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Miriam Cates

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CassieMaddox · 01/07/2024 23:54

New report says she was trustee at a church while gay conversion therapy was happening. The kind of conversion therapy that involves exorcism of demons.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c4ngprp5xdvo

As a director and trustee at the charity behind the church, external from September 2016 to September 2018, Mrs Cates, had safeguarding responsibilities for those who attended

Thought this might interest some posters on here. Not sure I would trust her with safeguarding after this, if indeed she retains her seat.

A close-up of former MP Miriam Cates

Miriam Cates: Tory candidate was trustee of church that ‘endorsed’ conversion therapy

A report finds St Thomas Philadelphia church in Sheffield had "supported" conversion therapy.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c4ngprp5xdvo

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KeirSpoutsTwaddle · 02/07/2024 12:07

Exorcism is not a word used by mainstream churches.

Church language is extremely context specific and open to misunderstanding. It's a culture.

Prayer ministry is supposed to be supervised and people should have training, precisely to avoid misunderstanding and hurt.

People may use phrases like 'to be delivered from a spirit of fear' which really only means 'help them to suffer less anxiety'.

It doesn't involve holding someone down while you sprinkle holy oil and water around casting out demons.

It's easily misrepresented though.

Note- I'm not saying that no one in any church has ever prayed abusively. It happens. But it's called spiritual abuse and is a safeguarding issue that we are all supposed to recognise and report.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 02/07/2024 12:00

UtilitarianNameChange · 02/07/2024 11:46

Exorcism isn’t therapy. Bit weird to conflate the two.

Exorcism is something that churches should be very cautious about. It is controversial within many denominations, and some practices of exorcism appear to me to be unjustifiable.

You are right that exorcism isn’t therapy. The term “conversion therapy” is in itself rather dodgy; the extremes when violence is used are definitely poorly described as “therapy”. Talking therapies are fine in my opinion when they are exploratory, and not fine when they are coercive, at which point they cease to be therapeutic. The dividing line between exploration and coercion perhaps depends on the history and mental state of the person seeing the therapist - what may be OK to say to one resilient person may be abusive to another traumatised person.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 02/07/2024 11:50

There is a grey area in which people may be seen by some as coercive or exerting undue pressure, but they are not being violent. The better churches recognise this, and when praying aloud for people they are led by the person who has asked for prayer, so avoid telling that person how to behave. It is quite possible that St Thomas Philadelphia had members who did not understand or did not follow this principle fully, but at what point is it reasonable to call this “conversion therapy”?

Would it be “conversion therapy” to pray for someone to be set free from a porn addiction, or a compulsive fetish? Not in my opinion, unless undue pressure was put on the person to conform to other people’s moral viewpoint. Would it be “conversion therapy” if someone confessed to voyeurism, and wanted to be free from that compulsion, and church members prayed for them?

Would it be “conversion therapy” if I were to tell my son that I disagree with his worldview and consider his behaviour to be disrespectful to women? Would it be “conversion therapy” if my son put pressure on me to conform to his transgender worldview?

There is a disturbing self-righteousness these days, both in some church circles and in some “progressive” circles, which demonises other worldviews and equates the expression of a moral standpoint with bigotry. Politicians need to be very careful about the reach of the law into grey areas.

Thelnebriati · 02/07/2024 11:50

Are you saying Miriam Cates is responsible for historic abuse?
Do you have evidence she is a safeguarding risk?

'guilt by association' is a logical fallacy.

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UtilitarianNameChange · 02/07/2024 11:46

Exorcism isn’t therapy. Bit weird to conflate the two.

CassieMaddox · 02/07/2024 11:39

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Oh OK. So noone should talk about historic abuse then. Wonder who would benefit from that 🤔

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CassieMaddox · 02/07/2024 11:38

BackToLurk · 02/07/2024 10:56

Yes, they 're in danger of losing their seats because they're Tories. The Labour 'pro-life' MPs aren't

There are very few of them compared to the Conservatives and I don't believe any of them are high profile in the party. I think only 2 Labour out of 30ish supported the time limit reduction motion.

The Conservatives are much more of a threat on this.

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PeppercornMill · 02/07/2024 11:02

14 years of a Tory government, no threat to abortion, but another 5 years and abortion would be under threat...

Clutching at straws there.

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BackToLurk · 02/07/2024 10:59

thirdfiddle · 02/07/2024 01:02

Timing of this story is /highly/ suspect. Which makes me think the story is probably suspect too. Throw mud at a politician days before an election. If it was going to stick, they'd not have waited till this week.

The timing is now because the official report has just been published. The original story was broken by a local Sheffield website 2 years ago.

BackToLurk · 02/07/2024 10:56

CassieMaddox · 02/07/2024 10:32

Abortion rights would definitely be under thread under another Conservative government.
https://righttolife.org.uk/news/general-election-2024-pro-life-mps-battling-to-keep-their-seats

Caroline Ansell was using the "decriminalise abortion" Bill as an opportunity to propose a lower time limit. Miriam Cates was insisting on a return to face to face appointments for abortion pills, despite knowing the state of the NHS waiting lists. Liam Fox was championing Heidi Crowters case regarding Downs syndrome and wanting to ban late terminations on that basis (which would affect a lot of women needing TFMR).

Look what happened in the US when people became complacent about abortion.

Yes, they 're in danger of losing their seats because they're Tories. The Labour 'pro-life' MPs aren't

User2460177 · 02/07/2024 10:47

CassieMaddox · 02/07/2024 10:34

Alternatively it could be that they are reporting the news 😂

The bbc don’t report the news. Or at least they are extremely selective about what they report and how.

Imnobody4 · 02/07/2024 10:47

CassieMaddox · 02/07/2024 10:33

It's a "start another thread and we can discuss it". I am not derailing this one.

Oh the irony.

User2460177 · 02/07/2024 10:46

Miriam cates is great. She has made it clear why she supports a conversion ban and that she doesn’t support gay conversion therapy in any form.

This is just more biased nonsense from the BBC. They would never report this in the case of a Muslim MP who had been a trustee of a mosque with dodgy associations. They are no longer fit for purpose

GrammarTeacher · 02/07/2024 10:44

She's also not really GC. She's a strong believer in traditional gender roles (just not for her - she can do what she wants).

GrammarTeacher · 02/07/2024 10:44

I'm not surprised, I've tried to raise Cates and her dangerous attitude to abortion on here before but apparently she can do no wrong.

CassieMaddox · 02/07/2024 10:41

KeirSpoutsTwaddle · 02/07/2024 09:25

“This ‘conversation therapy’ thing in the UK has about as much credibility as ‘period poverty’. It’s just an entryist’s tool.”

We have to be a bit careful with this one. There will be sub cultures that abuse children under the guise of expelling demons. Victoria Climbier for example. We mustn’t say ‘it never happens’ because there will be some extreme sects and cultures that will be abusive.

We can’t say it never happens, in the same way we don’t say ‘there is no slavery here’.

Safeguarding spectacularly fails when we think we are above reproach. I am well aware of the massive work on safeguarding underway throughout the CofE yet abusive bastards still manage to groom people into blindness.

"Expelling demons" seems to be exactly what was being practiced at this church.

I personally don't think "extreme social pressure" on someone not to be gay is OK either. Surprised by some of the comments here about how this is "tenuous" and not of interest.

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CassieMaddox · 02/07/2024 10:34

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Alternatively it could be that they are reporting the news 😂

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CassieMaddox · 02/07/2024 10:33

Sloejelly · 02/07/2024 09:10

So that is a ‘no’ then?

It's a "start another thread and we can discuss it". I am not derailing this one.

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CassieMaddox · 02/07/2024 10:32

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Abortion rights would definitely be under thread under another Conservative government.
https://righttolife.org.uk/news/general-election-2024-pro-life-mps-battling-to-keep-their-seats

Caroline Ansell was using the "decriminalise abortion" Bill as an opportunity to propose a lower time limit. Miriam Cates was insisting on a return to face to face appointments for abortion pills, despite knowing the state of the NHS waiting lists. Liam Fox was championing Heidi Crowters case regarding Downs syndrome and wanting to ban late terminations on that basis (which would affect a lot of women needing TFMR).

Look what happened in the US when people became complacent about abortion.

General Election 2024 - Pro-life MPs battling to keep their seats

Pro-life MPs in danger of losing their seats

The outlook on the debate concerning beginning and end-of-life issues could radically change in the next Parliament as a number of prominent pro-life MPs,

https://righttolife.org.uk/news/general-election-2024-pro-life-mps-battling-to-keep-their-seats

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ResisterOfTwaddleRex · 02/07/2024 10:23

thirdfiddle · 02/07/2024 01:02

Timing of this story is /highly/ suspect. Which makes me think the story is probably suspect too. Throw mud at a politician days before an election. If it was going to stick, they'd not have waited till this week.

This.

LaundryOnTheLine · 02/07/2024 10:19

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borntobequiet · 02/07/2024 09:45

Just listened to the headlines on Today on catch-up. It was very prominent. The BBC is probably positioning this as pushback against Jane and all the other unfavourable coverage of Labour’s policies.
It’s all they’ve got.

LaundryOnTheLine · 02/07/2024 09:41

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