And so it starts

Collateral damage in this case being a girl or woman temporarily upset by being mistaken or questioned in pursuit of fairness and safety for girls and womens.

Compared to collateral damage pushed by the TRA/MRA movement, which regards raped women in prisons as not much of an issue and in pursuit of absolute freedoms for men.

You're using all the phrases but they're a bit desperate in terms of parallels.

So you are saying that all those school officials lied to a parent? and the children? Bit of a conspiracy theory there.

Nobody has called little children bigots 🙄

Because otherwise everyone would have to acknowledge that this whole "trans the children" push is hurting girls and women. So they call those who point out obvious facts "bigots." They're calling little children "bigots" for recognizing reality.

You can't have it both ways.

If women and girls cannot question the sex - in the face of the gaslighting - in case they accidentally temporarily upset a female - then they just have to accept that males are women and girls. In all circumstances.

How do you intend to protect girls from ever being accidentally mistaken for a boy, AND protect them from boys and men in their toilets and changing rooms and races and refuges? These things are all connected you know?

No. Not really. It is not ‘most likely’ at all that the girls were mistaken.

There is a distinct possibility that the school replied that this child was a girl, yet was actually male.

Sure. This particular case is closed. OP’s sister has not taken it further.

The issue is that there is little trust left. And that if that child was male, they should not have been in that race.

So for the greater good some girls have to be thrown under the bus because apparently pretending that the misgendering of girls as boys is a myth and fucking over those girls is somehow essential for the rights of all women. This is rubbish of course, because the rights of all women include those girls too.
Exactly and I believe the phrase I've seen used is "collateral damage"

So for the greater good some girls have to be thrown under the bus because apparently pretending that the misgendering of girls as boys is a myth and fucking over those girls is somehow essential for the rights of all women. This is rubbish of course, because the rights of all women include those girls too.

Oh God, listen to the what abouts. Of course we all care about changing rooms and toilets! These aren’t even the subject of the thread.

And I'm afraid however sad women get about being temporarily mistaken for being boys/men, it does not mean that women should lie down and let male people take all their rights, spaces, and exclude all the women that cannot use mixed sex spaces.

Are your feelings really more important than all women's rights, access and equality?

And yet no one fusses about women's voices when they say inconvenient things like 'my trauma prevents me from having access to this space when a male person enters it'. You can't have it both ways.

Equally, oh gosh how terrible to upset a little girl by briefly misgendering her- but no one cares how she feels when she has to get undressed in front of a boy in her class whether she's willing or not, or when she can't use a toilet all day because they're mixed sex.

Do women and girls' feelings matter always? Or only when it helps males to use females and get what they want?

Exactly. I’m sure Simone Biles flew across the monkey bars as a girl.

I think since parents asked officials to confirm the winner was a girl and they confirmed it with the school that the winner was a girl, then case closed. The OPs DD most likely mistook a girl for a boy. It’s not that rare of a thing. I’m all for parents raising concerns and inquiring discretely but why the disbelief when the answer was the winner was a girl?

And yes I got “the fuck over” being mistaken for a boy but every time it happened it hurt like hell. It hurt to see friends getting boyfriends, while I was stuck in the friend zone. It hurt to be hit on by girls thinking I was a cute lad. It hurt the day the A level invigilator called me “young man” and my whole class fell about laughing and I wanted to walk out the exam room and I could barely concentrate for the next two hours from the shame of it.

Everyone’s feelings matter in situations like this and girls that look like boys are still girls.

One of my kids was at primary school with a girl who went on to compete for Britain in the Olympics. She was tall, good at any sport she tried, she was slim but muscular. She could beat the boys at anything but she was still a girl. I think passing the tests for the Olympics proves that.

I believe that male is reportedly 6 foot 4 inches.

And in real life towers over the female competitors.

And as you know full well, height is a huge advantage in swimming. As is feet and hand size. No female on that podium matches those male proportions.

What? I was constantly on the monkey bars as a girl…climbing trees with boys develops those muscles. I could do 30 full pull ups at that age too. It’s not sex that makes boys go with ease over monkey bars, but practice. Any girl who does gymnastics on the uneven bars would go just as easy too.

Ah, that makes sense, knew must be taller for standing on something, photo didn't look right!

Yes. That male individual, Lia Thomas, is on the first place box for the female championship.

well picked !!!

Because he took first place in the female category.

He’s standing on a podium.

That photo- has it been cropped as her knees as by somebody else's head?!
It looks like is on a box

this event was single sex. It was not mixed sex.

Primary aged sports events are often (usually?) mixed sex
It's an extremely long time since I was at primary but that's what I was trying to remember yesterday, whether it was single sex as I was sure I remember running with the boys too,.memory's hazy though!
Secondary school.was definitely single sex though

No, we don’t want to be sore losers, do we, girls?

especially when the girls are actually in close proximity and know the child in question.

As far as I can see (unless I missed it) the OP has not said that her niece knows the child. It was the first question I asked at the start of the thread. She said the child was from another school.