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Why are separate spaces for trans people unacceptable (to trans people)?

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Superlambaanana · 20/02/2024 22:43

There's a thread on AIBU about people's network's views on the trans debate and a poster suggested trans people ought to campaign for separate spaces - trans toilets, trans sporting events etc.

Is anyone campaigning for this? And if not why not? I'm not clued into the detail of the debate and am genuinely interested. Is it just impractical (cost, insufficient numbers for competitive sport) or is it ideologically unacceptable?

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Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 14:40

nothingcomestonothing · 28/02/2024 14:39

Sometimes, 'these men' are transwomen. You know that, there are numerous examples. There are HM Prison Service stats bearing out that males identifying as TW are disproportionately likely to be sex offenders, compared to either women or to men who don't identify as TW. You know that.

You know what the problem is, so I assume you just don't like what the problem is. But that doesn't change what the problem is.

Sometimes they are transwomen, and sometimes they are men that abuse self ID/Have sexual fetish etc.

nothingcomestonothing · 28/02/2024 14:39

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 11:09

Agree. These men are a danger to both women and transwomen.

Sometimes, 'these men' are transwomen. You know that, there are numerous examples. There are HM Prison Service stats bearing out that males identifying as TW are disproportionately likely to be sex offenders, compared to either women or to men who don't identify as TW. You know that.

You know what the problem is, so I assume you just don't like what the problem is. But that doesn't change what the problem is.

Why are separate spaces for trans people unacceptable (to trans people)?
SoberVix · 28/02/2024 14:32

It's important to be aware that a lot of the men forcing their way into women's spaces claiming they're women have not made any changes to their bodies nor do they intend to. They are heterosexual, anatomically intact fetishists. There are those under the frankly giant trans umbrella who feel there is something wrong with their body/ that their body doesn't match their brain/ soul/ personality - but my impression is those forcing through the eradication of single sex spaces are not generally of that type

FancyJapflack · 28/02/2024 14:13

Ffs why is it always presented as a problem for women to solve. It’s like going to a cats home and saying “Why won’t you let dogs in? Huh? Well what’s your solution then? Where are the dogs meant to go? Don’t you CARE about dogs?”

TWETMIRF · 28/02/2024 12:52

No it isn't. Spaces for women include all types of women. As transwomen aren't women, they are excluded. Transwomen are welcome to use spaces for men or if they don't like that, can campaign for third, mixed sex spaces. I haven't seen any evidence that transwomen are unsafe in male spaces, we know that many do use them with no issue as they have told us. Women definitely have been harmed by transwomen in female spaces so tw need to stay the fuck out of them.

Segregation of the sexes exists because too many men are complete dicks. If males sort their shit out and start acting like decent humans who actually give a shit about others then there could possibly be a rethink. As it is, they are a long way from that and therefore women's single sex spaces are essential.

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 12:39

TWETMIRF · 28/02/2024 12:29

Yes, gender ideology does make no sense whatsoever.

If transwomen are women then being with other transwomen shouldn't be a problem.

Because it's no different to segregating other groups?

TWETMIRF · 28/02/2024 12:29

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 11:48

Because it literally makes zero logical sense perhaps?

Yes, gender ideology does make no sense whatsoever.

If transwomen are women then being with other transwomen shouldn't be a problem.

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 12:06

Myalternate · 28/02/2024 11:56

What’s your solution?

I didnt day I had one.

Again - I was responding to PP who said if TW really thought they were women, why do they protest a third space with other TW if they truly believed there was no difference between them and a biological women?

Myalternate · 28/02/2024 11:56

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 11:48

Because it literally makes zero logical sense perhaps?

What’s your solution?

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 11:48

NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 28/02/2024 11:42

Well what is the problem?

It'll be a space where everyone there is of their gender, won't it?

Because it literally makes zero logical sense perhaps?

lechiffre55 · 28/02/2024 11:43

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 11:09

Agree. These men are a danger to both women and transwomen.

I think there's a problem when 'These men' overlap with 'transwomen', the two are not mutually exclusive. Sometimes the overlap seems quite large.

NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 28/02/2024 11:42

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 10:44

No.

Read the PP I am referring to?

She seems to think its a massive 'Gotcha' that if TW truly believe they are women, what exactly is the problem with a third space with other TW if they are indeed also women? It makes zero sense.

Well what is the problem?

It'll be a space where everyone there is of their gender, won't it?

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 11:17

Myalternate · 28/02/2024 11:15

I’m only interested in how they engage and try to exert control over women. Biological women that is as there is no other type.

Thats fine. We can care about whoever we want to!

Myalternate · 28/02/2024 11:15

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 11:09

Agree. These men are a danger to both women and transwomen.

I’m only interested in how they engage and try to exert control over women. Biological women that is as there is no other type.

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 11:09

Myalternate · 28/02/2024 11:07

Clearly it’s not, but some men have a pathological desire to engage in exhibitionism. They may feel it gives them some power or control.

Agree. These men are a danger to both women and transwomen.

Myalternate · 28/02/2024 11:07

Mintyfreshtulips · 27/02/2024 19:37

I didn’t know an art gallery cafe was a sex protected space

Clearly it’s not, but some men have a pathological desire to engage in exhibitionism. They may feel it gives them some power or control.

borntobequiet · 28/02/2024 10:48

It makes zero sense.

It’s perfectly logical, unlike most (if not all) of the discourse around the GI side of the issue.

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 10:44

NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 28/02/2024 07:53

Are you saying that male transitioners don't know they're male?

Do you think they forget their entire lives and think they've always been female? How on earth would they remember to take the cross-sex hormones then?

Tragically, it's more likely to be the opposite way around. In dementia, later memories typically go first, so elderly male transitioners with dementia have forgotten transitioning, and been very distressed by the surgical changes to their bodies.

No.

Read the PP I am referring to?

She seems to think its a massive 'Gotcha' that if TW truly believe they are women, what exactly is the problem with a third space with other TW if they are indeed also women? It makes zero sense.

WickedSerious · 28/02/2024 08:24

OnceinaMinion · 27/02/2024 19:36

I was sat in an art gallery cafe with DD when a transwoman was in there, tiny skirt, plastic wig. Trotted up and down this incredibly quiet space having a very loud phone conversation and waving his hands about. DD was like ‘ is she mental?’
When we left they were sat on the steps with their legs wide open, again shouting on the phone.
I don’t think he was getting the attention he was after.

I wonder if 'Excuse me sir,would you mind closing your legs?Your male privilege is showing' would have been enough attention for him?

Superlambaanana · 28/02/2024 08:10

Superlambaanana · 22/02/2024 09:11

So to sum up, the reason separate spaces are unacceptable to trans people is one of the following:

• Trans women want to be in single sex spaces where there are women because they 'need' the women for some reason (fetish, validation, etc). (Counter: this 'use' of other people is not acceptable, especially as it has the consequence of having a negative impact on the other people)

• Trans people want to be in single sex spaces (corresponding to their identity) because they believe they have changed sex and are no longer their underlying sex. (Counter: you cannot change biological sex and it is not reasonable to ask others to adopt an obvious fiction.)

• Trans people would be targets of attack if they used unisex/ third spaces. (Counter: trans people who don't pass are at risk of attack anywhere they go. Trans people who pass won't necessarily be outed just by passing through a unisex toilet door, especially if non-trans people also opted to use such spaces.)

• Third spaces might not be economically viable. (Counter: All modern building standards and other statutory requirements have a cost, and it's a price we are prepared to pay for civilised infrastructure.)

Have I missed anything?

Bloody hell I look away for a moment and you've all got to tractors... 🤣

Anyone care to summarise where the debate has got to in my absence? I'd got to the summary above which seemed to be accepted by most as covering pretty much everyone's point of view on the original topic.

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NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 28/02/2024 07:53

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 05:48

Still not answering her question?

Are you saying that male transitioners don't know they're male?

Do you think they forget their entire lives and think they've always been female? How on earth would they remember to take the cross-sex hormones then?

Tragically, it's more likely to be the opposite way around. In dementia, later memories typically go first, so elderly male transitioners with dementia have forgotten transitioning, and been very distressed by the surgical changes to their bodies.

nothingcomestonothing · 28/02/2024 07:40

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 05:48

Still not answering her question?

TW know which facilities they belong in. They just don't like it.

Mintyfreshtulips · 28/02/2024 05:48

SpicyMoth · 27/02/2024 23:22

"And if by using your logic, they truly believe they are no different from biological women, how would you sign the seperate bathroom? Why would they know to enter it?"

Not too hard to figure out! The womanly penis, ofc.

Still not answering her question?

SpicyMoth · 27/02/2024 23:22

"And if by using your logic, they truly believe they are no different from biological women, how would you sign the seperate bathroom? Why would they know to enter it?"

Not too hard to figure out! The womanly penis, ofc.

Why are separate spaces for trans people unacceptable (to trans people)?
JanesLittleGirl · 27/02/2024 22:41

I will give my LWB Mark 2A Landrover a hug when I come home on Friday. She probably identifies as a general utility vehicle but, to me, she is just my car.