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Asking a school what their policy on gender questioning children is?

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CiaoBe · 16/04/2024 08:25

Has anyone done this?

I know what it is in reality (affirm behind parents back, change name and pronouns without parental knowledge)

But after the cass report I'd like to ask them what it is in writing.

I'm considering making a complaint.

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Bluelagoonlover · 16/04/2024 22:01

Yes, I've done it. I spoke to the head of safe guarding (last year) and I kept my views under wraps. I was reassured that trans kids in school were being supported with family involvement and that they would never keep this information a secret from family . I was also reassured about single sex spaces and sport being preserved.

EasternStandard · 16/04/2024 18:01

CiaoBe · 16/04/2024 10:11

I've emailed asking for the guidelines they were following when they socially transitioned my daughter behind me back.

Am feeling quite nervous as I basically laid everything out and told them they've damaged my daughter and it never should have happened.

Hope it goes well op, it sounds damaging

MrsOvertonsWindow · 16/04/2024 17:59

Congratulations @CiaoBe.

Depending on their response (or maybe despite their response) you might want to do a subject access request (SAR) asking for her school records - just in case you / she ever wants to go down the legal route in challenging the school's behaviour?

Only the courts can remove parental rights - schools can't breach the law by transitioning children in secret from their parents and not expect consequences.

badgeronthedrums · 16/04/2024 17:39

I will be doing the same next year once my daughter has left (but for now we need them to write the UCAS references...)

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CiaoBe · 16/04/2024 16:49

WeMeetInFairIthilien · 16/04/2024 16:17

You have made such an important step @CiaoBe

Well done!

Thankyou. I sent the email this morning.

I'll update with any responses.

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WeMeetInFairIthilien · 16/04/2024 16:17

You have made such an important step @CiaoBe

Well done!

LogicLoverLlama · 16/04/2024 10:53

CiaoBe · 16/04/2024 10:13

If they phone should I ignore and request all communication around this be in writing?

For me, always writing. Conversations are not worth the paper they are written on, as it were.

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CiaoBe · 16/04/2024 10:42

SaltPorridge · 16/04/2024 10:35

Not ignore, but thank them for calling and ask them to put everything in writing.
At my daughter's school they were selling cupcakes for a Brighton-based charity - and we are nowhere near Brighton either.
Is yours primary or secondary?

High school.

I've not asked about PSHE and other curriculum regarding it.

I did get a Mermaids link removed from the school website.

I'm going to ask about what they're teaching generally about it but just want to talk about my daughter first.

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SaltPorridge · 16/04/2024 10:35

Not ignore, but thank them for calling and ask them to put everything in writing.
At my daughter's school they were selling cupcakes for a Brighton-based charity - and we are nowhere near Brighton either.
Is yours primary or secondary?

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CiaoBe · 16/04/2024 10:13

If they phone should I ignore and request all communication around this be in writing?

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CiaoBe · 16/04/2024 10:11

I've emailed asking for the guidelines they were following when they socially transitioned my daughter behind me back.

Am feeling quite nervous as I basically laid everything out and told them they've damaged my daughter and it never should have happened.

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Awumminnscotland · 16/04/2024 09:52

Thanks for asking this. I'm in Scotland and have raised concerns with the primary school having gender ideology throughout their rshp curriculum and still recommending books that signpost to mermaids. I have emailed the head yesterday and a meeting is planned. I expect more of the same I've got previously ie: ' our hands are tied' because guidance says..

LogicLoverLlama · 16/04/2024 09:16

CiaoBe · 16/04/2024 09:10

Thankyou but I don't live anywhere near Brighton and I'm not sure if they use the toolkit.

Yes indeed - thats what you need to ask - it quite possible is based on the Brighton one and regardless the real question is

"Does it align with the Cass review and in light of the legal position - is it even legal?"

Your school will have one, it won't be aligned with Cass, it will be illegal under the legal opinion above. You should write to your school in whatever tone you prefer of course, but you really should write.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 16/04/2024 09:14

In addition the the thread already mentioned Safe Schools Alliance have lots of resources to help with talking to schools https://safeschoolsallianceuk.net/

Well done OP - we all need to be challenging schools:

Homepage - Safe Schools Alliance UK

Welcome to our homepage. This explains who we are, what we do and how we are campaigning for a better understanding of child safeguarding.

https://safeschoolsallianceuk.net

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CiaoBe · 16/04/2024 09:13

Just seen the eisna section about other areas but it seems a little heavy handed and threatening.

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CiaoBe · 16/04/2024 09:10

Thankyou but I don't live anywhere near Brighton and I'm not sure if they use the toolkit.

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