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All I can think is that they don't want anybody to talk about them

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JellySaurus · 14/03/2024 22:54

How do you even use these pronouns to refer to this person?

All I can think is that they don't want anybody to talk about them
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Mumoftwo1312 · 14/03/2024 23:21

JellySaurus · 14/03/2024 23:15

It's not her name 😄. That's their character's name. I've redacted his actual name.

Are you rotating through the pronouns? The mind boggles

Mumoftwo1312 · 14/03/2024 23:21

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 14/03/2024 23:08

I never quite know if people's stated 'pronouns' are dependent on the grammatical case/context or if you're just supposed to pick one of the given 'available' ones as you so wish.

So when somebody states 'she/her', I always assume you would use "she has said that..." but "I'm meeting her tomorrow" - but have I misunderstood the new pronoun 'rules'? Could the she and the her have been freely swapped over in the above two phrases?

Thus, when somebody's stated 'pronouns' consist solely of multiple subject pronouns, how do you know which to use when? If somebody identifies as a 'they/she', can you say "they asked me to tell she the time"; or indeed vice versa?

I do agree, though, that this particular person's pronouns are not going to be the first things that people notice, under a name like that!

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but have I misunderstood the new pronoun 'rules'

I really don't know - I have a feeling the rules vary and so I don't bother.

A couple of my (female) teacher colleagues are "she-they"s. (It's ever such a "progressive" school, flies a big progress flag above the assembly hall.) Nobody, including colleagues and students, have ever used anything other than sex based pronouns for them in my hearing.

I think they (plural women) are hoping that their sex is ambiguous based on their presentation and so people might fall back on "they" but it couldn't be more obvious that they're female.

ronswansonstache · 14/03/2024 23:16

My work promotes pronoun badges that we can wear on our lanyards. One of my colleagues wears all three simultaneously and I assume that's a piss take!

Karensalright · 14/03/2024 23:15

How about hey fuck wit, couldn’t give a shite about your gender ID. Can you get on with my scan please.

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JellySaurus · 14/03/2024 23:15

It's not her name 😄. That's their character's name. I've redacted his actual name.

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MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 14/03/2024 23:08

Mumoftwo1312 · 14/03/2024 22:58

Easy, both he and she are available, so observe their sex and use sex-based pronouns. You're choosing one of the available options, job done

I never quite know if people's stated 'pronouns' are dependent on the grammatical case/context or if you're just supposed to pick one of the given 'available' ones as you so wish.

So when somebody states 'she/her', I always assume you would use "she has said that..." but "I'm meeting her tomorrow" - but have I misunderstood the new pronoun 'rules'? Could the she and the her have been freely swapped over in the above two phrases?

Thus, when somebody's stated 'pronouns' consist solely of multiple subject pronouns, how do you know which to use when? If somebody identifies as a 'they/she', can you say "they asked me to tell she the time"; or indeed vice versa?

I do agree, though, that this particular person's pronouns are not going to be the first things that people notice, under a name like that!

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JellySaurus · 14/03/2024 23:02

RandomMess · 14/03/2024 22:56

Reads to me that they are gender critical and forced to display pronouns so is making a point by having them all there!

Good point.

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Mumoftwo1312 · 14/03/2024 22:58

Easy, both he and she are available, so observe their sex and use sex-based pronouns. You're choosing one of the available options, job done

Hoardasurass · 14/03/2024 22:58

😁

HarrietSchulenberg · 14/03/2024 22:57

Unfortunate name. It would be very hard to determine which pronoun to use - maybe he/they/she isn't actually that bothered or is playing a little game.

Heylo · 14/03/2024 22:57

With people who have multiple pronouns - I am embarrassed for them. They clearly want attention/ want people discussing them. There was a guy in our (female) book club with a floating identity. One day he was his actual male self and occasionally (and this is what permitted him entry) he identified as ‘she/ her’. It’s exhausting having to put up with this crap.

RandomMess · 14/03/2024 22:56

Reads to me that they are gender critical and forced to display pronouns so is making a point by having them all there!