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GC views not valid because the majority are "bad actors"

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BigTubOfLard · 10/07/2024 12:27

First time posting on this board.
Male friend and me were chatting last night and when he asked who I voted for in the UK elections I said I couldn't vote green because they don't know what a woman is. He said, "Oh you are one of those".

This lead to a loooong discussion of why I held my GC views. We had to agree to disagree, but his main argument for why I was wrong was that "the vast majority" of people who hold my view believe that trans people should not even exist. I could not sway him on this point - didn't matter that I argued that no, the vast majority of GC people are probably women, we don't believe that trans people should not exist, but we have very valid reasons for opposing transwomen in our exclusive space.

So basically my view is wrong because "bad actors" believe trans people should not exist. Any idea how to counter this? I did think of pointing him directly at this forum, but doubt he'll take time to look.

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/07/2024 09:37

Since it is a self-defined label and I don't believe in the reality of anyone being "really trans", it could even be said that a "trans person" is anyone who says they're a trans person.

In fact, I can't define it at all, because I don't believe in "trans" as something real.

100%

Zita60 · 11/07/2024 09:34

Runor · 11/07/2024 07:59

I don’t think that’s a reasonable interpretation of what was posted. Clearly nobody can change sex, but also some people want to change their presentation and be ‘treated as if they are the opposite sex’

It’s perfectly possible to believe people can’t change sex And still believe that trans people shouldn’t be discriminated against

On the other hand, I have heard TRA’s declare that people can change sex - which obviously demands a revision of the definition of ‘sex’ Here we go again!

Yes, that just about sums up how I feel about it.

NecessaryScene · 11/07/2024 09:32

Cos sex matters still.

Yes. I can't conceive of any circumstance where "treating someone like a woman" should mean anything other than "doing something female-specific, which then logically can't/shouldn't apply to a male".

People should be treated equally, unless some consideration is needed for their sex. If you're not that sex, you don't need that consideration.

In some other society where there were arbitrary rules for sexes that made no sense, then you could plausibly demand to be treated by the arbitrary rules of the other sex. But we should not be such a society - any such arbitrary rules should be removed rather than granting dispensations.

Favorite Magdalen video on that:

RE: “I asked my Corporate Job if I could Wear the Men's Uniform”

Ash Hardell seems to think women should have to identify as trans in order to have the right to wear comfortable clothes at work. In this video, Magdalen Ber...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0PPV83fgJx0

Ingenieur · 11/07/2024 09:32

Zita60 · 11/07/2024 09:30

I'm sorry, but I didn't see anywhere where you answered the question. I assume from what you've just said that you think it should be legal to sack a trans person specifically because they are trans.

If that's your opinion, then OK. I can't agree with it though, because I think they deserve some basic protections from discrimination.

But protection from discrimination for what? Why does a fantasy deserve protection more than other un-evidenced beliefs?

MarieDeGournay · 11/07/2024 09:31

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/07/2024 08:53

It's a thought terminating cliche.

That's such a great sentence, I'd definitely going to use it!

Apart from the fact that it's accurate, I can see it acting as a welcome circuit-breaker in one of those 'conversations' with clever-clever winder-uppers who know they have the verbal dexterity to keep finding ways to misinterpret or circumnavigate what you are trying to say.

Of course no poster on FWR has ever done that, ever🙄

Thank you for this link, Eresh, this is a very useful site, personally and politically - the similarities between TRA tactics and emotional abuse by narcissists is striking:
www.narcissisticabuserehab.com/types-of-flying-monkeys/

Zita60 · 11/07/2024 09:30

Ingenieur · 11/07/2024 07:21

@Zita60 I have answered your question. Again and again.

Whatever you mean by "trans person", this should not be a characteristic thay offers any more protection that any other person has.

But in any case, the law as it stands doesn't protect "trans people", there is a specific carve-out for "gender reassignment", which isn't the same thing. But I also don't think there should be an extra category for gender reassignment either.

I'm sorry, but I didn't see anywhere where you answered the question. I assume from what you've just said that you think it should be legal to sack a trans person specifically because they are trans.

If that's your opinion, then OK. I can't agree with it though, because I think they deserve some basic protections from discrimination.

RedToothBrush · 11/07/2024 09:23

Runor · 11/07/2024 08:02

So, to answer the OP, I’m a GC person who doesn’t think that trans people shouldn’t exist

Rather, I object to a position in which a man asks to be treated ‘like a woman’ because I believe that people should be treated equally regardless of sex, and currently, I don’t think society does that

This nails it.

One is sexist and promoting regressive gender stereotypes.
The other is promoting equal treatment.

Also there are situations where health / biology matters which should also be taken into consideration.

A transwomen with prostate cancer shouldn't be treated like a woman. As wild as this might seem. But they should not be given dispensation for 'menopause' or 'periods' etc either. Cos sex matters still.

NecessaryScene · 11/07/2024 09:23

I don't think trans people exist.

I wonder if maybe the problem here is actually capitalisation, or lack of.

Religions are generally capitalised. They're treated like proper nouns, because they are basically just names - groupings without a formal definition.

A proper noun is a designator we accept without necessarily agreeing on the belief.

I think it would be better to say that Trans people exist. But their reasons for becoming Trans are many and varied.

The capitalisation denotes that this is just a somewhat arbitrary grouping - a social construct without a solid underlying physical reality. Just like nationalities, countries, etc.

(Conversely I really don't like Black being capitalised, because it isn't a belief or religion - doing that seems to miss the point of the normal English rule).

OldCrone · 11/07/2024 09:22

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Runsyd · 11/07/2024 09:13

I don't think trans people exist. I think people with dysphoria exist, and confused gay people exist, and people with paraphilias exist. A lot of young, vulnerable people, many with autism, who are taught on TikTok that they're struggling because they're 'trans' also exist. But you can't actually change sex and no one is born in the wrong body.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/07/2024 09:10

Exactly @NecessaryScene

NecessaryScene · 11/07/2024 09:06

It doesn't mean that I think people who believe in god don't exist, or that they shouldn't exist.

I may believe "people who are going to heaven" don't exist. That doesn't mean I don't think Christians exist.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/07/2024 09:06

I don't really care what the man in the OP thinks. You can't argue with stupid, Cassie.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/07/2024 09:05

I don't believe in god. I understand that others do, and to the extent that it doesn't affect me, I respect that belief. We can agree to differ. But I don't believe what they do, and if asked directly I will tell them that. If their belief in god is used to oppress me I will argue why that is wrong because god doesn't exist in any objective sense.

It doesn't mean that I think people who believe in god don't exist, or that they shouldn't exist.

CassieMaddox · 11/07/2024 09:04

It's not about me eresh. Its about people like the man in the OP and trying to show why they would say "GC people say trans people shouldn't exist".

So maybe you got there in the end?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/07/2024 09:01

If there is no such thing as trans, how can trans people exist? They are just people.

Yes, you got there in the end. Well done!

CassieMaddox · 11/07/2024 08:59

Igmum · 11/07/2024 08:52

The shouldn't exist/wish we were dead point is one made repeatedly by TRAs. I've never heard it, or anything that could be remotely construed as it from the GC side. I assume it's a continuation of the argument that 'if you don't believe I am the sex I say I am you want to kill me' argument. Yes, I think this is nonsense too. It also isn't helpful. Most of the children who say they are trans have mental health difficulties. This feeds in to the narrative that the world is against them.

I'm GC

I don't think anyone says the wish trans people are dead.

I think the logical conclusion of saying trans is a delusion/lie, humans can't change sex and people shouldn't be forced to go along with the lie, is that there is no such thing as trans.

If there is no such thing as trans, how can trans people exist? They are just people.

It's semantics but when GC people say "noone thinks trans people should not exist" at the same time as outlining reasons why trans isn't real they are in fact sounding like they think trans doesn't exist Confused

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/07/2024 08:59

www.narcissisticabuserehab.com/types-of-flying-monkeys/

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/07/2024 08:57

Exactly, so it's bizarre that this line is pushed by people who consider themselves trans "allies".

It's being pushed by people who are highly manipulative, by them and their flying monkeys, both gullible naive people who want to be "inclusive" and people who know what they are doing.

Underthinker · 11/07/2024 08:54

This feeds in to the narrative that the world is against them.
Exactly, so its bizarre that this line is pushed by people who consider themselves trans "allies".

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/07/2024 08:53

It's a thought terminating cliche.

Igmum · 11/07/2024 08:52

The shouldn't exist/wish we were dead point is one made repeatedly by TRAs. I've never heard it, or anything that could be remotely construed as it from the GC side. I assume it's a continuation of the argument that 'if you don't believe I am the sex I say I am you want to kill me' argument. Yes, I think this is nonsense too. It also isn't helpful. Most of the children who say they are trans have mental health difficulties. This feeds in to the narrative that the world is against them.

CassieMaddox · 11/07/2024 08:50

OldCrone · 11/07/2024 08:22

Saying trans people shouldn't exist is fundamentally different from saying that people who say they are the opposite sex are deluded or lying.

People can't change sex. Fact. It follows that anyone who says they think they've changed sex is deluded or lying.

People can identify how they want as long as they don't force others to participate in their belief.

How would you define a trans person in a way that complies with what you have said above?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/07/2024 08:49

As pp said I don't think people should be sacked unfairly in any circumstances, for me "trans" comes under religion/belief or disability if they are diagnosed as genuinely psychologically dysphoric, and can be protected as such.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/07/2024 08:47

NecessaryScene · 11/07/2024 07:19

Do you think it should be legal for me to sack a person, simply because I don't like the fact that they say they are trans?

No, as long as they don't force you to play along.

If they're prepared to work without you pretending they're the opposite sex and without any disruptive behaviour then there's no beef.

Once trans people realise that other people are not compelled to pretend they're the opposite sex, then they will be in line with other religions, who realise they can't compel other people to cover their hair or eat kosher food or whatever.

The problem is that trans people currently are getting more protection than other people, because people are being punished by low level courts for not pretending.

So in the event that someone decides to kick up a stink because their employer is not going along with their beliefs, then I think the employer could be absolutely justified in sacking them for disruption/non-performance/whatever, and defending that in court on the basis of their own freedom of speech and belief rights. And fights like this need to be dragged into higher courts as necessary.

(And this extends to non-"trans" people who are part of this belief too - like that book-destroying bookseller woman. The problem is the authoritarian behaviour, not the actually being "trans", so the "trans" PC shouldn't be a cover for that sort of behaviour).

Employment law does allow for "reasonable accommodations" of beliefs; a man wearing clothes you would let a woman wear is reasonable (just as vice-versa). Dressing like a stripper or popping in the Canadian-style ginormous fake breasts would not be. And neither is compelling people to lie about you.

Excellent post.