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‘I was having a much better time as a girl in that parallel life’

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ferretface · 09/03/2024 16:11

https://www.theguardian.com/books/2024/mar/09/lucy-sante-i-heard-her-call-my-name-a-memoir-of-transition-extract

Of course you were having a much better time as a girl in that parallel life because you have absolutely no fucking clue what it's like to be a woman.

Lovely coverage for IWD from the Guardian slow hand clap I wonder if they've deliberately selected that headline to be provocative?

‘I was having a much better time as a girl in that parallel life’: how an app sparked a late-life gender transition

In an extract from her memoir, Lucy Sante reveals how she lived with the feeling of being the wrong gender into her 60s, when a smartphone app gave her the inspiration to take action

https://www.theguardian.com/books/2024/mar/09/lucy-sante-i-heard-her-call-my-name-a-memoir-of-transition-extract

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OvaHere · 09/03/2024 18:41

anothernamitynamenamechange · 09/03/2024 18:35

They are not even looking at real life women and assuming their lives must be happier (based on surface level impressions only without any insight into their interior lives). They are looking at computer generated images of women that don't even exist. So its a surface level impression based on a computer's idea of what a woman is. Taken as fact.

It's a mash up of virtual girlfriend and internet porn taken to another level.

Absolutely nothing to do with the lived realities of women.

anothernamitynamenamechange · 09/03/2024 18:37

cuckyplunt · 09/03/2024 18:32

Well she’s not trying to win a female high jump or enter a convent or a ladies’ loo so good luck to her!

Yeah, they seem basically harmless and are free to live their lives however they want. However, the views they have and how they arrived at them says something interesting.

anothernamitynamenamechange · 09/03/2024 18:35

They are not even looking at real life women and assuming their lives must be happier (based on surface level impressions only without any insight into their interior lives). They are looking at computer generated images of women that don't even exist. So its a surface level impression based on a computer's idea of what a woman is. Taken as fact.

EasternStandard · 09/03/2024 18:35

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 09/03/2024 17:20

I felt something liquefy in my core. I trembled from my shoulders to my crotch.

Surprise surprise.

wtf is this writing

cuckyplunt · 09/03/2024 18:32

Well she’s not trying to win a female high jump or enter a convent or a ladies’ loo so good luck to her!

anothernamitynamenamechange · 09/03/2024 18:30

Of course you were having a much better time as a girl in that parallel life because you have absolutely no fucking clue what it's like to be a woman.

Yep, but also because they seem to be basing that opinion on the thought the faceapp makes female them look happier than male them. Therefore parallel female them would be happier (absolutely loads to unpack there)
"The transformed result was a revelation: a happy little girl. Apart from her long black hair, very little had been done to transform Luc into Lucy; the biggest difference was how much more relaxed she looked."

I know there is lots of focus on porn's impact. But I don't think we are even at the start of understanding the impact of technology more generally. Its interesting (and a bit scary) how literally/uncritically the very well educated writer views the apps choices.

literalviolence · 09/03/2024 17:42

There's some seriously offensive shit in that article about what men are supposed to be like. How can anyone not see how regressive this nonsense is. Gender ideology is trying to entrench stereotypes. It's not progress.

viques · 09/03/2024 17:30

“An impossibly delicate almond eyed fawn”

Yep.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 09/03/2024 17:20

I felt something liquefy in my core. I trembled from my shoulders to my crotch.

Surprise surprise.

RoyalCorgi · 09/03/2024 17:06

Lovely coverage for IWD from the Guardian slow hand clap I wonder if they've deliberately selected that headline to be provocative?

It's the Observer - we've come to expect better from them.

Pluralism · 09/03/2024 16:45

"I felt something liquefy in my core. I trembled from my shoulders to my crotch". You said it, mate.

CorporaINobbyNobbs · 09/03/2024 16:42

I don’t even get the pun?

LeavesOnTrees · 09/03/2024 16:26

“A bombshell.” I smirked at the unintentional pun and wondered whether anyone else would.

Mmm ok then.