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Man, 39, becomes first person in England and Wales to be convicted of cyberflashing

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fromorbit · 13/02/2024 09:07

Let no-one say things can't get better.

Sending unwanted dick pics is illegal in the UK now. Spread the news.

https://news.sky.com/story/man-39-becomes-first-person-in-england-and-wales-to-be-convicted-of-cyberflashing-13070350

The only downside to this is there is NO way the police can handle the number of arrests that will now need to be made. However, I think this new law is a great way of targeting male stalkers and sex offenders as online stuff is one of the first types of harassment they use. Also we can expect a lot of harassing TRAs to get hit by this.

Man, 39, becomes first person in England and Wales to be convicted of cyberflashing

Nicholas Hawkes, who was already a registered sex offender, sent unsolicited photos to a 15-year-old girl and a woman in February, a court heard.

https://news.sky.com/story/man-39-becomes-first-person-in-england-and-wales-to-be-convicted-of-cyberflashing-13070350

OP posts:
IcakethereforeIam · 13/02/2024 14:16

How about this table! It has a tit hierarchy 😉

Man, 39, becomes first person in England and Wales to be convicted of cyberflashing
Peskysquirrel · 13/02/2024 14:11

😆at the previous two comments

AzureBlue99 · 13/02/2024 14:10

As much as my view of men is low these days, I do not think all men have sent a dick pic.

Some of the guys who do it are not necessarily getting off on the flasher aspect, it is more that their whole self is focused on that floppy appendage. They are fascinated by it so assume that women will be too. Men are basic. It is literally like a baboon showing its arse.

Boiledbeetle · 13/02/2024 14:10

Sparklfairy · 13/02/2024 14:07

<swoon>😍

Of course I now expect a photo of your tits in return!

(The feathered type obviously I'm not THAT sort of poster!)

Sparklfairy · 13/02/2024 14:07

Boiledbeetle · 13/02/2024 14:01

Slips into the comments to leave you a dick pic.

<swoon>😍

Boiledbeetle · 13/02/2024 14:01

Sparklfairy · 13/02/2024 12:59

I'm the last person to defend men but I have to say, I've OLD on and off for probably 12 years, spoken to hundreds of men. And I've never, ever received a dick pic.

I feel quite left out Grin

Slips into the comments to leave you a dick pic.

Man, 39, becomes first person in England and Wales to be convicted of cyberflashing
guinnessguzzler · 13/02/2024 13:04

@EBearhug What do they ask you to send? A photo of the vulva area? I mean, really? Is it to check how flexible you are?! 😂And do they just say, 'Do you want me to send you a photo of my dick before we meet for coffee?'

If I ever get divorced I am 100% staying single, the dating game nowadays is definitely not for me.

Glad it is now illegal though, agree there won't be enough police to deal, they don't even bother with all the men viewing images of child abuse on the regular.

Sparklfairy · 13/02/2024 12:59

achangewoulddougood · 13/02/2024 09:46

You must all be living under rocks. Every guy I have ever dated, men I talk to in pubs...probably not my dad because he can't even figure out how to charge his mobile....They ALL sit and go "oh no I've NEVER done that"! Do you honestly think most men haven't sent photographs of their genitalia? Madness. Carry on though. It's obviously not your Nigel.

I'm the last person to defend men but I have to say, I've OLD on and off for probably 12 years, spoken to hundreds of men. And I've never, ever received a dick pic.

I feel quite left out Grin

Thelnebriati · 13/02/2024 12:56

I saw this on the news last night and was surprised that up until now it was not illegal to send dick pics.

This - and upskirting. How were they not already illegal?

Mothew · 13/02/2024 12:55

achangewoulddougood · 13/02/2024 09:46

You must all be living under rocks. Every guy I have ever dated, men I talk to in pubs...probably not my dad because he can't even figure out how to charge his mobile....They ALL sit and go "oh no I've NEVER done that"! Do you honestly think most men haven't sent photographs of their genitalia? Madness. Carry on though. It's obviously not your Nigel.

I'm so glad smart phones hadn't been invented when I was dating. Do men nowadays not have any manners or decorum? I hope lots of arrests are made, it's a disgusting thing to do.

bombastix · 13/02/2024 12:52

Legally easy to prove! The offender is stupid if they do this with their own phone.

Renamed · 13/02/2024 11:13

achangewoulddougood · 13/02/2024 09:46

You must all be living under rocks. Every guy I have ever dated, men I talk to in pubs...probably not my dad because he can't even figure out how to charge his mobile....They ALL sit and go "oh no I've NEVER done that"! Do you honestly think most men haven't sent photographs of their genitalia? Madness. Carry on though. It's obviously not your Nigel.

Guess I’m living under a rock? Do people actually think this is normal behaviour? I think everyone in my age group (50s) would understand clearly this was weird and offensive - no not saying older men would not, just saying I can’t see how they could be in any doubt it was wrong.

EBearhug · 13/02/2024 10:55

I've been doing OLD for a couple of years, and I think I've only had a couple of unsolicited dick pics (and frankly, the dick pic was better than the saggy grey underpants and beer gut pic that preceded one of those - I did wonder what his thinking was, but better not to engage by asking.) Nearly all matches have offered to send pics, but they do usually ask rather than just send it. But it could well be an age thing - I'm mostly looking at men around age 50, and we didn't grow up with mobiles and the Internet. I don't know. I get plenty of requests for pics, too, and I suppose they're thinking, "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" or more, "I've shown you mine, so you'll feel obliged to reciprocate."

(Not one of them has been called Nigel. Or at least, not one has had a profile name called Nigel.)

In any case, it doesn't matter how many ask, because it is about unsolicited ones, and it only needs just one to be wrong. I assume some get off on the flashing aspect of it, else I don't understand why they do it. However, even if they don't prosecute every offender, they can probably do enough that most men will think it's too great a risk and won't do it. I assume thst is the aim anyway.

ArrestHer · 13/02/2024 10:21

achangewoulddougood · 13/02/2024 09:25

Well, surely the point is to stop men doing it? We don't need to waste money on arresting every man, just tell them times have changed and hope they make the choice to keep it in their pants!

And yes, every man has sent one.

I don’t believe every guy has. I know many women have a low opinion of men but I think this is a bit broad. I 100% believe my H never has. And I’ve never received one either, but I would absolutely believe it’s prevalent.

sweeping statements about a whole group
of people generally aren’t realistic.

IcakethereforeIam · 13/02/2024 09:51

I think most Richards have sent a Dick pic. Possibly not unsolicited. Glad this guy's been prosecuted. Pity laws like this are necessary.

achangewoulddougood · 13/02/2024 09:46

You must all be living under rocks. Every guy I have ever dated, men I talk to in pubs...probably not my dad because he can't even figure out how to charge his mobile....They ALL sit and go "oh no I've NEVER done that"! Do you honestly think most men haven't sent photographs of their genitalia? Madness. Carry on though. It's obviously not your Nigel.

FleaDog · 13/02/2024 09:42

achangewoulddougood · 13/02/2024 09:25

Well, surely the point is to stop men doing it? We don't need to waste money on arresting every man, just tell them times have changed and hope they make the choice to keep it in their pants!

And yes, every man has sent one.

No, not every man has sent one.

What a sweeping, crass generalisation.

Peskysquirrel · 13/02/2024 09:33

These men always just magically appear, don't they? Never anyone we actually know!

Not sure what you mean?
You've admitted up thread to knowing some.

achangewoulddougood · 13/02/2024 09:31

Peskysquirrel · 13/02/2024 09:29

Don't be so bloody patronising.
No, not every man has sent one. Some are mature enough to realise it's revolting.

Grin These men always just magically appear, don't they? Never anyone we actually know!
mummaofthreeboys · 13/02/2024 09:29

Should also be part of educating boys.

Peskysquirrel · 13/02/2024 09:29

achangewoulddougood · 13/02/2024 09:27

I'm going to get a barrage of "not my Nigel" comments now, aren't I.
I'll go, don't worry!

Don't be so bloody patronising.
No, not every man has sent one. Some are mature enough to realise it's revolting.

Plasmodesmata · 13/02/2024 09:29

I saw this on the news last night and was surprised that up until now it was not illegal to send dick pics.
Police are going to be busy.
The man in the story was already a registered sex offender.

achangewoulddougood · 13/02/2024 09:27

I'm going to get a barrage of "not my Nigel" comments now, aren't I.
I'll go, don't worry!

Boiledbeetle · 13/02/2024 09:26

Men really do need to realise that sending an unsolicited dick pic is just the same as the man in a trenchcoat flashing his dic at you in the park.

achangewoulddougood · 13/02/2024 09:25

Well, surely the point is to stop men doing it? We don't need to waste money on arresting every man, just tell them times have changed and hope they make the choice to keep it in their pants!

And yes, every man has sent one.

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