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"She's my Dad"

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Vebrithien · 03/02/2024 06:58

Morning all.

Wondering if anyone can help me out, regarding this book, and any known concerns/complaints about it?

A friend has messaged me, knowing my history of challenging DD's school on their TRA resources. She is concerned that her DC's school has been using this book this week, as part of LGBTQ+ History Month. It is being used with year 4 as part of their reading lessons and she is deeply concerned by the message that it gives out. Especially as the school had previously said that they do not explicitly teach gender identity.

So far, I have found that;

The author is trans and CEO of Trans Pride Brighton. So, not politically impartial.

The dad transitions by painting his nails, growing long hair and wearing dresses. So, confirming, rather than challenging gender stereotypes.

The child in the book polices other children's use of pronouns, regard the dad. This raises issues about children not being able to freely speak.

This could also have the knock-on effect of encouraging denying other children's beliefs and making them feel that they are only valued if they validate by using wrong sex pronouns (linked to the definition of emotional abuse in KCSIE, a child is only valued insofar as they are useful to the abuser).

Is there anything else we can raise? The school celebrates LGBTQ+ History Month and LGBTQ+ Pride Month, but not Women's Month, and only one of the two Disability months.

Anyone care to help draft a complaint, or got any experience of this book?

Thank you!

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Vebrithien · 03/02/2024 11:33

Notamum12345577 · 03/02/2024 10:51

How does being trans and the CEO of Brighton Pride makes the author not politically impartial?

Because gender identity is a political topic, as can be seen in the government recently issuing guidance for consultation.

As the school does not also use resources that are written from a gender critical viewpoint, they are potentially failing in their Public Services Equality Duty, in the promotion of good relations between people of varying protected characteristics. If they are using this book as a teaching tool, to embed gender identity, it very much is political.

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Notamum12345577 · 03/02/2024 10:51

How does being trans and the CEO of Brighton Pride makes the author not politically impartial?

Vebrithien · 03/02/2024 10:48

Also, about the inappropriate content regarding genital surgery, in primary school (trying to find the reference about age appropriate resources)

And about the statutory duty to be politically impartial, and this recourse is certainly not impartial.

I'll find the references for these.

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Vebrithien · 03/02/2024 10:45

These are the concerns that my friend has about the school using this book.

1.Break down of trust between parents and the school, due to a lack of promised transparency. This is counter to the 2020 RSE statutory guidance

"All schools should work closely with parents when planning and delivering these
subjects. Schools should ensure that parents know what will be taught and when"

Page 17

  1. Multiple concerns about the book, including:

Harmful gender stereotyping(to be a woman, one needs to wears dresses, have long hair and paint their nails). This is contrary to the 2020 RSE statutory guidance to schools

"Schools should be alive to issues such as everyday sexism, misogyny, homophobia and gender stereotypes and take positive action to build a culture where these are not tolerated, and any occurrences are identified and tackled."

Page 14

Pupils must know "what a stereotype is, and how stereotypes can be unfair, negative or destructive."

Page 21

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/relationships-education-relationships-and-sex-education-rse-and-health-education)

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Vebrithien · 03/02/2024 08:48

Justme56 · 03/02/2024 08:27

📸 Watch this video on Facebook https://fb.watch/pZHfUZhLNB/?

This is a link to the reading of the book.

It paints a parent’s transition as all rainbows and unicorns. I’m not confident this is reality. More often than not it leads to family breakdowns. In the book Hayley’s dad is shown to look exactly like a woman, the dad does nice things with Hayley although there is an undercurrent that ‘pronouns’ are significant - homework is about pronouns etc. However what I find particularly concerning is that Hayley visits dad in hospital after dad has genital surgery - what’s that all about? What dad does with dad’s body is up to dad but getting the children involved seems all kind of wrong.

God help us all.

Thanks for this

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Justme56 · 03/02/2024 08:27

📸 Watch this video on Facebook https://fb.watch/pZHfUZhLNB/?

This is a link to the reading of the book.

It paints a parent’s transition as all rainbows and unicorns. I’m not confident this is reality. More often than not it leads to family breakdowns. In the book Hayley’s dad is shown to look exactly like a woman, the dad does nice things with Hayley although there is an undercurrent that ‘pronouns’ are significant - homework is about pronouns etc. However what I find particularly concerning is that Hayley visits dad in hospital after dad has genital surgery - what’s that all about? What dad does with dad’s body is up to dad but getting the children involved seems all kind of wrong.

Vebrithien · 03/02/2024 08:00

Thank you @Garlickit , yes I have used those resources last year, when I challenged DD's school over it's TRA resources that they were using (see my threads on No Outsiders, captured DepHead, re-writing the Equalities Act if you have half a day to lose )

I'm really looking for experiences and complaints about this book/author, and how to write to ask for it to be removed/immediately stopped being used until a parent consultation has gone ahead.

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Garlickit · 03/02/2024 07:54

Transgender trend has excellent schools resources, including template letters.

Safe Schools Alliance also has letter templates, factsheets and FAQs. This page offers responses to frequent school policy assertions: https://safeschoolsallianceuk.net/schools-resources-and-policies/

Schools Resources - Transgender Trend

Schools resources to equip teachers with knowledge in order to support all children including those who identify as "transgender."

https://www.transgendertrend.com/schools-resources/

Vebrithien · 03/02/2024 07:50

cariadlet · 03/02/2024 07:44

Have you looked at the Transgender Trend and Safe Schools Alliance websites?
They might have something useful.

Had a brief look, TT had a synopsis but I couldn't see anything else.

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cariadlet · 03/02/2024 07:44

Have you looked at the Transgender Trend and Safe Schools Alliance websites?
They might have something useful.

parietal · 03/02/2024 07:08

I think the gender stereotypes is the strongest thing to complain on.

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