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Non Binary Gym Changing Rooms

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NevermindNelson · 13/11/2023 19:09

I’ve just had an email from a gym I use explaining that their changing rooms are going to become gender neutral. I don’t even know where to start to reply. The email states that they’re proud to do this.

I want to reply with the reasons that I’m cancelling my membership, but all I’ve got so far is, “What, seriously?”

Maybe I should just send this - Just under 90 per cent of complaints regarding changing room sexual assaults, voyeurism and harassment are about incidents in unisex facilities. Because they have made the changing rooms unisex, haven’t they?

Edited to correct the term as ‘gender neutral’

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stillholly · 18/11/2023 06:35

What has fought this about? Why o oh for a selected period?

Is this a case of a trans woman stating they want access to the womens changing room during their yoga class and the gym
Accommodating them?

NevermindNelson · 18/11/2023 06:32

I’ve had a reply. The original email stated “During this period, we will be making our changing rooms into gender neutral spaces,” but ‘period’ seems to mean some selected classes.

From the email,
“Whilst our changing rooms will be gender neutral, those who identify as male will be expected to use what is usually the male changing rooms, and those who identify as female will be expected to use what is usually the female changing rooms. Those who do not identify as either male or female, will be welcome to use their preferred changing room. In case you would like to use a private changing space, we have one available in the reception area.“

So, men in the women’s changing room.

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HoneyButterPopcorn · 17/11/2023 22:27

My gym has just changed one of their training rooms into a ‘woman only space’.

I got all excited for about 30 seconds, but being the ultimate cynic… yes I asked, and yes they have 🙄.

Women, non binary and ‘other’, my arse.

AmaryllisNightAndDay · 17/11/2023 07:25

Transmen shouldn't be allowed in men's changing rooms either by the same token.

Yes, many men would prefer that. And it's not only by the same token - also transmen are still at similar safety risks to other women if they are accommodated among men.

Though the most obvious example of the risks to transmen from gender-based accommodation is not changing rooms it's prisons. Transmen are not housed in men's prisons, for their own safety. According to Rhona Hotchkiss (retired Scottish prison governor) it was tried once and lasted 2 weeks before the prisoner was back in the women's prison, and not since.

The important difference is sex, not gender identity. People who are gender non-conforming might need separate accommodation but even then you can't mix male and female, it needs to be individual.

Commonhousewitch · 17/11/2023 06:56

Transmen shouldn't be allowed in men's changing rooms either by the same token. Single sex means single sex for both sexes.
Whilst there may not be the safety aspect single sex facilities are there to preserve privacy and dignity as well. My young teenager would hate to have women/girls in his changing room

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 16/11/2023 23:52

NoMoreRedWineforFreda · 16/11/2023 21:04

‘gender’ isn’t recognised in law either tho!

The whole things a shit show but it’s not surprising that a gym would assume that nonbinary is protected in the same way that other sorts of transgender is when the government website says this:

We don't even know for certain that the changes in the gym are being made to accommodate trans people, let alone NB. For some reason, you have seized on the idea that the gym is nervous about being sued by NB people, and you've invented some elaborate theory about why.

As for the Law not recognising gender, do you want to take another pass at that? The EA on gender reassignment? The Court of Session ruling? The GRA? Any of those ring a bell?

For Women Scotland lose court appeal over legal definition of woman

The Court of Session has upheld an initial ruling that the legal definition of “woman” is "not limited to biological or birth sex."

https://www.heraldscotland.com/news/23895294.women-scotland-lose-court-appeal-definition-woman/

BinturongsSmellOfPopcorn · 16/11/2023 22:54

Both are still blokes and neither belongs in the female changing room, but both can currently claim the Gender Reassignment characteristic

Even if that were the case, the protection for anyone with one of the defined charateristics is protection from discrimination compared with someone who is the same apart from that characteristic. So a man with the protected characteristic of gender reassignment cannot be treated less favourably than another man. He does not have the right to be treated the same as a woman.

pronounsbundlebundle · 16/11/2023 22:19

I'm beginning to wonder when we're going to get to the point where someone tries to bluntly make the argument that not providing a load of unconsenting women to validate an AGP fetish is 'discrimination'. So the Hamas / Taliban like position that women really don't count as much as men and need to simply be tools for men to use.

I mean that IS the whole argument really, otherwise third spaces (plus spaces for each sex) would solve everything. Except we know that the vast majority of women would self- exclude from the third space and go into the women's space and that's insufficiently erm let's say validating, which is why TRAs aren't advocating for third or even solely trans spaces (trans only spaces are fine with me! I wouldn't feel at all discriminated against as long as there's single sex too).

There was a right on the money cartoon on here once which was a load of transwomen all in a bathroom (labelled 'women') together and all getting really fed up that it was only the male kind of woman they were sharing with.

Whatsnewpussyhat · 16/11/2023 21:54

A gender neutral changing space
It's mixed sex. 'Gender' is irrelevant.

Females going into the male changing rooms are actively choosing to take the risk themselves.

That is entirely different to putting ALL the females in female changing rooms at risk by letting males in.

These spaces are rightfully segregated by sex not any of the imagined 'genders'

You can't pretend your way out of your sex.
Why can't a 'non binary' with a penis use the men's like all the other men? They are male after all.

If the genderists want special spaces they can campaign for them, instead of demanding single sex provision that is wanted by the vast majority, be removed.

NoMoreRedWineforFreda · 16/11/2023 21:04

‘gender’ isn’t recognised in law either tho!

The whole things a shit show but it’s not surprising that a gym would assume that nonbinary is protected in the same way that other sorts of transgender is when the government website says this:

Non Binary Gym Changing Rooms
MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 16/11/2023 20:34

NoMoreRedWineforFreda · 16/11/2023 19:51

Yes, we’re officially in in no man’s (enbie?) legal land but there is no material difference between a man who says he is proposing to undergo part of process to change gender with the final destination as ‘woman’ and a man who says he is proposing to undergo part of process to change gender with a destination that isn’t woman, seeing as humans cannot actually change sex and most transgender people don’t bother with the GRC process.

Both are still blokes and neither belongs in the female changing room, but both can currently claim the Gender Reassignment characteristic and any rejection of either could lead to litigation, and even if that’s ultimately unsuccessful it’s a massive pain in the arse for a business.

Not only is that untrue, but you have yourself posted a link, clarifying that that is untrue. Being non-binary is not recognised by UK law, as the link you shared states.

NoMoreRedWineforFreda · 16/11/2023 19:51

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 16/11/2023 17:42

Fortunately for everyone’s sanity (they are prone to idiosyncratic decisions), ETs do not make case law.

The review of current law, to which you have linked, confirms that, ‘Non-binary genders are not recognised in UK law’.

Yes, we’re officially in in no man’s (enbie?) legal land but there is no material difference between a man who says he is proposing to undergo part of process to change gender with the final destination as ‘woman’ and a man who says he is proposing to undergo part of process to change gender with a destination that isn’t woman, seeing as humans cannot actually change sex and most transgender people don’t bother with the GRC process.

Both are still blokes and neither belongs in the female changing room, but both can currently claim the Gender Reassignment characteristic and any rejection of either could lead to litigation, and even if that’s ultimately unsuccessful it’s a massive pain in the arse for a business.

CaramacFiend · 16/11/2023 19:13

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 16/11/2023 09:52

I’m sorry but I don’t think it’s helpful for the OP to suggest that there is an entitlement under law to single sex facilities. If she starts claiming that women are entitled to single sex facilities, she is handing the gym an easy victory. All they have to do is bat it back, saying that she is wrong.

She is on much more solid ground if she sticks to the facts: the EA permits the provision of single sex facilities and gyms that don’t provide them are at risk of a claim of discrimination against the protected characteristics of sex and religion.

This. I think sticking to the facts is the best approach.

CaramacFiend · 16/11/2023 19:06

Datun · 16/11/2023 09:27

Women are perfectly entitled to single six changing rooms. And companies can insist upon them. See Duncan Bannatyne.

Transactivism has convinced them that because gender reassignment is a protected characteristic, it trumps the protected characteristic of sex.

It doesn't.

The equality act was designed to protect people, in the fairest way possible. Sometimes there is a conflict. So the fairest way must be found.

Which is why it says that you can exclude men, even if they identify as women, if it is done as a proportionate means to a legitimate aim.

The 'proportionate means' would be, perhaps, not insisting a tw use the men's changing room, but find them an alternative provision, whilst maintaining the single sex provision for women, as the aim is to protect women's dignity, privacy and safety.

in terms of upholding the equality act, this would be seen as a fair balance that considers everyone.

insisting that women get undressed in front of men, would not.

And it doesn't matter if it's just one class. 'We only discriminate some of the time' is not a defence.

Edited

I meant 'entitled' as it's their right and can't be denied. As it stands, companies can say "sorry, our facilities are mixed sex".

Foxy1616 · 16/11/2023 17:56

The only way i could see this being acceptable would be if it was for a children’s class and the changing rooms were made gender neutral for that period and also exclusively used for the children so that both male and female parents/carers could assist young children of either sex with changing. Joe could take his daughter Molly and Mary could take her twins Jane and John in together to change. As long as there was a cut-off on child age, I think most people would be happy with this as the adults themselves would not be changing, they would all just be helping their children.
I can’t think of any other situation where this could be even remotely acceptable

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 16/11/2023 17:42

NoMoreRedWineforFreda · 16/11/2023 16:33

Here you go: https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/research-briefings/cbp-9515/

There has only been that one case at the ET so far but it’s not unreasonable to describe NB people as ‘proposing to undergo, is undergoing or has undergone a process (or part of a process) for the purpose of reassigning the person's sex by changing physiological or other attributes of sex.’ when ‘part of the process’ is simply changing your name on a gas bill 😬

Fortunately for everyone’s sanity (they are prone to idiosyncratic decisions), ETs do not make case law.

The review of current law, to which you have linked, confirms that, ‘Non-binary genders are not recognised in UK law’.

NoMoreRedWineforFreda · 16/11/2023 16:33

Here you go: https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/research-briefings/cbp-9515/

There has only been that one case at the ET so far but it’s not unreasonable to describe NB people as ‘proposing to undergo, is undergoing or has undergone a process (or part of a process) for the purpose of reassigning the person's sex by changing physiological or other attributes of sex.’ when ‘part of the process’ is simply changing your name on a gas bill 😬

Non Binary Gym Changing Rooms
Froodwithatowel · 16/11/2023 15:02

Which throws up the exact thing you're worried about - that they are surrounded by biological males who are seeing them undress.

Consent.

Consent is the bit you're missing.

If a female teenager is absolutely desperate to get her kit off in front of random men, and is under aged, then yes it's concerning and yes there's a limited amount you can do. Other than hope she is merely making men very uncomfortable as opposed to being exploited or assaulted. And a kid in this situation is by definition going to be vulnerable.

I'm more concerned about the females, teenaged or otherwise, told to get their kit off with a bloke against their consent and will, or lose access to the facilities because of the bloke's belief that he is something other than a bloke. And his total lack of care about the women's experience of this, or their feelings, or their needs.

A woman who consents to get undressed in front of unknown men to validate their identities by exposing her body - well, her boundary issues are sad, but are not my problem. I'll settle for a space where non consenting women are not compelled to choose between rank exploitation by a male however distressed it may make them, or from losing all access to the resource or service.
And I don't believe in the 21st century where people are wittering endlessly about DEI, that I actually just had to type that last sentence out and that I live in a country where men, and their women enablers, have made this an issue for women. WTAF.

Froodwithatowel · 16/11/2023 14:56

limefrog · 16/11/2023 10:43

This thread isn't about people using the facilities of the opposite sex, though. I don't think anyone is saying that they agree with men going into women's single-sex spaces. It's also not about permanently creating non-gendered changing spaces/ toilets.

It's about a gym introducing an optional session for probably a couple of hours a week where changing rooms become gender neutral, to support people who need that kind of facility. For the rest of the week, the changing rooms are single sex. I don't expect this session will be at a peak time either.

(I've assumed this is the case - waiting for OP's update - but this is something that I have known gyms to do to support non-binary/trans people).

People who want a single sex facility have the option to go at any other time of the week where they have access to single sex facilities.

I think you're projecting a lot of wishful thinking here: this is not what the OP is describing at all.

Clearly advertised times of the week and different sessions for different needs (mixed sex, gender neutral, female only etc) would be lovely. But you'd still have men jumping up and down demanding their right to take their clothes off with women in the female only sessions. As has happened in many, many other situations: it is the key issue at hand for women.

That their right to not required to be with men who state a belief in being a woman in situations where being undressed or vulnerable is a part of the activity is constantly under attack.

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 16/11/2023 14:54

Datun · 16/11/2023 11:15

I'm going on the Fair Play for Women advice. Which claims that women can absolutely have single sex provision (I'm trying not to use the word rights or entitlement), whilst a company still upholds the equality act.

That a company can say they have women only provision, without fearing that they will fall foul of the law.

I know this hasn't been tested in court. But In the absence of that precedent being set, companies still have to work within the interpretation they are given. And claiming they have to allow men access to women on their say so, is the advice they've been given.

My point was that the OPs gym could make the facilities female only despite being told that that could be illegal.

Is that not correct? (I realise, I'm probably using words with the dictionary meaning, rather than their legal meaning, so thanks for clarifying).

I don't think we're disagreeing, I think we're saying different things.

The EA does permit single-sex provision. The EA does not, however, create any entitlement to single-sex spaces.

So, if the gym tells the OP that it is not allowed to offer single-sex changing rooms, that it is definitely not correct - the EA specifies that it can (as you say).

However, the gym is not under any legal obligation to offer single-sex spaces.

Helleofabore · 16/11/2023 14:15

Datun · 16/11/2023 14:06

The reality is that the final outcome is poor safeguarding. Even with waivers signed or whatever.

I wasn't serious about disclaimers, in case that wasn't clear.

I wondered if that poster would think it a good idea. I've seen too many people try desperately to accommodate a low safeguarded situation because of 'validation'.

I wondered if that poster thought getting young women to sign away their safety was worth it.

No idea Datun.

I find it concerning that some people believe though, that there are young female people getting naked in communal changing rooms as a matter of regularity with male people. I think this needs to be clarified and some evidence presented. Not that some young female people will go into a cubicle and use it in a male facility, but that they are right there naked with the male people as a matter of course.

I am keen to see if limefrog has personal experience of this, or has made some assumptions. If this based on personal experience, then that is fucking concerning.

Actually, either is fucking concerning.

BinturongsSmellOfPopcorn · 16/11/2023 14:12

limefrog · 16/11/2023 10:20

It's not dubious at all. There is a very clear statement on it which has come directly from the government.

https://www.brethertons.co.uk/site/blog/gender-fluid-persons-protected

A Select Committee is not the Government; their recommendations are not Government statements and do not create law.

Taylor v Landrover was an employment tribunal case and therefore does not set legal precedent. They do not have the same status as employment tribunal appeals.

Datun · 16/11/2023 14:06

The reality is that the final outcome is poor safeguarding. Even with waivers signed or whatever.

I wasn't serious about disclaimers, in case that wasn't clear.

I wondered if that poster would think it a good idea. I've seen too many people try desperately to accommodate a low safeguarded situation because of 'validation'.

I wondered if that poster thought getting young women to sign away their safety was worth it.

BinturongsSmellOfPopcorn · 16/11/2023 14:04

It is a session where people can go and not feel they are making anyone uncomfortable by being in the wrong changing room - that has its place and can actually be a good thing for both non binary people AND women

What is the benefit to women?

Tinysoxxx · 16/11/2023 13:19

limefrog · 16/11/2023 10:27

'Loads of people would love it'

... Or be relieved that they finally have an opportunity, for a couple of hours a week, to simply use the gym without a minefield of a decision about which changing room to use?

Anyone who wants a single sex space can simply ignore this session and use the gym during any of its other opening hours during the week.

@Tinysoxxx I do see the point about safeguarding from the perspective of potentially vulnerable trans/ non binary young people going along to this session, however, there is an equal risk with female-male trans young people using male changing rooms at any other time of the week. A session like this makes little difference to that risk for young people which exists regardless.

What they really need to do is put cubicles in their changing rooms, regardless of whether or not this session goes ahead.

@limefrog you are very naive. In this situation (which I reckon isn’t the one that will be happening btw) by advertising a specific class is mixed sexed, it does increase risk. Because good men stay out of women’s spaces. And so will women stay out of mixed spaces. So you are left with vulnerable youngsters and men who are interested in being in a mixed sex space.

A comparable situation happened near me. It ended up with social services and police involvement as the lgbtq+ friends under 18 and middle aged men who liked school uniforms were mixing.

Tbh I think the most likely scenario is a man who wants to use the women’s changing room because of the ‘proud’ statement. They seem to be the demographic that makes the most noise about this.