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Scared and disheartened today

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teawamutu · 08/06/2024 12:39

The Rosie Duffield interview in the Times, the commitment to make GRCs easier to get in Labour's manifesto, all the sneering about culture wars, the Tories doing SO bloody badly...

It feels like we're about to lose all the ground we fought so hard to regain, let alone the potential advances that just won't happen now.

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NoWordForFluffy · 09/06/2024 10:51

RufustheFactualReindeer · 09/06/2024 10:09

We have labour, tory, libdem, green, reform, heritage, and an independent

its a tory safe seat, there is no way they won’t win but i will look at the independent as im not voting tory or reform and i really don’t like the sound of heritage

Both Heritage and Reform want to repeal the EqA by the look of it.

Heritage seem very much 'it wasn't like this in my day...political correctness gone mad' with their policies.

NoWordForFluffy · 09/06/2024 10:48

Worrying that the party with the former human rights barrister at its helm is the one which is 'legally illiterate'. Which raises a MASSIVE credibility issue for him, IMO.

He should be judged as the lawyer he is, and this is exceptionally concerning. Why is Labour's response a lie, essentially? Because Keir knows it is. What a fucking mess we're in with the choices we have next month.

RufustheFactualReindeer · 09/06/2024 10:09

We have labour, tory, libdem, green, reform, heritage, and an independent

its a tory safe seat, there is no way they won’t win but i will look at the independent as im not voting tory or reform and i really don’t like the sound of heritage

user8800 · 09/06/2024 09:54

Sigh.
So no one for me to vote for.

Floisme · 09/06/2024 09:36

Thanks for that article. I normally find Sonia Sodha very measured in her criticism so it's cheered me up a bit to see her going for the Labour jugular.

RedToothBrush · 09/06/2024 09:15

Disc0mbobulated · 08/06/2024 14:30

I've been unsure what to do for ages now. I really don't want to vote Conservative but couldn't see how I could vote Labour either due to their inability to define a woman. I'm English but live in Scotland now. I still care what happens in England. There are no independents standing in my constituency so it's just the usual suspects.

After watching various debates etc this week I'd decided that getting the tories out was the only way to give the NHS a fighting chance. Another 5 years of the tories would probably kill it off for good. So I'd decided to vote Labour and hope that we can bring the gender stuff crashing down around their ears, like it has in Scotland.

Now after reading this thread I'm back to undecided again 😖

I'm torn.

I understand the importance of having a good opposition AS WELL AS a good party in power for a healthy society.

Unfortunately we have a crap party in power which looks like it will be taken over by another crap party and a collapse in a good opposition and the risk of Reform and the LDs becoming bigger than the Tories and this then entitled to more airtime on public broadcasters (the popular vote is actually important for this - everyone says well my vote is wasted, but in terms of agenda setting and political debate for the next five years it's actually massively important even if your candidate 'has no chance'.

highame · 09/06/2024 09:04

DrBlackbird · 08/06/2024 13:04

I’ve been wavering for a long time but Rosie’s interview has, I think, done it for me. For the first time in my life, I’ll vote conservative. Really can’t believe this is where I find myself. I’ve seen firsthand the damage GI has done and is doing to vulnerable young people and cannot in all good conscience vote for any party who blindly and obstinately continue to parrot #bekind when it’s the utter opposite of being kind to children, teenagers and young adults.

Edited to add that if Starmer is willing to be patronising as well as duplicitous and specious about this topic, what else?

Edited

I'm finding this really difficult. I Labour until Corbyn, so spoilt my last two ballot papers.

A super majority for Starmer would mean and end to any progress and interestingly, Starmer has shifted on just about everything, except self-id light

TheaBrandt · 09/06/2024 08:37

They can’t put the genie back in the bottle. Women have woken up to it.

Dd aged 15 had this topic in her PHSE. She’s at a girls school. She was a be kind TWAW when younger but my influence must have gone in! She put her hand up and said people should be able to do what they want but girls need their single sex spaces. She’s a cool girl so all the others agreed. Dd then said her middle aged teacher “looked like she was going to cry” and said how proud she was of them as she wasn’t allowed to say that but they had said it.

SnakesAndArrows · 09/06/2024 08:26

ItsFunToBeAVampire · 08/06/2024 23:10

Well I won't be voting Reform but surely I could also say:

Voters should think carefully about the consequences of voting Labour. Your non-GC vote will be portrayed by Starmer as being support for his gender-woo policies. You may be OK with that of course, which is fine, but I’d rather stick pins in my eyes.

I doubt I'll vote at all, all the options are rubbish.

You aren’t wrong.

But there is a groundswell of GC Labour voices, and I think Labour is the least worst option overall, because they otherwise most closely align with my views on other things. That’s not to say I won’t be writing to my Labour candidate and likely MP…

What has the world come to, when we’re having to have these conversations in 2024?

VeronicasMonocle · 09/06/2024 01:09

I am British but have lived in a different - and completely gender captured - country for the last few years. I'm planning to move back to Britain in the not too distant future and one of the things I'm looking forward to is living in a country where women's and children's rights and interests are so much stronger (and have so much more legal protection) because of Forstater, Roz Adams, Jo Phoenix, JKR, Kathleen Stock, the Women who wouldn't Wheesht, Esses, Cass etc.

I share all the concerns about what a Labour win will mean for all of the gains women have made (and I would normally be a Labour/LibDem voter myself). But even so, regardless of the outcome of the election I don't think these gains can be simply overridden or wiped out. It might be cold comfort but they are part of a long haul fight and a big part of that is women feeling like they can speak out against the erosion of their rights. This is definitely not something I feel like I could do where I live now. British terfs have created a culture shift.

Maybe I'm overstating how far we've come and I'm looking at the UK situation with rose-tinted glasses because I live somewhere that is so very far behind in this fight. But I'm looking forward to coming home and having my speech protected by the Forstater judgement and the changes that Cass has brought, which impacts my field of work.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 08/06/2024 23:11

Simply being Gender Critical (not that Reform are, they are at most Gender Traditional) is not enough for a party to gain my vote. However being Gender Gullible is enough for a party to lose my vote.

ItsFunToBeAVampire · 08/06/2024 23:10

SnakesAndArrows · 08/06/2024 22:51

They may know what a woman is, but I think their view of what a woman should be and should do is unlikely to align with second wave feminism. That’s aside from their abhorrent views on several other topics.

Single-issue voters should think carefully about the consequences of voting Reform. Your GC vote will be portrayed by Farage as being support for his far right policies. You may be OK with that of course, which is fine, but I’d rather stick pins in my eyes.

Well I won't be voting Reform but surely I could also say:

Voters should think carefully about the consequences of voting Labour. Your non-GC vote will be portrayed by Starmer as being support for his gender-woo policies. You may be OK with that of course, which is fine, but I’d rather stick pins in my eyes.

I doubt I'll vote at all, all the options are rubbish.

ThreeWordHarpy · 08/06/2024 23:08

I don’t think anyone on this thread has said they would vote Reform based on the position they hold on sex v gender. Just discussed their position.

Anyway, even if they did plan to vote for them, so what. Reform are a legitimate political party and even if I find the majority of their manifesto to be abhorrent, other people are allowed to hold different opinions, being as we are in a democracy and all of that.

SnakesAndArrows · 08/06/2024 22:51

HelenaTranscart · 08/06/2024 22:42

I believe Reform and Farage are anti woke and support gender critical views. I asked their campaign manager in Scotland as I've been asking all the candidates so they know it's an issue.

They may know what a woman is, but I think their view of what a woman should be and should do is unlikely to align with second wave feminism. That’s aside from their abhorrent views on several other topics.

Single-issue voters should think carefully about the consequences of voting Reform. Your GC vote will be portrayed by Farage as being support for his far right policies. You may be OK with that of course, which is fine, but I’d rather stick pins in my eyes.

HelenaTranscart · 08/06/2024 22:42

I believe Reform and Farage are anti woke and support gender critical views. I asked their campaign manager in Scotland as I've been asking all the candidates so they know it's an issue.

PickAChew · 08/06/2024 22:28

I used to vote for the second party in my constituency. Lib dems 😞 and they're far from deposit losers, here.

ThreeWordHarpy · 08/06/2024 22:19

BezMills · 08/06/2024 19:27

There's a nice Venn diagram somewhere

This one? Grin

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FarmCFer · 08/06/2024 22:03

SnakesAndArrows · 08/06/2024 21:18

You surely aren’t going to vote Tory, though? They don’t really care about women’s rights and they will usher in the US healthcare system simply by doing nothing.

Spoiled ballot? Vote for the next biggest party in your constituency?

Ooh. Yes definitely one of the latter two options. Though I live in a very staunchly labour area.

SinnerBoy · 08/06/2024 22:01

NoWordForFluffy · Today 21:21

I wish I had a PoW candidate

To be honest, we also have an independent, I voted for him in the mayoral election, but he didn't get in - Kim McGuinness did.

ArabellaScott · 08/06/2024 21:45

And the abandoning of children.

ArabellaScott · 08/06/2024 21:45

FlirtsWithRhinos · 08/06/2024 21:08

When people say "it's not as important as XYZ", I wonder where their line is. If a party was saying all the right things about NHS, education, social services, support for those in poverty etc, but also intended to legalise slavery would that cross their line? I hope so.

What about banning [insert XYZ religion]? Would that be too much?

How about banning competitive sports? Or even just football? Would we be ok with losing football as the price of getting a government that will hopefully restart real investment in society?

Crazy right? No one would ever accept that.

And yet we are supposed to consider it reasonable to lose the literal definition of every single person who currently believes herself to be a woman because of her body, and with that the loss of any rights, voice or political identity based on the fact of our sex.

It's the lying.

It's suggesting we can lie just about this one thing because it makes some men happy. Even though it adversely affects women.

It's the lying and the sexism.

RhannionKPSS · 08/06/2024 21:37

Join your local WRN as they are doing a lot of research & work about the parties.

TheaBrandt · 08/06/2024 21:24

Surely there has been too much sunlight now with the Cass report and what happened in Scotland? Women have woken up.

NoWordForFluffy · 08/06/2024 21:21

I wish I had a PoW candidate, @SinnerBoy.