An entertaining evening

I disagree. The OP said I'm not fan of urinals (I have the shyest bladder in the world) so I shrug, decide to take advantage to this new gender neutral world and head over to the "Not the ladies".

Men are as entitled as women to relieve themselves in privacy and comfort.

This is an interesting one - not so much the increasingly familiar situation, but to have a male perspective on it. I agree with most of what the OP says - you seem very fair-minded and sensitive to the issues involved - but I will confess that I, too, found the tone of the title, in the context of the story, actually a bit upsetting. It’s OP’s prerogative to find it amusing, of course, and I’m grateful for the care and empathy he displays alongside this… but I can’t help but focus on the woman, wondering about her, putting myself in her position. What was a funny and thought-provoking anecdote for the OP could so easily have been, for her, the moment she began to restrict her movement in public spaces due to a realisation that she’s less safe than before, as well as something she’s still feeling angry and worrying about days later.

I had a similar experience recently, leaving a female loo in a café into a tiny, mixed space, to find a man there. It would have taken less than a second for him to push me back into the cubicle, and at the far end of a large, quiet café, behind several doors, that would have been that. I was wholly reliant on him being one of the good ones. And it’s a big ask of a woman to rely on that (see also #notallsnakes and the poisoned M&M analogy). I’m no shrinking violet, but it brought it home to me that I am slightly less safe in that café than in various others, as something to factor in as part of any future visit there. This simply isn’t fair! And it’s certainly not equality, equity or inclusion. The male/female experience of this is so diametrically opposed that even a series of largely very sympathetic (in both senses) posts from an evident “ally” (ugh, forgive me!) demonstrate this fairly starkly. It also shows why so many other men just fail to get what this means to women on any level, at all.

I'm not sure that chastising the OP is the right approach here either. I'm glad that he's raised it as an issue on a feminism board and is on-side. I don't think we can expect everyone to be a warrior in every aspect of this battle.

While, as I've said above, I hate men intruding on "a female space", I don't believe the OP should be chastised here. It wasn't his fault the cubicle wasn't working and it wasn't his "fault" that somebody had decided the place overall was gender neutral. His only fault was in his wording. If he'd said something like "apparently I'm allowed to use these cubicles", it might have gone down better.
Having said all that, isn't THIS a female space?

You're right that this was caused by the bar being idiots, not by you. You didn't do anything wrong - though neither did the woman. If the bar doesn't want people who are obviously male using the "cubiles" area their sign needs to be labelled "female people only, of any gender" and their "Urinals" area needs to be labelled "male people only, of any gender" and they need to put sufficient staffing maintenance anf resources into making sure there's always a working cubicle in the latter for those who need it. There is no objective verifiable difference between you and a transwoman so if transwomen are allowed to use the cubicles side you should be too - which is why it's a ridiculous policy.

me causing trouble and getting kicked out

You could have made a complaint politely (this should be standard!). You could have made a complaint at the end of the evening. You can make a complaint now.

And as Errol says, the only detail you need to give is that you needed a cubicle - no need to say why.

Stop the cowardly excuses and do something useful.

Yes, what @eatfigs and others have said. You clearly don't care what the woman felt.

I don't really know the point of the thread, it just amused me and I thought it might amuse others too.

It doesn't amuse me, no.

Next time please use the urinals rather than amusing yourself with making women feel uncomfortable.

'Stage fright' is just a common euphemism for blokes who have trouble with urinals.
But if a bloke needs to use a cubicle and it's broken, the obvious solution is for him to complain to the management without specifying why, the assumption will most likely be he needs to shit. So the embarrassment is a bit of a weak excuse for being part of the problem rather than part of the solution.

You feel sorry?

Is that it?

Obviously the policy is crap but I don't think you have any idea of the fear a male body instils in a women when she is alone with a man she doesn't know.

That is heightened by being in a place where she is vulnerable.

Why did you choose to say it was gender neutral? A sorry ladies, I need a cubicle and the one next door isn't working would be more appropriate.

As a young woman I hate sharing what I consider should be a "female space" with men and I would have looked and commented if I'd seen you there.
HOWEVER that isn't to say that you are the problem. You're not. Places that think they're "doing the right thing" by allowing men and women to mingle ARE the problem.
When women like me stop using those places they might realise this.

I think @VimesandhisCardboardBoots it's a pity you didn't stand up for the woman, and actually point out that it's the bar's decision to fuck up the toilets that's the problem.

Women don't get listened to about this stuff; men do. It's very very far from ideal, but we need men to speak up about this. Every time.

What would you have done if the loos were labelled 'Men' and 'Women' and the cubicle in the 'Men's wasn't working? Use a urinal, use the 'Women's or piss yourself?

DH tells me that the cubicle in the Men's is non-functional most of the time in our local.

I think what amused him was the fact that the pub hadn't thought through properly where going "woke" would end up.

ie gender neutral toilets but not really gender neutral toilets

It amused you that you made a woman upset?

I came face to face with a man in a gender neutral toilet at soft play recently. Overwhelmingly dominated by women and he was very clearly uncomfortable.

You should give this feedback to the venue. The more people who speak up they these places may start to listen. Women alone speaking up so far has been ignored it might help if men could speak up too

"'Cos everybody hates a tourist,
Especially one who thinks it's all such a laugh."

I think they call it sex class tourism?

I’m quietly appreciative of you not just deciding to use the disabled loo 🤷‍♀️

I reckon the toilet in the "mens" would likely have been fixed by the time I got there if it was still the mens, but because they know there's other options they haven't gotten round to it.

Seems likely.

Probably,I would have.