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Just a rant

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DinoDays · 15/12/2023 15:25

Not expecting much from this thread, just need a fucking good rant!!!!

I'm on a FB of a popular 70's girl magazine. It's trivial shit but it's lovely to remember some of our teenage worries and loves.

I never post but love looking at some of the memories.

Anyway ... "Autumn" posted to introduce themselves.

Not a "thing" in this group unless it's a picture of you in a hideous 70's bridesmaid dress.

Anyway over 400 stunning and brave comments from the "Be Kind" Brigade.

Apparently this person used to read their relative's magazine when they were younger (yeah sure you did)!!

Galvanised from all the supportive comments from their first post, they've now posted again saying how overwhelmed they are by the kindness and feel like a "Sister that has come home"!

I feel like shouting to the handmaidens "Don't you know the monster you've now unleashed"

The poster will now feel validated and I imagine will now have no problem about wandering into women's toilets and changing areas. You know? Because literally 100's of women have told them how "stunning and brave" they are.

Maybe they can take up fishing now or croquet and steal trophies off women!

I wish I could talk to these women and explain it's not "being kind" doing this especially to their daughters. Then I start thinking is it me? Am I on the wrong side of history!???

Sorry for rant. Feel better now!

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ArthurbellaScott · 16/12/2023 08:34

I wonder if its a compensatory act to make up for the first, instinctive, subconscious response?

ArthurbellaScott · 16/12/2023 08:33

It's curious, isn't it? Transfawning is a definite thing.

In person, it can easily and understandably be explained as defensive behaviour, but often women go out of their way to praise and flatter TW when there is no immediate reason to do so.

I guess Frood has it above. It does look like performative self abasement quite often.

HagoftheNorth · 15/12/2023 19:21

I wonder if there will ever come a point when women publicly call out other women behaving like that? After all, they have been asked to treat TW as if they are women - which they are manifestly failing to do

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DinoDays · 15/12/2023 19:04

I get the "Be Kind" I really do.

That was me a good few years ago. I remember being on a dating site and a trans woman was saying please don't message and be awful to "her" as she'd received so many mean messages.

I messaged and said sorry that she was being abused and she was "stunning and brave". I genuinely felt sorry for them. Looking back, no way had they received mean messages. It was a ploy to reel in naive women like me!

On Tinder now there is LOADS of them! I don't swipe right!

But the women validating them don't realise the long term harm they're doing not just to the transwoman who now think they pass (they SO don't) but to society.

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theilltemperedclavecinist · 15/12/2023 18:54

I think I would have been okay with this thirty years ago when TW were rare and timid/eccentric, but things have changed and now I am enraged by the sheer effrontery.

I'm also enraged beyond belief every time a TW claims to be a feminist.

When The Female Eunuch was published that was the first I had heard of TWs and I couldn't understand why GG was so angry and contemptuous about them. Now we know.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/12/2023 18:26

There is always so much over the top fawning that I cringe myself inside out. As Frood said, it isn't genuine, and women mostly don't act this way with other women.

Froodwithatowel · 15/12/2023 16:47

I'm not sure it is genuine compassion. This would not be extended in the same way to any woman. Women don't patronise other women: where's the reward.

Its a mix of sentimental enjoying of how nice self is, virtue signalling and dick pandering, and it's never pretty to see.

WindyHarbour · 15/12/2023 16:44

Agreed. Too much compassion is a vice.

HagoftheNorth · 15/12/2023 16:32

Manamana, of course I realise it’s just an amazing coincidence 😉

ManaManaDoDoDoDoDo · 15/12/2023 16:28

HagoftheNorth · 15/12/2023 16:27

Don’t you just love the difference between how TW are treated in this sort of scenario compared to the more normal kind of woman? It’s almost as if people can tell which is a TW and which just an ordinary W 🙄

But you literally can't tell - bigot!

HagoftheNorth · 15/12/2023 16:27

Don’t you just love the difference between how TW are treated in this sort of scenario compared to the more normal kind of woman? It’s almost as if people can tell which is a TW and which just an ordinary W 🙄

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