Thank you @QuickMember and... phew! I've had that thought trying to form itself in my head ever since I watched the TV programme. I'm glad I was able to articulate it in a way that made sense when I finally got it out.
Agreed @RainWithSunnySpells The human condition is a funny thing. Sadly a shared belief leaves space for bad actors to bend society to their will, hide in plain sight and have their behaviour accepted as righteous. This very much links to Andrew Gold's point (also said by many others) that we shouldn't change laws that uphold the values of a belief system. It ends up giving people rights that allow them to justify what they are doing under their belief - and not everyone shares their belief.
I've watched it now. He contradicts himself continuously and he repeatedly says "we mustn't generalise"... then he generalises.
Him saying it wasn't about stereotypes, then saying Andrew Gold had a male gender id because of his clothes!
Yup. Yet he says that nobody should tell anyone else what their gender identity is or isn't.
Also he said that it was absolutely right that any young person who attends a gender clinic needs to have a proper assessment first to understand if anything else was going on, because it's a major medical intervention.... then he says it's appalling that anyone would interrogate a young person and not believe them about their gender identity (i.e. nobody should tell anyone else what their gender identity is or isn't).
He's conflated everything in to such a muddle that he doesn't seem to understand what is coming out of his own mouth. I think his core belief is that gay people should be allowed rights and freedoms to be themselves. Everything else that he says on this topic is a conflation that projects from it. Maybe he believes we all have a gender identity, maybe he doesn't. His constant self-contradiction makes it impossible to tell, so I'll take it at face value that he believes it (just as many religious people hold contradictions continuously e.g. immaculate conception vs the biology of reproduction).
Andrew Gold did a great job with the questions in this interview. I'm relieved that there weren't any questions about the age of consent. I applaud what Peter Tatchell has achieved in the past for gay rights but sadly he just doesn't seem to know when to stop being progressive and put hard boundaries in to law. Society can't function in the way that he advocates under his top down generalisation that everyone should have the freedom to do everything and it should be looked at case by case. If we don't have hard boundaries in law (by sex, age etc) we will gravitate towards governance under a belief system, where the bad actors have risen to the top and get to make all the rules that define how we behave - which loops back to the "indulgences" link from RainWithSunnySpells.