I have sympathy for trans women, I do, I have trans friends who have been saying they're in the "wrong body" since childhood. It's incredibly sad.
And over the years I've been very much on the trans side, believing that I was siding with a marginalised group of people who simply wanted respect and to live their lives authentically and not causing any harm.
I've seen things over the last 7 or 8 years suspecting me to believe that isn't the case for what is now an overwhelming majority, sadly. My turning point when I realised how awful things were becoming was lesbians being told they had to accept transwomen to date. Lesbians don't need telling who they have to accept dating, to do so is in my wee opinion fucking criminal.
I think we are all aware now if we don't protect women's (and childrens) spaces, then we're blindly putting women into dangerous situations and why the fuck would anyone want that? If I was born in a body I didn't identify with, (sadly, I do identify as the short fat arse I am), I'd never ever let that take presidency over a woman feeling safe. Never.
My trans friends appreciate that but are scared to speak out. They have lived horrid lives truth be told and don't want shunning from any mild acceptance they do have. Its heartbreaking.
I've mentioned him a few times on here but I've an uncle, lovely harmless uncle who suffers psychosis. He's known in his local area as harmless and he goes and tells the old folks in cafes about his deluded adventures, like the tour he did with the beatles, just because in his head he was best mates with Paul McCartney it doesn't mean it was true or Paul McCartney would have to indulge my uncle knocking on his door holding a bottle of red wanting to discuss the good old times. (The good old times he wasn't even born to have witnessed in any capcity)
We can sympathise, we can pity and we can support, doesn't mean we have to accept. If that makes me transphobic then with sadness, I'll accept that. Because nothing is more important than safety of women and kids and I'd rather offend people than risk safety of others.