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Trying to understand

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Margo2023 · 28/03/2024 01:21

I will apologise in advance for not using correct terms as I don't have much of an understanding of this topic at all. My male neighbour is going through the stages to want to be female. They dress in female clothes, have grown their hair long and recently mentioned that they have changed their name to a girl name.

Now they have a female short term partner who has moved in but she seems straight. I am really confused, as a straight female I can't see the attraction to a man who dresses as a women. I'm genuinely interested as to how this works

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GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 28/03/2024 02:08

I am really confused, as a straight female I can't see the attraction to a man who dresses as a women
Surely it's not too hard to understand that we're all different though?
We all have different types.
Curious to know how she "seems straight" too, is it the way she dresses, lack of dungarees and short hair or something? Confused 🙄 😁

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Margo2023 · 28/03/2024 01:40

It does thank you. You are right, it is presumptuous of me to assume the partner is straight. I understand your point about natural attraction but Im trying to understand the attraction and sorry to ask about the sexual side of things! A female with a male who wants to be a female / still male. Do you think the female partner is attracted to a male regardless of their female dressing or gay as in sees the male as a female or neither, perhaps just enjoys both

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EBearhug · 28/03/2024 01:30

as a straight female I can't see the attraction to a man who dresses as a women.

I can't either, but I don't understand why some of my friends find their husbands attractive, either, and they may have thought the same about some of my past boyfriends - because we all go for different things. It absolutely wouldn't work for me (and I definitely find some women attractive, so it's not just about being straight,) but I assume she knows and is okay with it, so it's just oneof those things.

Hownowbrownsheep · 28/03/2024 01:28

I'm not sure anyone can 'seem' straight. Sexuality is not visible, it's complex and subjective. How it works is simply two people being attracted to one another. Hope that helps.