders if all that's stopping the reast of them is lack of opportunity.

Yup, and Gisele Pelicot has made us see it's a lot more than a remote possibility.

PortiasBiscuit · 20/09/2024 14:00

Well duh!!

PenelopePitStrop · 20/09/2024 13:57

The Press Conference by the representatives of the victims was long and thorough and quite heartening. I hope they can do everything they are saying they will do. Gloria Allder was magnificent. It is worth watching in full on catch up. It was on the news on BBC this morning.

FamilyPhoto · 20/09/2024 13:51

Nor suprised at all. I know someone who worked there 20 years ago and it was an open secret.

beguilingeyes · 20/09/2024 13:48

Rich, powerful men seem to be untouchable don't they? The level of entitlement and control.
A part of me wonders if all that's stopping the reast of them is lack of opportunity.

thisisdynamite · 20/09/2024 13:47

Frankly, if a man is:
a) rich
b) in a position of power over women
c)over a certain age (55?60?)
d) has either had that power for a long time or expects to have it for a long time

I reckon it is fairly likely he sexually exploits some of the women he has power over.