Close friends falling victim to the 'girl mum' 'boy mum' camp

Maybe i started the conversation in the 'wrong' forum lol jeez people are so easily pissed off on mumnet. First time on it it so forgive me for not posting correctly lol

I think its partly why - but then things got extreme on both ends. The mum of boys said some stereotypical things about girls too. For something so trivial, it felt too extreme to dismiss. And yes, maybe if people didn't give her such flack for having girls. I know this doesn't excuse the rant about men

Yes the Mother Nature comment I think is her feeling like her children were chosen for her. Many people think that about their children though, I know i do. I'm not religious though. Although I think the sexist comments about girls are weird too. We hear this all the time about poor Daddy etc it grinds my ears but I'm too old and been through too much of life to care. My friend with the four girls was convinced her inlaws were judging her and her daughters and o was thinking her brain went into overdrive and that when she went on a whole diatribe thinking boys aren't all that. They are both usually kind people. one drama that has blown everything up. It's quite pathetic that I've let this get to me so much. And I didn't intervene at the time. Was taken back by the intensity of the conversation and the exchange between two educated, kindhearted women. Her comments about her girls growing up and how if they choose to get marriedand/or plan to have children, there will be more competition for the good men. It was like sitting in on an extremist conversation and it has affected me.

Yes it happened in April, not quite a full 3 months. I've tried to reach out to no avail. Never knew how easy it was to avoid/block people the way they have me.

Perhaps this it. I have two daughters but wouldn't like to think my husband was disappointed. I think that's a little entitled and selfish to want one sex over the other ( but that's a differnt story). As I said, my friend was up front about the comments she has received by inlaws and friends - I told her we all get that. I was a little offended when she said boy mums are seen as superior. I don't think ill of men or boys - I think my 'boy mum' friend was rightly defensive. It was all so intense and was such a weird experience which is why I feel horrible and strange. My friend of daughters said she felt overwhelmed by the degree of male inflicted violence we hear about and how she thought she wasnt fit to bring up a boy and she thinks she wouldnt be strong enough hence her Mother Nature knows best comments.she also said that she didn't think all girls were saints and this is where my other friend talked about teenage girls and bullying etc A combination of hormones and maybe something serious going in re postnatal. thanks for the responses.

Yes you're right Miss Marple, this is all made up. Does that satisfy you? As for using the incorrect term, "channel" rather than forum - this is what you highlight? My account is detailed because I've been going over this in my head for a while, you know while balancing everyday life. So maybe you need to get out more. I appreciate it sounds dramatic but I'm not going to argue with you over something that has affected me and you smugly suggesting I'm exaggerating. They were two close friends which is why I am worried. I don't have a wide friendship group and I thought motherhood would give us a deeper connection, like I said my two girls are friends with her older daughters.
I may be needy and wanting to make a friendship work.

It was never like this before the second son and fourth daughter. I remember the girl mum was very sweet to her nephews and invited boys to her girls' birthday parties (sounds ridiculous but if she was so anti-boy child, why would she have them around her daughter). She did say during the meeting that her husband was distant after their last girl, and she felt she was imagining things. Our boy mum friend then said her husband is so hands on and loves taking them out. This is where it got personal. I chimed in to say girls and Dad's can have a bond too, obviously. Yes it's all dramatic and heavy but I'm trying to help us get over this. I think maybe my friend is taking on the sexist remarks and is laughing them off because she knows how stupid it all is. She did say she was worried her daughters would have a lot of competition for good men and thag she admires mums of sons as she feels they are treated as superior and they have birthed sons so j think there's a religious side to this that is impacting her mental health I'm more concerned about her mental health and this is why I came on her as j don't think I can't chat to my family or husband about this without feeling ridiculous.

This is what came up, the whole preference for boys. Isn't that part of the "problem"? Why is there a preference, a sense of entitlement.. calle it naivety, but I don't understand the preference for a son or a daughter and thats why I feel stuck between two sides. The mum of daughters is hormonal but is also dealing with sexist remarks towards having daughters. I think we know she's capable and intelligent and mature enough to rise above remarks but even still, the fact that things are said about innocent girl children.

As for checking in with them, I should have stated i have texted both of them and tried to contact them via various channels but no answer. And as for the previous poster, I'm not at loose ends, or bored - I'm taking a risk by reaching out on this channel where potentially this could be seen and traced back. I've spoken to my husband but I feel ridiculous and dramatic and think in the grand scheme of things it isn't worth pulling other people into it. I don't know how it came to the girl mum, boy mum think. Maybe because boys have been prized for so long. Who knows anyway thanks for the advice.