Used an 'all genders' bathroom today

Not happy about them. Not found any that work for both sexes yet.
Neither is my husband- he feels uncomfortable invading women's space after spending many years avoiding them and respecting women's privacy.

I’m blaming you for voting either Tory or labour. Neither intended to do anything about it.

Nearly every coffee shop has them, no issues at all, just a single toilet for customer use, clean, basin inside and sanitary bin.

Because some men don't keep toilets clean is not a case for whether they are safe. In larger places there's no reason why they can't have single sex and gender neutral toilets but for small places with one or two I'm happy sharing. At the Taylor Swift concert women were using the gents anyway

In fact here (Bristol) the people audibly moaning in the inevitable queue on sunny days near the harbourside are men as it's an experience they are not used to, and yes us women laugh. Always been perfectly clean though.

BTW the hippodrome in Birmingham had the grottiest toilets in town 30 years ago, some things never change

Who are you blaming? The Tories or Labour?!

The only ones I like are the blocks with individual room which includes the sink etc. So it’s just like passing people on a corridor and then once inside the room you are totally private - floor to ceiling doors etc.

Still a danger of poorly aimed pre I suppose but the ones I used were at work and always very clean

What I don’t understand is that aid charities focused on the third world make a point of emphasising how important toilet privacy is - but apparently once we have other freedoms basic dignity goes by the wayside?

😤 it’s disgusting that men and women are put in this position.
If we had had a Time Machine about 10 years ago to go forward to this year… surely we’d be horrified? …

Ive used plenty. I'm Scandinavian and they're quite common, usually as single toilets that everyone share so it's not like you'd encounter people in there at all. They've rarely been particularly disgusting, and the ones that were, well the vibes usually fit that establishment in general 😅
Also through Europe in general I'd say they're more common and haven't had issues using them myself. Haven't used any in the UK that I can recall though.

But why? Why does everyone have to be uncomfortable and suffer indignity and less because of a tiny minority of people? And some women won't just be uncomfortable, they will just not be able to use those spaces or any spaces at all any more. Indulging this is not inclusive, it's indulging utter selfishness.

Third spaces. An option of mixed sex should be available. If it's utterly impossible due to space and there are only two sex based options then the mens becomes mixed space. Not the women's.

I was on a business visit to one of the ancient Oxford colleges recently and needed the loo while I was there. Directed down some stairs where there were two doors both labeled "gender neutral toilet"

Picked the first door but just as I walked through a bloke came out, I took a moment to see a large metal urinal and a single cubicle. Didn't take the time to check the cleanliness or presence of sanitary bin but it clearly wasn't what I needed. Went to the other door and obviously it was what I needed.

Given that gender and sex are not the same thing why not have loos labeled as gender-neutral-for-those-of-any-gender-and-of-the-female-sex and gender-neutral-for-those-of-any-gender-and-of-the-male-sex so we know what is the other side of the door at least. Clearly those who know the layout are going to know which door is theirs so it's just unwelcoming for visitors not to give any clues.

Nope hate it.

Just embarrassing and feels wrong.

Any bathroom men use is going to be filthy. Some of them don't even wash their hands after taking a dump, FFS. The last "all genders" restroom I used a few weeks ago was a disgusting pit. I keep a small bottle of sanitizing spray in my purse, which I use to sanitize the toilet seat, toilet flusher, faucet and door handle in any public restroom.

Used a Bristol park, public loos recently.

3 cubicles, 2 of them mixed sex, one of them for men only (assume urinals).
That really irritated me, I can't lie.

I don't like mixed sex toilets. The reasons are too obvious to waste my time spelling it out...

Museum in Copenhagen, we were there for a whole day so went several times with small children. Every single time I encountered a man he looked panicked, one even backed out when he saw me in there. Makes me think about men's entitlement or just seeing a toilet sign and assuming it is for them and then being surprised about the shared space.

Every time I read a thread like this it takes me right back 30 years to an night out for my friends hen party. I went to the toilet and as I sat I felt I was being watched. I looked up and saw a man wearing make up and wig he obviously used them to access the toilets left the loo and the hotel before I was able to report it (doorman had seen him leave) Still feel uncomfortable evert time I'm in a public toilet.

And an attendant spells out the difference.

Well quite, Andthereitis, easily solved.* *

Used one a few years ago in the RAH. There was a sort of channel all around the edge of the room (toilet and sink in the one fully enclosed cubicle). It was literally full of piss. Every woman coming out was commenting on how disgusting it was (maybe some men were unimpressed too, but I didn't personally hear any complaining, maybe they're used to it). It was also all over the floor in front of the toilet so taking your trousers down was risky unless you could balance your bag, coat and hold trousers aloft (no coat hook). I guess as men can stand up they don't have to worry too much.

The other was more recent - The Donmar. These are different each toilet was probably initially men and women but have now all been designated mixed sex. They have an additional sign on the door of some that shows a urinal. Most men I encountered using the toilet at the same time did not seem to like this set up at all. Upon opening the door to find a queue of women makes them look all nervous and go back out to check they haven't got it wrong. This particular performance (went twice) had a much more women heavy audience, so men in the loo queue were in the minority. At one point whilst inside, waiting for a cubicle to come free, the older lady behind me pushed the main door shut to a man trying to enter telling him to go find the one with urinal in it. He did, quite happily. She declared she was 'too old for this shit'. Doesn't seem like many people men or women, unless using them for validation purposes, actively like them.

Ever since my 20s due to the massive queues in women’s toilets I’ve nipped into the mens loos, often cheerfully waving at disconcerted men! To this day I still do.

Mens toilets definitely smell worse, but I’m constantly horrified by the horrendous mess in women’s toilets. People seem to think it’s acceptable to discard items on the floor including used tissues and wrapping for tights, plus chuck tampons down the loo which don’t flush. Lovely. So, in many ways I think womens toilets are as awful as mens.

I am not bothered in the slightest over sharing toilets (I’ve seen enough men pissing in the street to realise you can’t escape penises) but I appreciate a lot of women are and their needs should be catered for.

I think I unintentionally used an "all genders" bathroom today as well!

I mean... I know for a fact I didn't, it was definitely the ladies, but both the lid and the seat itself were up in the cubicle I was left with (all the others were full).

I asked my mum if the seat was up in hers and she said no, so it's not like it had recently been cleaned and left up by mistake or anything, also it was the middle of the day so very unlikely!

It may be silly as at the end of the day it's just a seat, I can just put it down, but I left feeling uncomfortable and on edge nonetheless.

I got slaughtered for posting similar recently.

Mixed toilet and was piss allover the seat and floors and everyone was saying it was probably the women too as they're just as dirty 🤨

I used a 'cubicles' loo a few years ago (the one next to it was a 'cubicles and urinals' loo). There was a queue in the basins area. Some of the men in the queue were saying things like, "This is a good idea, it's much nicer than the men's loos."

Gender neutral my arse. Everybody knew exactly which loos they were in. Some of the men had the good grace to look uncomfortable, some even backed right out and went in search of the 'cubicles and urinals' loo.

We don't use loos with our gender. Imagine there were Jewish loos, or left wing loos - what nonsense. Single sex loos are truly gender neutral. Nobody cares what you believe in the women's loos, as long as you are using them with your female body.

And an attendant spells out the difference.

We have them at work - I don't object in principle to men being in there (but I understand why some do and we also have sexed toilets I could choose to use) but on average I have to go in three cubicles before finding one without piss all over the seat 🤬

I used one at the weekend, it was spotless and I felt fine, fancy toiletries too. We also have mixed sex toilets at work so I guess I’m used to it. Never had any issues.

Rycbar · Today 20:41
Did anyone go to uni in Leeds about 10-13 years ago? Some of the clubs there had mixed toilets and it was never even talked about it was just accepted.”

First trip overseas was 53 years ago. Public toilets were GN (and much nicer than public toilets in the UK at the time: lovely tiles everywhere, fully cubicled and an attendant). Really can’t see the issue.