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Asking someone’s pronouns is as important as finding out their name

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SamW98 · 15/09/2023 16:55

https://metro.co.uk/2023/09/13/talking-about-pronouns-isnt-a-chore-its-like-asking-someones-name-19491080/amp/

No it really isn’t. Does anyone really meet a new person in a social setting and say ‘hi I’m Doris and my pronouns are hee/haw, what’s your name and pronouns?

Talking about pronouns isn't a chore – it's like asking someone's name

Making your pronouns clear is no different than people clarifying that your name is, in fact, just ‘Becca’ and not ‘Rebecca’.

https://metro.co.uk/2023/09/13/talking-about-pronouns-isnt-a-chore-its-like-asking-someones-name-19491080/amp/

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Froodwithatowel · 15/09/2023 17:10

Asking for someone's pronouns confirms that they are very focused on their personal politics and evangelism. And I am likely to respond in the same way as to someone with a bible in their hand demanding to know if I'm saved.

Your beliefs are fine. Inflict them on me, and there's a problem.

StephanieSuperpowers · 15/09/2023 17:08

It's a bit like announcing your star sign really. Most people are going to be, at best, nonplussed.

Datun · 15/09/2023 17:07

Most women on here are gender critical, so pronoun proclamation is going to get them eye rolling at the speed of light.

But I honestly think people without the slightest depth of knowledge about any of this will be...exactly the same.

The initial impression will be what a wanker. And, to be fair, they might have already formed that view before the person opened their mouth.

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SamW98 · 15/09/2023 17:07

Tbf it really is a good way of knowing you want to escape that person immediately and avoid any form of communication.

Have to be honest, when I was on OLD anyone with pronouns was instant swipe left

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RunningUpThatBuilding · 15/09/2023 17:07

Apollo441 · 15/09/2023 17:02

Pronouns are a great way of announcing you are a complete narcissistic bell end and anyone with a brain should avoid you. So they serve a purpose.

Exactly!

BoohooWoohoo · 15/09/2023 17:06

I can't think of anything less interesting than discovering someone's pronouns.

Chipperfish · 15/09/2023 17:05

In my list of importance its after favourite seashanty but before lucky crystal

Catsanfan · 15/09/2023 17:04

I deleted an email at work today from a Phil with he/him/his emblazoned across his signature purely based on him announcing his pronouns

MagpiePi · 15/09/2023 17:04

I think if someone tells you their preferred pronouns straight away, it can be a useful heads up and avoid the batshittery.

Apollo441 · 15/09/2023 17:02

Pronouns are a great way of announcing you are a complete narcissistic bell end and anyone with a brain should avoid you. So they serve a purpose.

StephanieSuperpowers · 15/09/2023 16:59

To be honest, this is the kind of person I'd prefer not to have to meet in any setting. Once someone tells me their pronouns, that's more than enough info.

DustyLee123 · 15/09/2023 16:59

Pronouns actually make me want to stab people. Just fuck off.