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Line managing someone who talks about "pregnant people" - how to gently tell her to use "woman"?

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LittlePrecious · 20/05/2024 16:29

I am line managing someone on a project about pregnancy.

She keeps using the phrase "pregnant people" and it turns my stomach.

What I want to say is "Pull yourself together, get a fucking grip, and use the word woman". But I feel I need to be slightly more tactful than that. But I'm not sure what to actually say because its such a blindingly obvious thing to have to say.

I work in academia where things are fraught. I don't want this backfiring on me.

Please do you have any suggestions for how I can phrase "just fucking say woman, its not a dirty word" tactfully and without putting myself at risk? I may need to commit this phrase to writing as well so there may be a paper trail.

Thank you!

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Cazpar · 20/05/2024 21:39

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/05/2024 21:21

Does 'people' not encompass everybody, and therefore incorrect as everybody cannot get pregnant, only women?

Not when it's preceded by the "pregnant" condition.

See also: tall people, blonde people etc.

Pregnant people is perfectly correct. It is not as clear as pregnant women, this is true. But it's not incorrect.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/05/2024 21:21

HelterSkelter224 · 20/05/2024 20:37

@SirChenjins as a PP has said, NHS literature refers to pregnant people. She's consistent with the NHS. Also, the term "people" includes women therefore she is factually correct.

Does 'people' not encompass everybody, and therefore incorrect as everybody cannot get pregnant, only women?

JanesLittleGirl · 20/05/2024 21:20

I wish that male people could get pregnant. Maternity services would be turbocharged.

Looksgood · 20/05/2024 20:56

SirChenjins · 20/05/2024 20:34

Her boss who requires her to stick to biological facts.

If I told the academics I manage what stance to take on ideological issues, there'd be murder.

The make-up and hierarchy of the project team matters in this case, but this would be a project discussion, not an order from the boss.

Hepwo · 20/05/2024 20:53

You are perfectly reasonable for preferring real life language and not using the identity driven alternative.

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Looksgood · 20/05/2024 20:53

If you're at a university, and you're her line manager, are you actually responsible for the research output?

If you're her supervisor or project lead, this would seem to be within your remit. If you're head of department or such, and not connected with the research project, I'd leave her to work with her research group and peer reviewers.

I would write women, but academics should be able to choose (and defend) their use of language. They shouldn't all sing from the same hymn sheet. And their managers shouldn't undermine this.

If it's a project you're actually working on, different story and room for an academic discussion.

Justme56 · 20/05/2024 20:50

When you start dismantling the word women from pregnancy all sorts of things happen. When it becomes ‘people’ what you are allowing is for all ‘people’ (both male and female) to start having a say on important issues like abortion rights etc.

Hepwo · 20/05/2024 20:47

HelterSkelter224 · 20/05/2024 20:37

@SirChenjins as a PP has said, NHS literature refers to pregnant people. She's consistent with the NHS. Also, the term "people" includes women therefore she is factually correct.

The term "people" includes every human on the planet and is therefore incorrect.

Runor · 20/05/2024 20:40

I think there’s an academic point here too, if you start using data……issues which affect ‘pregnant people’ v the population as a whole compared with issues which affect pregnant women v the population of women will give very different results; so it is really important to use appropriate language otherwise the data won’t make sense

NutellaEllaElla · 20/05/2024 20:39

You could refer to the Plain English Campaign which is focused on making public information clear and concise. It's so that people of all intelligence and literacy skills in English can have the best chance of understanding public communications.

I also like what Cofaki says - just change it, no discussion.

SirChenjins · 20/05/2024 20:39

HelterSkelter224 · 20/05/2024 20:37

@SirChenjins as a PP has said, NHS literature refers to pregnant people. She's consistent with the NHS. Also, the term "people" includes women therefore she is factually correct.

Perhaps in some part of the NHS but not all of it and there is a move to stop it, and rightly so. The RCOG uses women - so use that.

HelterSkelter224 · 20/05/2024 20:37

@SirChenjins as a PP has said, NHS literature refers to pregnant people. She's consistent with the NHS. Also, the term "people" includes women therefore she is factually correct.

SirChenjins · 20/05/2024 20:34

HelterSkelter224 · 20/05/2024 20:33

Don't gently tell her anything, she can say pregnant people if she likes! Who are you to police her choice of language?!

Her boss who requires her to stick to biological facts.

HelterSkelter224 · 20/05/2024 20:33

Don't gently tell her anything, she can say pregnant people if she likes! Who are you to police her choice of language?!

Peonies12 · 20/05/2024 20:32

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 20/05/2024 18:01

That's great that you're happy; many are not.

As pp have said, referring to people instead of women pushes women into the background even on issues of female health.

It's confusing for people who are neurodiverse or whose first language isn't English.

Out of interest, how do you refer to the parent who carries and gives birth to the baby? Because sometimes we need to know which of the parents we are referring to - they aren't interchangeable.

IIRC the government have told the NHS to stop this inappropriate use of language and say what they mean ie pregnant women.

OP it really depends on where your funding is coming from as to what definition you'll have to go with.

As the birthing parent. It is better to differentiate that way because not all mums are the birthing parent.

SirChenjins · 20/05/2024 20:31

Could this be language the research board prefers or the phrase most used in the literature she will be citing

Let’s hope that no research board prefers to introduce confusing terms which has an impact on health literacy that lead to confusion for certain population groups and variations in health outcomes. That would be very concerning and should be corrected. Ditto if she’s citing literature which does the same. That’s not policing language, that’s correcting incorrect terminology.

GelatoPistacchio · 20/05/2024 20:27

Why is it acceptable to call another woman a 'twat' as some have done on this thread?Particularly on a feminism board!

Is she policing your language, because if so then that isn't on. But you can't police hers either. Could this be language the research board prefers or the phrase most used in the literature she will be citing?

You have given us very little to go on here

Cofaki · 20/05/2024 20:25

If you have seniority, then I would just add in the footnote as suggested by others and then simply edit the document to change people to women.

I wouldn't even discuss it. I would just do it.

Pallisers · 20/05/2024 20:19

Peonies12 · 20/05/2024 17:01

I'm pregnant and I am very happy to be referred to as a 'pregnant person'. That's what I am. Really, pick your battles. I always say people, even if talking about pregnancy, likewise I'd always say parent rather than mother or father. All NHS stuff about pregnancy that I've seen refers to people, so she's being consistent with that.

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And that is fine for you. Can't say I'd even be much engaged myself if it was a HCP referring specifically to me in the doctor's office - I might roll my eyes a bit but wouldn't be offended as such.

But referring to "pregnant people" in a research setting or when discussing consequences of pregnancy whether it be impact on health, earning power, social integration, whatever, completely obfuscates the reality that pregnancy only happens to women and girls and therefore women and girls are the only ones who feel these impacts. It creates a fiction that the all people in society carry the burden of bearing and delivering babies - they don't. Only women and girls.

After the Dobbs decision in the US there was a whole ton of "this affects provision of healthcare for pregnant people" as if the whole population was affected. It wasn't. only women and girls are suffering the health consequences - many of them significant. Not "people". Even my TWAW daughters were up in arms about it.

Timeandtune · 20/05/2024 20:13

Honestly OP I totally get where you are coming from but I would leave it.
i work in the third sector and face similar issues of language on a daily basis . I have no freedom of speech.

DodoPatrol · 20/05/2024 20:09

Depends on the audience.

For scientific study of women's health, I've seen footnotes along the lines suggested previously: 'In this report, for brevity, we use 'woman' to mean a female person of any age. We recognise that not all those affected identify as women.'

If the information is going to be for general reading, a useful guide is sometimes 'can it be accurately translated by the 9 year old who is interpreting for his mum?'

(I know how to say woman in about sixteen different languages, thanks to a lockdown Duolingo habit, but would only recognise 'person' in two or three.)

EarthSight · 20/05/2024 20:07

Are you prepared to be hounded out of your job or harassed by students? I'm not saying it will happen, but you need to be prepared for how this can unravel, no matter how tactful you are.

Grammarnut · 20/05/2024 19:52

Peonies12 · 20/05/2024 17:01

I'm pregnant and I am very happy to be referred to as a 'pregnant person'. That's what I am. Really, pick your battles. I always say people, even if talking about pregnancy, likewise I'd always say parent rather than mother or father. All NHS stuff about pregnancy that I've seen refers to people, so she's being consistent with that.

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But other women are not happy to be called a 'pregnant person', it feels alien and distancing. Only women become pregnant, so saying 'pregnant people' is erasing that fact.

Grammarnut · 20/05/2024 19:48

Peonies12 · 20/05/2024 17:03

As she is correct.

Non-binary and transmen are both women. They can only get pregnant because they are women. What they think in their heads is irrelevant. Anyway, the OP can point out that women with identities can be approached in the best way for them, but that most women object to being called 'pregnant people'.

FrogTheWarrior · 20/05/2024 19:43

Turns your stomach?! I question your motives.

She’s technically correct too.