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I just don't know who to vote for!!!!

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PCCmember · 30/06/2024 15:43

The election is in less than a week and I keep going round and round in circles not being able to decide who to vote for! I've quite politically engaged and I used to be an active member of a political party, but this time I really can't decide who to vote for. It's such a dismal choice and all parties have pretty negative aspects to their policies that I would find difficult to vote for. However personally I would prefer to vote for a candidate rather than spoil my ballot (totally respect those who chose to do so though!) even if I can only agree with some of their policies. This means choosing the least worst option, but I just can't seem to decide what this should be!

My constitutency is an incredibly safe Labour seat and the sitting MP will be re-elected. The choice facing me is as follows:

Liberal Democrat - This is the party a few years ago I would have described as my political home. However I quit the party over their complete disregard for women's and girl's rights to single-sex spaces. I have done the vote for policies quiz and it is stil the party whose policies I most strongly identify with (50%). I agree with their policies on democracy, economy, education, energy, health and social care, tax, immigration and transport. Given that no party will ever 100% align with my views if I am looking for the closest match, it should be the Lib Dems. But of course I completely disagree with their policies to introduce gender self-ID, end the spousal veto and to recognise non-binary identities in law. My local candidate is a (very) young man who has in the past called on Rosie Duffield to "reflect and say sorry".

Climate Party - A single issue party. I can't find any reference to their views on sex-based rights/gender identity. Can't find much about the local candidate.

Conservative - I don't have a strongly ideological objection to voting Conservative - indeed I have done so in the past. They were my second party (30% agreement) in the vote for policies quiz. However I don't feel that I can vote for this Conservative party due to their some of their policies - particularly immigration (Rwanda policy), the national service policy and the planned cuts to Higher Education (which is the industry which I work in!). However I of course support the policy to amend the Equality Act to make it clear that sex = biological sex. The local candidate has also made it unequivacably clear that he supports women's rights to same sex care, sports and services.

Reform - no thanks.

A completely random independent youtuber who seems to have got people to legally change their name to his so that he can stand in 11 constituencies!

Labour - I haven't been impressed at all by Keir Starmer's responses to the sex/gender issue and the shameful treatment of Rosie Duffield by him and his party. I also have a DD who is about to start secondary school at an Independent school so I just don't feel that I can vote Labour. The sittting MP (who will be re-elected) is a shadow deputy minister and is very much in the same vein as Keir Starmer (he used to be his deputy at one point). He avoids engaging with this issue and when he does he waffles about "safe spaces".

Worker's Party - George Galloway's Party. No thanks.

Green - although I do agree with some of their policies around public transport and PR, the party as a whole is too far left for me and the local candidate is TWAW.

So writing this out has made it clear to me that it's probably got to be either LD or Conservative, but I really can't decide which! If I were a single issue voter the choice would be easy, but other issues such as education, immigration, transport, health etc are all important too and I just can't decide which way I should hold my nose. Anyone else feeling completely unable to decide?

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YahdahYahdayYoo · 01/07/2024 11:12

I'm voting Tory.

a/ my constituency is LD/Tory knife edge
b/ the Tory isn't a tractor porn loon
c/ gender bandwagon is not single issue for me, it is a health scandal, a school scandal, a social and legal scandal
d/ the secret is blue or red the government's hands are tied. There's a lot less change they can effect than they'd like us to believe

I'm a former LD member, voted Labour most frequently, centre left, remainer. I'm now over my reluctance to vote for the Truss/Brexit/tractor porn/rees-mogg party.

Keep GI out of schools! Keep our kids away from cross sex hormones! Keep men out of single sex spaces!

ArabellaScott · 01/07/2024 10:48

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 01/07/2024 10:22

The polling report one puts my constituency closer than electoral calculus but still a massive labour lead, tories 2nd and reform 3rd quite a way behind. Every single poll says Labour will overturn the tory majority here. I'll vote against Labour simply so they are aware not everyone loves them. Even in seats Labour win they need to know they can't take their constituents for granted and they need to listen.

Yes. I don't think any political party deserves to crow about their performance, tbh. I suppose we want them all to be sober and sensible and thoughtful, rather than ebulliently victorius.

I don't think a thumping great 'super majority' is healthy at all.

SideEyeSally · 01/07/2024 10:45

I have tried to arrange a meeting with my local Lab candidate to try and discuss GC issues (I didn't say that was why in the email!) but haven't had a response. Given that it is between them and the SNP in my seat I think I'll hold my nose vote for Labour and then spend the next four years as a thorn in the MPs side showing up to surgeries and emailing often. The country, including it's women, won't survive more of the current Tory party so they need to go but GC women need to be firing up for a 4 year fight on sex-based rights.

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 01/07/2024 10:22

ArabellaScott · 01/07/2024 09:58

And tells me that my constituency is a very close race between SNP and Labour ....

Geez, it's even worse if you feel your vote may actually make a difference.

The polling report one puts my constituency closer than electoral calculus but still a massive labour lead, tories 2nd and reform 3rd quite a way behind. Every single poll says Labour will overturn the tory majority here. I'll vote against Labour simply so they are aware not everyone loves them. Even in seats Labour win they need to know they can't take their constituents for granted and they need to listen.

ArabellaScott · 01/07/2024 10:14

And I would point people again to Scotland to see how our PR system is working out.

There are pluses and minuses:a broader spread, a greater variety of representatives, more coalitions, versus - very niche interests gaining disproportionate power, more coalitions, and worst of all imo - you cannot get rid of someone.

Workasateamanddoitmyway · 01/07/2024 10:14

SlothOnARope · 01/07/2024 10:08

Maybe look at this as a work in progress/Under Construction election.

The choices are dismal, the system is broken. No single party can deliver all the things that need delivering, or anything close.

Vote for who you think is best of a bad bunch and then maybe sign the Make Votes Matter petition for PR (You can also play Spot the party missing from the movement for change).

makevotesmatter.org.uk/sign-the-petition-we-believe-proportional-representation-should-be-a-priority-for-the-next-government/

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SlothOnARope · 01/07/2024 10:08

Maybe look at this as a work in progress/Under Construction election.

The choices are dismal, the system is broken. No single party can deliver all the things that need delivering, or anything close.

Vote for who you think is best of a bad bunch and then maybe sign the Make Votes Matter petition for PR (You can also play Spot the party missing from the movement for change).

makevotesmatter.org.uk/sign-the-petition-we-believe-proportional-representation-should-be-a-priority-for-the-next-government/

WatchOutMissMarpleIsAbout · 01/07/2024 10:08

Ok thank you I’ve looked and it’s 0.2% in it for a Labour majority. I’m even more confused 😬😬

postal vote so I need to decide tonight

Workasateamanddoitmyway · 01/07/2024 10:00

This is a negative election (for the first time in my voting life). I don't think I am voting positively for any party but I definitely am dreading a Labour super-majority government so I will vote for the candidate best placed to beat the Labour MP (bit of a forlorn hope). I'm in a previously safe Tory seat but this time the polls have Labour to take it unfortunately. I don't like Starmer. He supported Corbyn and won't have changed his views since the last election. It's amazing how everyone seems to have blotted that memory out but that's the fault of the Conservatives that they have made themselves an even worse looking option!

As an aside, Sir Keir has a title but he's a socialist which does not sit well with me re whether his principles are really genuine. Maybe it's a good thing for the country that he might not be a genuine socialist after all 🤷‍♀️

ArabellaScott · 01/07/2024 09:58

And tells me that my constituency is a very close race between SNP and Labour ....

Geez, it's even worse if you feel your vote may actually make a difference.

bellinisurge · 01/07/2024 09:58

Spoil my paper.

My conscience won't let me do otherwise

ArabellaScott · 01/07/2024 09:56

The pollingreport site seems a bit clearer about what polls its basing its stats on.

WatchOutMissMarpleIsAbout · 01/07/2024 09:56

Thank you!

Riffraffarchitect · 01/07/2024 09:55

I’m also struggling. I have changed my mind on who to vote for almost daily!

People say vote for your local MP - well my local MP is Conservative and she has been absolutely brilliant! No joke. She has made some amazing changes to our local infrastructure & helped create many jobs. And yes, I am shocked as well.

But I would feel guilty voting Tory. Concerned voting Labour and shame voting Reform, Lib Dems and the rest are just pointless.

Obviously Labour will win anyway regardless of what I decide

ArabellaScott · 01/07/2024 09:50

Actually this site looks worthwhile, too and is supposedly non partisan:

pollingreport.uk/

ArabellaScott · 01/07/2024 09:46

https://www.electoralcalculus.co.uk/

Supposedly very accurate reports/predictions.

https://www.getvoting.org/

Maybe biased towards 'Remain' but still may be useful for working out tactical voting, seeing who is second, etc. (edited for wrong link)

Electoral Calculus

https://www.electoralcalculus.co.uk

WatchOutMissMarpleIsAbout · 01/07/2024 09:43

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 01/07/2024 08:37

That's one of the issues with our system. I can't vote for the party I'd prefer to because they don't have a candidate in my constituency. Labour will win this seat, there's no doubt about that so I'm minded to vote tory just to send a message and hurt reform (they could take 2nd here)

Having just checked up to date poll reform are going to be 2nd here, won't hurt labours majority though

Edited

What is the up to date poll you checked please? That may help me make my decision- I’ve googled but can’t have got confused TIA

EvesamtsirhC · 01/07/2024 09:35

I'm also in an SNP seat. I think I'm going to vote Labour but I'm not entirely comfortable with that decision.

BezMills · 01/07/2024 09:24

ArabellaScott · 01/07/2024 08:47

I'm in a safe SNP seat. Pray for me.

Thoughts and prayers, ooft.

ArabellaScott · 01/07/2024 08:47

I'm in a safe SNP seat. Pray for me.

ArabellaScott · 01/07/2024 08:45

Ramblingnamechanger · 01/07/2024 07:57

if enough of us spoil because we feel there is no suitable candidate, they might be noticed. If you have someone who has been good on the issues that concern you vote for them.

I'm sorry but they won't notice.

Spoiling just does not make the slightest blip on the radar, although I can empathise with the desire to make a protest.

CatMumSlave · 01/07/2024 08:43

@BaronessEllarawrosaurus

I'm not sure what to do!!

Boudiccaofsteel · 01/07/2024 08:42

i can see the concern over the NHS and public services but the ultimate issue is whether a Labour supermajority is good for women and girls. If you think the answer to that is no then vote tactically if you can to prevent it except if it means either a Lib Dem gets in or an candidate of what ever party who is a gender identity evangelist .

the problem we have with all parties is the lack of MPs these days who have had a real
job outside politics. If we had more M
ps who had worked in public services they would be better whatever party .

However we have to think of the calibre of some of the inexperienced Labour candidates many whose experience comes from charities and quangos who we know are captured and are likely to be gender extremists. Starmer cannot answer the questions put to him on women's rights which suggests there is a behind the scenes deal and a Labour supermajority risks him being outed and a raft of more extreme. MPs running amok with no effective opposition We've not had that before in British politics and it is scary

I wish the press would delve into the background of some of these new Labour candidates and subject their views on women's rights to full scrutiny as that to me is the real risk here. Like one of those films where the heroine is engaged in a duel with one foe and doesn't notice the army of baddies creeping up behind her ....

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 01/07/2024 08:37

CatMumSlave · 01/07/2024 07:28

@BaronessEllarawrosaurus

So I just don't bother?

That's one of the issues with our system. I can't vote for the party I'd prefer to because they don't have a candidate in my constituency. Labour will win this seat, there's no doubt about that so I'm minded to vote tory just to send a message and hurt reform (they could take 2nd here)

Having just checked up to date poll reform are going to be 2nd here, won't hurt labours majority though

highame · 01/07/2024 08:20

I posted this on the other thread

This has been driving me mad. Always voted Labour but did spoil my ballot last time. I'm in a safe Tory seat but my vote counts to the percentages, so I, for one time only will vote Tory. My guy is ok and understands my points of view and doesn't misunderstand the debate. I am absolutely terrified of Reform so I can kill two birds with one stone. Sorted, but I never thought I would put a cross beside a Tory candidate. How times change.

Now I've made my decision, I feel much better

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