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Schools - any sense the trend is waning?

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tobee · 18/06/2024 16:24

My dc are long past school age. And pretty much missed the trend anyway.

Just wondering if any parents or teachers are seeing any evidence that declaring yourself trans or non binary etc is going out of style?

Just asking for an overview based on anecdote fwiw.

Even though there seems to have been a shift since Cass etc I'm hoping this is reflected in our young people.

I'm particularly interested in what's coming from the students rather than what schools are doing.

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Angrymum22 · 19/06/2024 20:41

DS finished school last year. I think the pandemic was a bit of a fire break and the whole trend is gradually fizzling out. There was one trans child in his year but they were accepted in a “you do you” fashion so if it was an attempt to gain attention ( I don’t think it was ) it failed.
My eldest niece was at uni during the peak indoctrination period and was totally “emperor’s new clothes”, her younger sister, again pandemic interrupted, is very much an eye roller like DS. They are tolerant and respectful but you would not catch them on a trans rights demo.

AthenaWhite · 19/06/2024 20:30

Autistic kids, mainly girls, have been so badly let down by organisations set up to help them. I am so angry at them.

StomachAcheAgain · 19/06/2024 18:34

She has only received her diagnosis recently. I am tentatively looking into support groups. My worry is that organisations like the Autistic Society are very captured. My daughter is completely in awe of people who are different and would find trans people very cool.

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 19/06/2024 18:27

ND girl in my family insists she wants to transition... only being held back as GC parents told her it's not possible until you're over 18. We're all praying she'll have forgotten about it when she gets to 18.

Praying so hard for that tide to turn...

tobee · 19/06/2024 16:57

StomachAcheAgain · 19/06/2024 15:56

It’s so scary how much this seems to capture ND children. I can see how my own DD with ASD would totally love all this stuff if it was more prevalent at her school. It’s terrifying.

It's interesting* isn't it? My 28 year old dd, diagnosed ASD and ADHD, who largely missed this, is gc partly because she would see it as lying for want of a better term. That seeing things in black and white autism tendency.

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tobee · 19/06/2024 16:53

I've been very worried it would be culturally entrenched in schools and healthcare settings etc. Even if law goes the way I hope.

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StomachAcheAgain · 19/06/2024 15:56

It’s so scary how much this seems to capture ND children. I can see how my own DD with ASD would totally love all this stuff if it was more prevalent at her school. It’s terrifying.

Datun · 19/06/2024 13:56

Heartening.

And surely it must be partly due to the fact that many schools have stopped teaching the genderbread nonsense and do you feel like a princess or GI Joe, based on stereotyping.

WeMeetInFairIthilien · 19/06/2024 13:41

I agree with the pp about year 9.

Once they leave school, I suspect most of it will be put of the system.

There are 3 trans identifying children in year 9 in my school. All are ND. One has been allowed to change her name by deed poll by her parents. She is in a relationship with a boy who identifies as a girl.

However, all of our school systems identify them by their biological sex.

tobee · 19/06/2024 12:53

Thanks for these replies. Interesting.

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dougalfromthemagicroundabout · 19/06/2024 12:40

By the way, if we're allowed to id as whatever we want, I id as a millionaire and someone who's paid off their mortgage. Sadly the bank is incredibly bigoted and refuses to affirm my delusion deeply held inner identity.

It is a bloody deeply held inner identity. I'd be able to cope with menopause a lot better if I didn't have to do any work (and could pay a gardener, cook and cleaner out of my inner millions).

dougalfromthemagicroundabout · 19/06/2024 11:31

PHSE has become his most despised lesson after he was given a detention in y7 for saying well ok then I identify as a spoon then when the silly teacher (now gone thankully) was telling them about th ekid identifying as a cat and that you can identify as whatever you want.

So you can't identify as whatever you want, then?

Did you challenge the detention? Blatantly unfair, and poor teaching, to tell a child something as obviously ridiculous as 'you can identify as whatever you want' and then a critical thinker (which they're supposed to encourage!) says 'well I id as a spoon' and then the response is no, actually you can't id as whatever you want - even though the teacher has literally just said that, it has to be from some nebulous list of dubious 'right think'.

I actually think this is serious misconduct on the part of the teacher. How is that not grooming?

Better to id as a spoon than the opposite sex, you're unlikely to get some cowboy doctors offering bodily modification and drugs for that.

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 19/06/2024 11:23

Don’t let your guard down. Plenty of allies in the ( probably) incoming Government.

iknke45 · 19/06/2024 11:15

Although the kids seem to be off it, there are still plenty of adults on it. And still tonnes of money being pumped into it.

blibblibs · 18/06/2024 20:56

I so wish the back peddling would happen quicker in schools after the Cass report but we're definitely not there yet at our secondary school.
Trans identifying daughter is still treated as special and it wasn't that long ago DS was questioned for calling her his sister 😔
But an email today did have her real name on it and that's a first . Still a long way to go though.

Triestre · 18/06/2024 20:45

passe 👏👏👏👏

MrsOvertonsWindow · 18/06/2024 18:42

Some reassuring comments.
Just like the mess Starmer's got himself into with his nonsensical witterings about not saying only women have a cervix now having to return to reality and stop lying to the public, certain captured schools are faced with having to roll back their extreme trans capture without it being noticed.
Hopefully parents are now onto this and will help push any reluctant schools back to safeguarding children, facts and science.

LittleLittleRex · 18/06/2024 18:40

My kids are in a city centre school where it's been hugely popular for 5-6years and has definitely changed from a sense of that child being deep and special to eye rolling at the attention seekers. It's definitely waning.

A few genuinely troubled kids are grouped in with the dramatic/look at me kids, which is a shame as they don't get real help

I have friends who moved out to the villages and it's just getting going there, parents falling over themselves to pander to the first non binary kid in the village school.

So I think it depends on where you are.

Haggisfish3 · 18/06/2024 18:39

Deffo on the wane and simile to one pp, my 14 year old is now firmly a lesbian, having been through a brief non binary stage. Thank fuck.

AIstolemylunch · 18/06/2024 18:27

I have older teens and they are definitely in the cringe/eye roll camp - but never really sucked in. 13y old is a bit more 'but don't we have to be kind and trans rights?' since starting secondary school, but it is rapidly waning now that PHSE has become his most despised lesson after he was given a detention in y7 for saying well ok then I identify as a spoon then when the silly teacher (now gone thankully) was telling them about th ekid identifying as a cat and that you can identify as whatever you want.

My impression is that the schools have used the Cass report and draft government guidelines to as an excuse to be able to drop it all a bit.

nothingcomestonothing · 18/06/2024 17:56

My year 10 - it's definitely seriously uncool to be trans/NB now and there are desisters, though mine was always a sceptic.

My year 7 - bemused by the trans/NB in the year, and when we had a parent zoom re the school residential the parent of said child asked in the chat what accomodation would be provided for trans and non binary (after the teacher said sleeping accomodation is single sex)- deafening silence. I think a few years ago there would have been fawning from other parents, now tumbleweed.

So progress towards sanity I think - I think the teens will get there before the captured staff though.

tobee · 18/06/2024 17:47

teawamutu · 18/06/2024 16:49

My slight worry is that the demographic most taken by this craze are eventually going to end up running things...

Yes of course but hopefully they will have changed their minds. What we do at 13/14/15 usually becomes "what was I thinking?"

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tobee · 18/06/2024 17:45

Sounds, on the whole, reasonably positive.

I'm also hoping that if students are struggling with mh they are getting proper help rather than social media/classmates whoever thinking transing is the fix all.

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Singleandproud · 18/06/2024 17:44

@OriginalUsername2 I had a similar response from DDs Primary head when I flagged that having the new houses named after only male explorers, several of which had actively and famously participated in the slave trade might be an issue. To be told the staff had thought about it long and hard and it wouldn't be changing.

Well, blow me down with a feather - when the school went back after COVID and importantly after the George Floyd protests and increased Black Lives Matter movement those houses were suddenly North, South, East and West.

WarriorN · 18/06/2024 17:38

And experienced

Those who were caught by this craze 5-3 years ago are now entering the workplace

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