Please or to access all these features

Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
Thread gallery
10
fionamattel · 26/09/2023 23:05

And I think you’re really oversimplifying what a gender can contain. I am a woman, but I’m a very masculine woman in many ways.

PorcelinaV · 26/09/2023 23:04

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 22:54

People should use the toilet which feels most sensible and natural. I don’t think we should be so uptight about it.

You said yourself:

"I’m not suggesting that women share with men when there is a men’s toilet and a women’s toilet. That would be very socially awkward."

So there is a reason not to have mixed sex. If you used gender identity, it's mixed sex.

Someone's "gender identity", which you can't even tell, isn't going to stop something being "awkward".

OP posts:
fionamattel · 26/09/2023 23:03

NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 26/09/2023 22:58

Let us accept your premise as true for the moment.

If "living as a woman in our society" makes one a woman, what would happen if you migrated to another nation that had completely opposite social expectations of the sexes?

Do you change sex?

What if I'm translating a book about life in that nation, where social expectations are totally the opposite of our own, into the English language?

Do I translate their term for male human as "man" because he's biologically male, or should I translate it as "woman", because his social role parallels the role of women in the UK?

If I migrated to a country with different gender expectations I would still very much be a woman in ways beyond my genitalia.

You would obviously translate it to man. The men in their society play a different social role.

NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 26/09/2023 22:58

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 22:48

It would take more than a quippy phrase, it would take an academic article to compile everything that womanhood or manhood encompasses but as social constructs they are absolutely real and definable. Gender developed out of and around the sexes, but is not inherent to the sexes.

Living as a woman in our society makes you a woman.

Let us accept your premise as true for the moment.

If "living as a woman in our society" makes one a woman, what would happen if you migrated to another nation that had completely opposite social expectations of the sexes?

Do you change sex?

What if I'm translating a book about life in that nation, where social expectations are totally the opposite of our own, into the English language?

Do I translate their term for male human as "man" because he's biologically male, or should I translate it as "woman", because his social role parallels the role of women in the UK?

wincarwoo · 26/09/2023 22:57

Proof.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 22:56

GailBlancheViola · 26/09/2023 22:00

Hardly, you are determined to flush women's rights down the proverbial toilet.

Hardly! I’m a radical feminist.

wincarwoo · 26/09/2023 22:55

Don't feed the troll.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 22:54

PorcelinaV · 26/09/2023 22:52

Trans people often don't pass on the level of gender however. So if you wanted "same gender spaces", it's not going to work.

Whether gender is a "social construct", or just stereotypes, or whatever, I'm not going to worry about here.

You could try for "same gender identity spaces", but then why is that a good idea?

That's not going to create "comfort", as even if makes some males feel good, it will cause problems for many women, impinge on their privacy, and create discomfort.

It's also impossible to really know anyone's gender identity in that situation, so it's just basically a mixed sex space that anyone can enter if they choose.

Makes a lot more sense to just keep with single sex spaces I think.

People should use the toilet which feels most sensible and natural. I don’t think we should be so uptight about it.

PorcelinaV · 26/09/2023 22:52

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 21:05

Yeah, I totally disagree.
I’m gender critical, but we currently live in a world where gender matters a whole lot. People should be able to find their comfort within that.

Trans people often don't pass on the level of gender however. So if you wanted "same gender spaces", it's not going to work.

Whether gender is a "social construct", or just stereotypes, or whatever, I'm not going to worry about here.

You could try for "same gender identity spaces", but then why is that a good idea?

That's not going to create "comfort", as even if makes some males feel good, it will cause problems for many women, impinge on their privacy, and create discomfort.

It's also impossible to really know anyone's gender identity in that situation, so it's just basically a mixed sex space that anyone can enter if they choose.

Makes a lot more sense to just keep with single sex spaces I think.

OP posts:
fionamattel · 26/09/2023 22:51

NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 26/09/2023 22:46

Of course she hasn't been arrested.

Women have empathy for another woman going through a biological phenomenon that only women ever experience, and they don't try to punish women for being female in the women's toilets.

Women's toilets are there so women can participate in public life without being subjected to the urinary leash, or the menstruation leash.

You must live a very odd life, that your first reaction to reading about a woman struggling with heavy periods is to query whether she has been arrested for it.

Edited

Are you suggesting that trans women would?

I’ve just never seen a nude woman washing herself in a toilet sink, I would be a bit surprised!

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 22:48

popebishop · 26/09/2023 22:02

You will refuse to say what a woman or man actually is, though, right? Like, name one definite criterion that makes a person either a woman or a man - you will be unable to do that, yes? What all those people actually meant that had nothing to do with being female or male?

It would take more than a quippy phrase, it would take an academic article to compile everything that womanhood or manhood encompasses but as social constructs they are absolutely real and definable. Gender developed out of and around the sexes, but is not inherent to the sexes.

Living as a woman in our society makes you a woman.

NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 26/09/2023 22:46

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 22:42

That’s really, really wild and unusual ! Most would be very taken aback to see a naked woman washing herself in a toilet sink.

Have you never been arrested or had someone come to check on you for that ?

Of course she hasn't been arrested.

Women have empathy for another woman going through a biological phenomenon that only women ever experience, and they don't try to punish women for being female in the women's toilets.

Women's toilets are there so women can participate in public life without being subjected to the urinary leash, or the menstruation leash.

You must live a very odd life, that your first reaction to reading about a woman struggling with heavy periods is to query whether she has been arrested for it.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 22:42

JanesLittleGirl · 26/09/2023 22:32

@fionamattel Let us accept that transwomen only use the Ladies' to pee. (They don't but let's accept it for the moment). Women use the Ladies' for other reasons as well. I used to suffer from random heavy periods. While I could sort the worst of it out in the cubicle, I would end up naked from the waist down, standing in front of a sink, mopping my thighs, backside and groin with wet hand towels, rinsing out my knickers and sponging down my skirt. If you think that I should be expected to do that in the presence of a man then you can fuck off to the far side of fuck.

That’s really, really wild and unusual ! Most would be very taken aback to see a naked woman washing herself in a toilet sink.

Have you never been arrested or had someone come to check on you for that ?

JanesLittleGirl · 26/09/2023 22:32

@fionamattel Let us accept that transwomen only use the Ladies' to pee. (They don't but let's accept it for the moment). Women use the Ladies' for other reasons as well. I used to suffer from random heavy periods. While I could sort the worst of it out in the cubicle, I would end up naked from the waist down, standing in front of a sink, mopping my thighs, backside and groin with wet hand towels, rinsing out my knickers and sponging down my skirt. If you think that I should be expected to do that in the presence of a man then you can fuck off to the far side of fuck.

popebishop · 26/09/2023 22:02

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 21:20

I think it’s important for you to know that this is not true. You were living amongst a sheltered crowd.

You will refuse to say what a woman or man actually is, though, right? Like, name one definite criterion that makes a person either a woman or a man - you will be unable to do that, yes? What all those people actually meant that had nothing to do with being female or male?

GailBlancheViola · 26/09/2023 22:00

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 21:48

Now that’s something I can get behind.

Hardly, you are determined to flush women's rights down the proverbial toilet.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 21:48

wincarwoo · 26/09/2023 21:35

I'm content with my "hobby" supporting women and their rights.

Now that’s something I can get behind.

wincarwoo · 26/09/2023 21:35

I'm content with my "hobby" supporting women and their rights.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 21:30

wincarwoo · 26/09/2023 21:23

@fionamattel trotting out all the old tropes.

This is a nasty hobby you have if you do this on the regular. These are real people trying to get by like all of us.

wincarwoo · 26/09/2023 21:23

@fionamattel trotting out all the old tropes.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 21:22

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 21:19

No one is trying to prevent trans people from using the toilet.

There are toilets for people of both sexes. You have yourself confirmed that there is no safety issue, that there is no evidence to suggest that trans women will be attacked in men's toilets, and so literally the only reason for them to use women's toilets instead is because they want to.

You're saying that what they want matters and what women want doesn't.

That women don't need single sex spaces but trans women can't possibly be expected to share spaces with members of their own sex.

That if we oppose trans women using women's spaces we are denying their right to exist in society, but if female women feel unable to use such spaces knowing that they may encounter someone with a penis they can stay home.

The level of misogyny you are displaying is utterly breathtaking.

I strongly suspect you are trying to provoke me into saying something against the Talk Guidelines so you can frantically hit the report button and have me banned, so I think I am going to quit while I am ahead and not give you the satisfaction.

Good night.

So then stop trying to prevent them. Thanks!

And I’m not a snitch, sorry you got all hot and bothered over strangers peeing.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 21:20

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:14

That's because until about five minutes ago we all understood that women are female people with vaginas and men are male people with penises and if you had said anything to the contrary everyone would have thought you were completely fucking insane.

I think it’s important for you to know that this is not true. You were living amongst a sheltered crowd.

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 21:19

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 21:13

The difference is that you are trying to prevent people from using the toilet, they are not.

No one is trying to prevent trans people from using the toilet.

There are toilets for people of both sexes. You have yourself confirmed that there is no safety issue, that there is no evidence to suggest that trans women will be attacked in men's toilets, and so literally the only reason for them to use women's toilets instead is because they want to.

You're saying that what they want matters and what women want doesn't.

That women don't need single sex spaces but trans women can't possibly be expected to share spaces with members of their own sex.

That if we oppose trans women using women's spaces we are denying their right to exist in society, but if female women feel unable to use such spaces knowing that they may encounter someone with a penis they can stay home.

The level of misogyny you are displaying is utterly breathtaking.

I strongly suspect you are trying to provoke me into saying something against the Talk Guidelines so you can frantically hit the report button and have me banned, so I think I am going to quit while I am ahead and not give you the satisfaction.

Good night.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 21:17

Froodwithatowel · 26/09/2023 21:12

If people can like it or lump it, then trans people can do this as well as women. They can 'reframe their trauma' and so on as they are so often told.

Or, we can accept that different people need different things and create third spaces, to be used by those who choose to do so, and everyone's access and feelings and identity choices and inclusion needs are equally valued.

Trans people are not trying to push anyone out. You are. You are saying that ‘if they are there I will self exclude’ that is not the same as being excluded.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 21:15

Froodwithatowel · 26/09/2023 21:13

Ok.

If you're going to identify as single sex spaces not existing, then I identify as this whole gender thing not existing. <shrug>

Sex exists

Swipe left for the next trending thread