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Family annihilators are usually husbands and fathers, now they are sons.

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IwantToRetire · 16/09/2024 18:57

Not particularly wanting to discuss the recent case but I feel this is happening more often ie sons being the perpetrators.

A man has appeared in court charged with the murders of his mother and two siblings at a block of flats.

As Mr Prosper was led away from the dock, a man stood up to look him in the eye and said: “I still love you son, I know it’s not your fault ok.”

https://www.itv.com/news/anglia/2024-09-16/man-appears-in-court-charged-with-murders-of-woman-and-two-teenagers

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IwantToRetire · 16/09/2024 20:09

From what I've read in the past about family annihilators they have many simialar traits, behaviours and may also have been actual domestic violence abusers.

And is said to often occur when a man thinks he is going to lose his family, ie that same situation that women are warned about that the most dangerous time for them can be when they tell their abuser they are leaving.

So my maybe flip thread title doesn't mean those posting have to stick to that aspect.

And yes, as the shouted out comment in court implies, there could be a mental health issue, in which case why was he allowed anywhere near his family.

Its this whole arc of male violence. At home and in the streets.

Shooters both here in the UK and the USA are sometimes recorded as having first shot their mother and then gone on a shooting spree.

And incel culture feeding ideas of violence against women.

And although more men are killed by other men, than women killed by men, this doesn't stop the basic issue of male violence.

Whether prompted by mental health, wounded pride, machismo, misogyny, or whatever, what makes men then translate this into violence.

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ReadWithScepticism · 16/09/2024 19:23

But the thread is about family annihilation. I don't think anyone would argue that domestic abuse from sons to mothers is uncommon

newtlover · 16/09/2024 19:21

yes, domestic abuse from sons to mothers is not uncommon

Cleebope2 · 16/09/2024 19:15

A 43 year old woman was murdered yesterday in her house in Belfast. Her 21 year old son has been arrested. He was just let out of prison recently and it has been reported that he said he would kill his mum. It happens quite often but yes does seem to be becoming more common.

ReadWithScepticism · 16/09/2024 19:07

I'd be very wary of making any leap towards imagining a trend. The numbers are too small and I suspect that the incidents involving sons are far more likely to involve paranoid schizophrenia, rather than the pattern of anger, domestic abuse and overbearing control and self-absorption that tend to characterise husbands and fathers who commit this atrocity.

Regarding the comment in court from his father, this is what makes me wonder whether the killer was someone suffering very severely from schizophrenia and was not responsible for his actions.

We don't know, of course, but I really hope that if this is a desperately ill young man he is not hung out to dry on social media.

RaspberryParade · 16/09/2024 19:01

'As Mr Prosper was led away from the dock, a man stood up to look him in the eye and said: “I still love you son, I know it’s not your fault ok.'

Christ that is beyond grim.
Whose fault is it then?