Page 5 | Dating as a TERF

TERFisTHEnewTREND · 2023-12-14T19:39:17+00:00

I'm a 34 year old female. I'm currently dating via Tinder. When the gender issue has come up and I've mentioned that I'm a TERF, a lot of men have disengaged from me. I once went on three dates with a man, we got on great, and then when I mentioned my views on gender ideology, he ghosted me after! Do you mention your stance up front or do you wait? I don't want to date anyone who thinks humans can change sex, is it worth stating this on my profile? Any help/ advice/ insights appreciated.

quantumbutterfly · 17/12/2023 14:37

DialSquare · 17/12/2023 14:23

How rude. I'm not massive, I'm just big boned.

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Just more of a good thing surely.

MidWineCent · 17/12/2023 14:25

Wow, the men from around the world who hate women have really decided to swoop in and deride MumsNet's women.

For lurkers, anyone who calls us "Nazis" or "bigots", this is just a commonplace tactic from men and their handmaidens to smear the feminist view that males can't change sex and that really need to stay in their lane.

If you really do feel sorry for transwomen (trans identifying males) then please launch a huge campaign to provide separate spaces for them.

DialSquare · 17/12/2023 14:23

Ronathediva13 · 17/12/2023 14:00

I think it's definitely worth mentioning. I'd be furious if I went on a few dates with somebody, felt I'd connected with them well only to then find out they are a massive bigot. Better to be up front with your views so people don't waste their time.

How rude. I'm not massive, I'm just big boned.

DissidentDaughter · 17/12/2023 14:18

I’d be thankful they revealed their shortcomings early on and move on! 😂

Waitwhat23 · 17/12/2023 14:13

Ah, I see they've arrived.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 17/12/2023 14:13

Ooooh have we got visitors from Twitter? 😆

Ronathediva13 · 17/12/2023 14:11

No idea what you’re on about. Just sharing my opinion.

UtopiaPlanitia · 17/12/2023 14:08

Ronathediva13 · 17/12/2023 14:00

I think it's definitely worth mentioning. I'd be furious if I went on a few dates with somebody, felt I'd connected with them well only to then find out they are a massive bigot. Better to be up front with your views so people don't waste their time.

Weak attempt at a drive-by sniping 🙄😬

InvisibleBuffy · 17/12/2023 14:08

Hii93 · 17/12/2023 13:36

Stop lying you don't support the LGBT community at all

You can demand that the women here admit to being the 'baddies' you've created in your head, but it won't make it true.
If you genuinely want to get somewhere, I suggest actually engaging in good faith. You might learn something.

ApocalipstickNow · 17/12/2023 14:05

Tell me you didn’t read the thread without telling me you didn’t read the thread 😂

Ronathediva13 · 17/12/2023 14:00

I think it's definitely worth mentioning. I'd be furious if I went on a few dates with somebody, felt I'd connected with them well only to then find out they are a massive bigot. Better to be up front with your views so people don't waste their time.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 17/12/2023 13:51

As I said before I think this whole issue started because some liberals went mental and made it far too easy to change gender,

Use of "liberals" makes me think you are either American or get all your talking points from them.

Froodwithatowel · 17/12/2023 13:48

Sidaway · 17/12/2023 12:53

Ok as predicted this thread has now been seized on with glee by the TRAs on Twitter/X. "Terfs are undateable".

Are we sure the OP isn't a troll?

https://twitter.com/windupgemma/status/1736035537020969167

Oh dear. 😂

Reading comprehension's never a strong point, is it?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 17/12/2023 13:48

Not interested whether this is Joss Prior, Montgomerie, Willoughby or any other woman-hating Twitter loser.

ApocalipstickNow · 17/12/2023 13:47

The worst things on this thread have been posted by someone claiming to support trans people.

They’re the one asking for some kind of test to prove who is and isn’t trans.

What would that be? How would it work? What happens if someone who genuinely feels they are trans fails it?

That is gatekeeping and TRAs aren’t keen on that.

No one would ever design any kind of test, rigorous or not. Because TRAs would be furious and cause trouble and feminist wouldn’t give a shit whatever it proved. No matter how genuine your feelings are it doesn’t alter the fact women should have some things without men.

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TERFisTHEnewTREND · 17/12/2023 13:46

@Sidaway

I am finding the thread very informative and the Twitter discourse fairly humorous. Why should it be deleted?

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TERFisTHEnewTREND · 17/12/2023 13:44

MidWineCent · 17/12/2023 13:14

@TERFisTHEnewTREND

"If you think I'm a troll then just report me and MN will look into it. Troll hunting is banned BTW.^"

You've never posted here before. ^

^Looked up on X the profile of Haty Katy. He is an avid user of "btw".
Linguistic style is very similar. It isn't surprising that people are connecting the dots. It's not troll-hunting, it is called critical thinking.^

As I said, just report me.

I name changed for this thread given its sensitive topic. MN should be able to vouch that I'm a regular on here.

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Boiledbeetle · 17/12/2023 13:40

Remembers sock twitter account

https://twitter.com/IndiaWilloughby/status/1736374198140801503?t=_5vn2dwbeP6s8umsjlfI9Q&s=19

ArthurbellaScott · 17/12/2023 13:38

Undateable. I like that. I'll take it!

Boiledbeetle · 17/12/2023 13:38

TERFisTHEnewTREND · 17/12/2023 12:35

Can anyone (perhaps India themself?) screenshot India's tweet? They has me blocked!

I would if I could but I can't so I won't.

MargotBamborough · 17/12/2023 13:38

Hii93 · 17/12/2023 13:36

Stop lying you don't support the LGBT community at all

Did you post on the wrong thread?

MargotBamborough · 17/12/2023 13:36

Sidaway · 17/12/2023 13:34

Ok if you're not a troll maybe YOU should request this thread be deleted, given how it's now being mis-used? I assume you wouldn't want that?

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Why should this thread be deleted?

We are having a conversation.

Why should it be deleted just because some pathetic idiot on Twitter wants to pretend the OP is sad about bearded woke bros not wanting to date her?

Hii93 · 17/12/2023 13:36

Stop lying you don't support the LGBT community at all

Sidaway · 17/12/2023 13:34

TERFisTHEnewTREND · 17/12/2023 13:03

If you think I'm a troll then just report me and MN will look into it. Troll hunting is banned BTW.

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Ok if you're not a troll maybe YOU should request this thread be deleted, given how it's now being mis-used? I assume you wouldn't want that?

MargotBamborough · 17/12/2023 13:31

MidWineCent · 17/12/2023 13:14

@TERFisTHEnewTREND

"If you think I'm a troll then just report me and MN will look into it. Troll hunting is banned BTW.^"

You've never posted here before. ^

^Looked up on X the profile of Haty Katy. He is an avid user of "btw".
Linguistic style is very similar. It isn't surprising that people are connecting the dots. It's not troll-hunting, it is called critical thinking.^

"BTW" is very common internet shorthand.

I would be very surprised if KM were capable of typing the words "I don't want to date a man who believes humans can change sex", even for screen shots.