"She's my Dad"

Thanks @Vebrithien and I'll let you know how I get on - I feel like I've seen your previous threads as I've on MN since 2010 but got active on FWR when I peaked in 2016 and then doubly peaked in 2019 when I was kicked out of the Lib Dems for questioning Baroness Featherstone's comments about feminists. I never thought I'd be fighting this battle in real life in my own DS's school!! I will search for your threads and take notes so I'm prepared.

Even if there was someone with functional testes and ovaries, that still doesn't mean there is a third sex gamete for humans (or any other mammal) and hence a third sex. Intersex or people with DSDs are not a third sex!

It doesn’t happen locally to me either, but where I live has been doing Black History Month since the 1980s 😁

Social media has made me aware of some UK schools learning about MLK Jr (excellent) “because it’s/for Black History Month” (woeful). And not a caveated “in the US” way; nor

Hang on a minute, you what??

Shocking as the children know no different.

School tried this with dds class so 14/15 pshe lesson. Dd said basically “whatevs but girls need single sex spaces”. Other girls all agreed. As did the teacher. Job done.

Keep your home education on this up it’s goes in and they listen to us over school.

I admit was almost grudgingly impressed they’re i. doing Black History Month & ii. doing it in October (crack on & do it in January if you’re in the US/another country where it’s appropriate; if you’re in the UK, BHM = October 😠) but then remembered preventing the bar from being a trip hazard isn’t worthy of positive feedback 🤦‍♀️

@Vebrithien thank you for posting these resources here - a handy reference.

I have a call coming up with the new PSHE teacher and my DS's school, who in a talk on the curriculum stated that there are people who are "neither the male biological sex nor the female biological sex", and also conflated being trans with a sexual orientation.

I like the teacher and support the teaching of PSHE as a general rule, but I fear I may have to quote some of your references above...

What is very worrying is that some children are believing trans activist teachers who say that males who wear female clothing change sex/' transwomen are women' - it was the reason the little girl victim in the andrew/amy miller abuse abduction and rape case said she got into his car, and then she was assaulted. But male pattern criminality doesn't change . Many cots know this but other children don't understand. Its a massive safeguarding issue .

I just wanted to add that the co-opting of the child in the story’s duty of caring for all the cats, together with what could, in the child’s mind, be a duty to be dad’s caretaker, is morally wrong. It is not a child’s duty to look after a transitioning man with the care needed for cats and kittens. Year 4 is still too young to see through this emotional blackmail.

Likewise, if the child is so young as to feel their own Teddy would give dad solace in hospital after his operation, the child is too young to be involved at all in this whole transition especially if someone tells this child- who in the book may be a boy - that dad has had his penis amputated.

Thanks- ' how to help children of transitioners' also covers this on the cots website. The school absolutely should not be using this book as it it conflicts with legal peotections for cots, is a breach of safeguarding and leads to even more bullying of cots in school and online for not submitting to lies about sex.

Hi op, this is strategy by Stonewall/ Lgbt groups- as they have now lost in the Uk supreme court and the Echr to remove children of transpeople's legal and human rights to name their father, they are trying to use books, workplace schemes etc.
Recommend you look up the childrenoftransitioners website- the articles you need are 'paperwork' and 'the invisible mother' and 'six children'.
Few cots call their dad mum and schools should not be subjecting Cot children to this coercive control, mental trauma and fear. As the Uk supreme court judge said, this is a welfare issue for cots. Please speak up- its one of the reasons the new school guidance is so vital.

Does the school celebrate Black History Month in October? Doing it in January = inappropriate as we’re not the US; not doing it is hugely concerning on a whole range of levels. I found it peculiar when I moved from primary to secondary & the latter didn’t acknowledge Black History Month. No excuse in the 2020s; & this disproportionate focus on one protected characteristic (3.1% English & Welsh population = not heterosexual & due to the Census being a clusterfuck, we still don’t know how many trans people there are in the UK - the 2018 guesswork puts it at 0.3 to 0.8% of the population) is inexcusable.

24% of the UK’s population have a disability; & 4% of the population of England & Wales are black. (Would be so helpful if the composite parts of the UK would agree a date for the census, at least; & allow aggregation of some statistics at/by Westminster - so looking at the actual UK without having to do maths my life is frankly too short for would be possible.) Disability hate crime is not only at shocking levels, it is woefully under-prosecuted, particularly when compared to the pursuit of (transphobic) non-crime hate-incidents. Both racism & ableism are pervasive in UK society & education won’t magically change that; but a lack of education is an issue.

@Vebrithien nothing to add, just giving you a bump and bringing you a nice cup of tea. You keep at it!

The school must dread getting correspondence from you 😁

The subtext of pronouns good/right is in itself politically biased. How does that work for freedom of thought and a duty of balance and impartiality? How does that work too for young kids whose parents hold different beliefs?

And yes, totally, to how much this may Disneyfy and silence a child who is shattered by what is going on at home and is having to live the very hard reality that doesn't have glittery happy happy and shiny niceness. When the book has laid down the script of what they are supposed to think and feel.

Dodgy on multiple fronts.

This is the author

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5TpUBAQPXfg

I often take things from the perspective of ‘what if there was child in the class who…’ For example, when DSDs are brought up, and you are the child with a condition how would you feel if someone started with the ‘you’re not really a girl’ argument. I think the same applies here. What if you are a child in a class whose dad has now decided to identify as a TW (or any family member). Imagine the various emotions the child is going through. Dad has started wearing women’s clothes, painting his nails etc. He now wants me to call him she. Everything you thought you knew about dad has changed. Quite possibly mum is devastated. I often wonder how the teachers who read these books would react if it was their husband or father? How they would deal with their own children? Would they just read them this and say it’s all fine. Sadly I don’t think it’s quite that simple.