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Dating as a TERF

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TERFisTHEnewTREND · 14/12/2023 19:39

I'm a 34 year old female. I'm currently dating via Tinder.

When the gender issue has come up and I've mentioned that I'm a TERF, a lot of men have disengaged from me. I once went on three dates with a man, we got on great, and then when I mentioned my views on gender ideology, he ghosted me after!

Do you mention your stance up front or do you wait? I don't want to date anyone who thinks humans can change sex, is it worth stating this on my profile?

Any help/ advice/ insights appreciated.

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Feliciacat · 14/12/2023 19:49

@redlavender TERF stands for trans exclusionary radical feminist. Basically a TERF does not believe trans women are women and does not include trans women in women’s spaces.

redlavender · 14/12/2023 19:47

No idea what a terf is, but why is it relevant to mention it?

Feliciacat · 14/12/2023 19:44

Hello! This is a totally different thing but I didn’t want to read and run; I put my deafness on my dating profile so that I knew anyone who went on a date with me was ok about the deafness. I know being a TERF and being deaf have nothing to do with each other but my point is; always be upfront so you know people are ok with you as you are.

I was 32 then, I got married to DH aged 35 so it worked! Dating apps are tough and there will be so much ghosting and poor behaviour. Stick with it and be ruthless. Move to the next one if one doesn’t work out.

NightmareGirl · 14/12/2023 19:43

I looked up what TERF means. It might be the radical feminist part that scares them off ?

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