Not sure if I have said something wrong or not

You did the right thing OP. No-one should be forced to disclose sensitive personal information in public, whether they believe they have a gender identity or not.

It's shit isn't it? Stong, senior academic women having to watch what we say in case we offend confused teeneagers and millennial staff who seem to be unable to process complex issues that have nuanced human perspectives (and yet... they're academics FFS).

I hate how black and white thinking has become. This world seems to be all about being seen to say the right thing, without even engaging with any deeper thought. Brenee Brown has spoken about this quite eloquently. The 'if you're not for us then you're against us' way of operating.

Many universities have upgraded their online security over the past year. It's been a nightmare for users who BYOD in our establishment. "It's not that difficult" is not as automatically true as it used to be.

Another tactic to have up your sleeve if things get nasty or uncomfortable on a personal level, is to explain quietly that you don't feel comfortable sharing your pronouns yet as you are trying to understand how you feel about them, and it can be hard when being put under unwanted scrutiny. That often shuts people up.

It's possible I'm being over-cautious. But if it's throwing people out at the identity level ("you've not got a UoR identity"), that means that it's checking credentials. In other words it's reading someone's email address and making a choice. Possibly that's all it's doing or possibly it's storing the email address.

That sounds perfect to me, Motnight, how you dealt with it. So you were you, two people tried to half start something with you, and you didn't give them the pleasure. Because they've got nowhere to go with their comment so don't help them on their way by responding! Perfect :) In any other decade in history (and hopefully the future) you would not be wondering about this!

The link works ok for me, for some reason.

Based on this, I would suggest nobody tries to access this link.
The server that is receiving the request (from your account) will have a record of the requests (of your account).
Perhaps it's perfectly legitimate. Equally, perhaps not.

Well I've clearly pissed off my colleague today taking similar stance. We are doing our welcome week for students. We have a lot of trans and nb students again this year. We don't have a system that stores pronouns online so senior staff tend to just have to find out and circulate to teaching teams.

This can be tricky but I sent a nice and appreciated email to all students this week dealing with it and giving reassurance.

My teammate commented that it needs to be available online. And I said well that's ok, as long as it's an optional field because not everyone wants to do this and I wouldn't either. He was really huffy. Clearly I have wrongthink.

bit rude

You were the one who said "please share this widely" and then when people try to actually access it in order to do so, they get condescending remarks. I'm sure anyone who has managed to access mumsnet understands how to copy and paste a web address into their browser bar and would have tried that. Besides which it wouldn't have made any difference whether you direct clicked or c&p - the link wasn't broken, access is clearly restricted.

I got the same message as @HaddyAbrams

I'd support you completely. I attended a "workday" at college and was asked my pronouns.
My comment "I think it's obvious" was apparently not acceptable. I was wearing a skirt and being swooned over by men (and boys)* but I still had to stand up and tell them that I didn't have a p!
*Sorry if I sound "up myself" as they say, but they were doing this.

I get this message

I can't access that document either. I signed in with my Microsoft account (which is what it asked for) and then wouldn't let me see it.

Same

Same

When clicking on the link didn't work, I copied and pasted the link because, as you very kindly pointed out, it's not that hard.

Both times, I got this.

That’s the first screen I got, but mine also offered me my work account. When I clicked on that it took me to the screenshot I posted.

Please read the thread - copy and paste into your address bar
if its not working!
OR contact Jo Phoenix.
Its not that hard

@Limth
Copy and paste it into your address bar...

@RaspberryParade I clicked on the link and got this sign-in screen.

I dont understand why you cant access it. As I said to the previous person email Jo Phoenix her contact is easily found- plus there is a thread here about it.

Please just put the link in your address bar - its not that complicated

I’m not able to access it via that link.

Are you able to provide another way to read it, @RaspberryParade ?

(I am signed on on my device with my work account, but I doubt my employer has blocked it. I think I need a U of Reading account)

Sorry, crossposted while I was editing my screenshots.

No, you dont.

I havent had to so why should anyone else.
If youre really having issues write to Jo Phoenix her email is widely available.

You need to sign in to access that document. Is there any way to access it for non-Reading people?