Non binary. I think I get it.

As a female, just calling yourself something else doesn't change the face that men still see you as female, wether you're wearing a bodycon dress and stilettos, or loose trousers and a baggy jumper, some men will still see you as prey.

I get it completely, and that would probably have been me too. It’s the assumption that if I just say I am a woman, I am buying into stereotypical femininity and/or a pornified version of what a woman is.

And the sad delusion that they can identify out of the shit that comes with being biologically female.

I definitely get it. If I were twentymumble years younger I'd probably be doing it myself.
But I keep thinking about the multiple news stories I've read where a TIF was sexually harassed or assaulted by a cabdriver "even though I told him I'm a man."

If you take men's pornified view of women and tell teenage girls that is what a woman is then it's not very surprising when a significant number of them say I'm obviously not a woman then. It's just a shame they can't say, that's not what a woman is.

Absolutely. Saying you are non-binary is a (v hopeful) way of opting out of being objectified.

It's an attempt to step out from the cohort who is objectified.

But from a feminist point of view, the cohort being objectified remains, so it's not very helpful.

But also, men don't give a shit how you identify yourself, it's all about how they identify you. So again, it doesn't change anything.

But yes, I'm sure it's a way of signalling you don't want to be objectified. Unfortunately, men don't care about that.

I have an 11yr old DD and I too can see how it can appeal: from their perspective to identify as "female" as it is depicted on most mainstream media is to agree to conform to a certain image which mainly comprises of permanent full face make up, constantly changing perfectly styled hair and nails, and revealing and/or figure hugging clothes.... If I were her age I'd want to be NB too 🤷🏼‍♀️