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Partner wanting to wear womens clothes during sex

72 replies

Uncomfortablybum · 14/03/2024 20:07

I have just started a thread in relationships and a pp mentioned reading trans widows threads.

Wondering if this is the start of it. Been with my partner 6 months. He has said he would feel excited by the idea of wearing woman's dresses during sex and I am the first person he has felt comfortable with enough to say this to.

I am very open minded. This feels different to a once off thing. Is this how it starts? As a bedroom fetish?

OP posts:
TwylaSands · 14/03/2024 20:25

Been with my partner 6 months
End it now.

AlisonDonut · 14/03/2024 20:24

Don't make it 7 months.

TheChosenTwo · 14/03/2024 20:23

Not for me thanks.
is he suggesting wearing one of your dresses? If so, he’s probably tried them on already. Dh wouldn’t fit into any of mine. Is he suggesting buying some of his own?
Anyway, whichever it is, it doesn’t do it for me.

NutellaEllaElla · 14/03/2024 20:23

My vagina would turn to dust instantly.

TheGoddessFreyja · 14/03/2024 20:22

One word: Autogynephilia

OhcantthInkofaname · 14/03/2024 20:21

It would totally take any desire for sex out of me.

Lostinbrum · 14/03/2024 20:21

Total bollocks your the first person he's felt comfortable enough to do this with. Would be a massive turn off for me. Immediate ditch him.

PrawnofthePatriarchy · 14/03/2024 20:20

I'd dump him like a shot. Men who want to wear women's clothing during sex are telling you their fantasies are incompatible with heterosexuality. Give him a chance and you'll likely find he's calling himself a lesbian.

RebelliousCow · 14/03/2024 20:20

I'd be very wary indeed......

Thankfully you've only been together for six months. though that might also mean you're still in the honeymoon stage when you are not seeing and thinking clearly.

susiedaisy1912 · 14/03/2024 20:19

Nope

Pixiesgirl · 14/03/2024 20:18

I had this with an ex. He was a pathological liar, irredeemable porn addict, abusive and in all likelihood a complete narcissistic twatbag. Run for the hills.

WallaceinAnderland · 14/03/2024 20:18

6 months is no time at all. Lucky you found out this early. It would be a swift cheerio from me.

JanefromLondon1 · 14/03/2024 20:17

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DodgeDoggie · 14/03/2024 20:16

You decide what you’re comfortable with. It would be a real turn off to me

WarriorN · 14/03/2024 20:16

This is the latest trans widows thread

Trans Widows' Escape Committee 6: The Next Generation www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/4879982-trans-widows-escape-committee-6-the-next-generation

PrimalLass · 14/03/2024 20:15

Leave

PaterPower · 14/03/2024 20:15

There’s a specific trans-widows thread.

But, (and I’ve not had any direct experience, but have read a few accounts), I’d be surprised if he’s only just starting cross dressing. I’d put reasonable money on him having tried it out already, either on his own (most likely using your clothes / underwear) or with a previous partner, with a fair amount of ‘sissy porn’ thrown in.

Your boundaries are entirely your own, just don’t let anyone ride roughshod over them.

WarriorN · 14/03/2024 20:14

I agree re "first person ." It's a sweetener to say that you are special and privileged. Which makes it harder for you to reject the idea.

I'd want to know if he's been influenced by porn.

It is autogynophilic.

If this was me when younger, I personally couldn't continue the relationship as I'd have wanted to have children.

DrJoanAllenby · 14/03/2024 20:13

If it turns you on to see him looking like an idiot then crack on.

If it doesn't, bin him and find a manly man.

MiltonNorthern · 14/03/2024 20:13

Would you get turned off by that? I would. I am up for many things but a man in women's clothes is a hard line of ick for me, even leaving aside the potential for some trans related whatever.

Karensalright · 14/03/2024 20:12

Yes i bet you are the “first person” (not)

BTW DV perps always say “you are the first person i have ever hit”

If he said i have tried this out before but it didnt go well how would you feel about that.

Run for the hills….

DisforDarkChocolate · 14/03/2024 20:09

That would be a hard no from me. I'm open minded but this would be repulsive to me.

I'd also feel that the 'first person' issue is just emotional blackmail to get you to agree.

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