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If you're GC, what should trans people actually do?

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AmaListening · 10/08/2023 20:47

I'd like to understand what someone with gender critical views thinks trans people should do.

Maybe let's make it specific with a couple of famous examples: Laverne Cox (trans woman), and Elliot Page (trans man).

Imagine you had it exactly your way. What should those human beings, who feel and identify the way they do, do about every aspect like: names, pronouns, surgery, clothing, relationships, social spaces, work, sports.

How should Laverne speak about her own identity? Should Elliot not have had top surgery?

I'd really like to understand what the world looks like for trans people if we carry GC views through to their end points.

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Helleofabore · 11/08/2023 15:10

aSofaNearYou · 11/08/2023 14:58

Agreed. Nobody is forcing them to make themselves ineligible.

It always seemed incongruous that a male who is taking performance limiting medication was ever considered as a fair competitor to female people. Athletes are heavily restricted as to the chemicals they can ingest in any form. And many athletes have had to cope with disappointment in having to choose performance limiting medication or keep competing but risk their health.

Why was this group of male people ever considered so different?

Honestly, it always surprised me that a male who has lost their testes due to injury or disease should be treated differently to a male who has chosen a medical route for their health issue. But that is what has happened. It does discriminate against those males who have no testes producing testosterone, yet not once have I seen this ever acknowledged.

The only difference between the two male groups is that one has a gender identity and the other does not. Therefore, the group without the gender identity doesn't get a special dispensation to compete with the female athletes and win acclaim and prize money.

The reality is that whenever you starting to pull a thread with this ideological thinking, it lacks cohesiveness, consistency and logic.

HagoftheNorth · 11/08/2023 15:09

How strange that, with 17 pages of very reasonable replies, the OP hasn’t been back to comment!

FrippEnos · 11/08/2023 15:00

I would expect trans activists to stop targeting people that disagrees with them.
I would expect trans activists to not dox people or attack their families.

Other than sports and sex based only spaces, I would expect them to get on with their lives without pushing their doctrine on anybody especially the vulnerable.

aSofaNearYou · 11/08/2023 14:58

Alltheprettyseahorses · 11/08/2023 14:53

I'm at a bit of a loss as to why this question is even being asked. Take sports as an example - if a grown adult knowingly and of their own free will either doesn't want to take part in sports with their own sex or chooses to take unnecessary medication that breaks the rules and therefore bars them from entering, exactly what am I supposed to do about it? It's no bigger an issue than, say, someone wants to play a sport at Olympic level but can't be bothered practising at all. No one can have it both ways and all choices have consequences.

Agreed. Nobody is forcing them to make themselves ineligible.

Alltheprettyseahorses · 11/08/2023 14:53

I'm at a bit of a loss as to why this question is even being asked. Take sports as an example - if a grown adult knowingly and of their own free will either doesn't want to take part in sports with their own sex or chooses to take unnecessary medication that breaks the rules and therefore bars them from entering, exactly what am I supposed to do about it? It's no bigger an issue than, say, someone wants to play a sport at Olympic level but can't be bothered practising at all. No one can have it both ways and all choices have consequences.

Froodwithatowel · 11/08/2023 14:52

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:01

Also curious about people's views.. Those people saying women's spaces should not include trans.. Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space? I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services.. Where should she go for support?

As pp have said: you've been misinformed.

Leverne and any other male rape victim needing support services would have no less than three different accessible groups they could choose from to find the one that best met their needs.

The woman taking the charity to court merely wants one single group that she can access at all. This is not provided, and she is left with nothing, because the trans activists involved refused to provide a female only group - even in another building or place in the town - because it's mere existence upset male users. (Who already had three options they could choose from.)

Where do you think women should go for support?

No one here wishes to see TQ people without equality of resources. Do you wish the same equality for all women?

RebelliousCow · 11/08/2023 14:50

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 11/08/2023 14:42

Stonewall are loaded, they could easily fund group counselling services for male rape victims, including males who identify as women.

Yes, definitely! Most women's services were created by women organising and running them themselves.

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 11/08/2023 14:42

RebelliousCow · 11/08/2023 14:33

I think organisations such as Stonewall and other trans campaign groups should lobby for third spaces and categories; and that includes the sorts of services you mention.

Every other civil rights campaign has lobbied for their own provision where necessary. Different groups have different needs.

As for Elliot page, i'd be fine with her using the women's toilets - after all she is female; but i suspect that she might not want to - and so third gender neutral spaces would work better in that case,

Stonewall are loaded, they could easily fund group counselling services for male rape victims, including males who identify as women.

MrsMarzetti · 11/08/2023 14:41

What do i think they should do ? Go and live their life in whatever way they wish but do not expect anyone to lie. It is that simple.

Notmanybroadbeans · 11/08/2023 14:37

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:01

Also curious about people's views.. Those people saying women's spaces should not include trans.. Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space? I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services.. Where should she go for support?

Elliot Page - yes, fine, as others have said, Page is female and I frankly feel sorry for Page.

Rape services - you need to read the full story of Sarah's lawsuit. Iirc - the centre provided a women's session, a men's session and a mixed session. Sarah went to the women's session and found a person there who looked entirely male in men's clothes etc - but nothing would be done about it as the centre had to assume this person had special secret lady feelings inside else this person wouldn't have gone along to the women's session. I don't even think this person even contributed - just listened to the women's stories. So the point is - when you have policies like this, you aren't just inviting in post-operative transexuals who are in genuine need of the service, you are also opening the door to any man and backing yourself into a corner of being able to question any of them. Read up on what actually happens when these policies are in place - there's an article called "protecting men at the women's shelter" which makes pretty grim reading - Google it.

What should trans ppl do - imo, they should receive mental health treatment. I think it's unethical for doctors to operate or prescribe hormones for this reason. I do not believe a person can be born in the wrong body. I also note that the vast majority of those under the "trans" umbrella are not even making any modifications anyway - in which case, why do they need to be waving their cocks around in the ladies changing rooms?

RebelliousCow · 11/08/2023 14:33

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:01

Also curious about people's views.. Those people saying women's spaces should not include trans.. Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space? I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services.. Where should she go for support?

I think organisations such as Stonewall and other trans campaign groups should lobby for third spaces and categories; and that includes the sorts of services you mention.

Every other civil rights campaign has lobbied for their own provision where necessary. Different groups have different needs.

As for Elliot page, i'd be fine with her using the women's toilets - after all she is female; but i suspect that she might not want to - and so third gender neutral spaces would work better in that case,

DinnaeFashYersel · 11/08/2023 14:28

Jasperdale · 10/08/2023 21:01

Laverne cox should use the male or unisex toilet. They should compete with others of their biological sex if they want to do sport dye yo their physical advantage over women.

Perfect response and agree entirely

Helleofabore · 11/08/2023 14:23

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:01

Also curious about people's views.. Those people saying women's spaces should not include trans.. Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space? I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services.. Where should she go for support?

Can I suggest that you go and research the case that you are referring to?

The woman in question is not 'taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy'. The woman is taking the charity to court because they refused to create a female only space. Despite having a men's group, a dedicated LGBT group and a 'women's' group. The woman asked for a female only group in addition to the others because having a male present in the group retraumatised her.

If Cox was assaulted, why on earth wouldn't Cox choose either the male group or the LGBT group. What would Cox have in common with female people who have been raped by a male? And as a trans person, why wouldn't Cox seek to have their unique needs as a trans person addressed?

To be clear, no feminist has said that a trans person should not receive a high level of care that is suited to their unique needs. Do you believe that feminists have said that they should not?

ApocalipstickNow · 11/08/2023 14:22

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:01

Also curious about people's views.. Those people saying women's spaces should not include trans.. Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space? I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services.. Where should she go for support?

The whole thing is on MN if you read the thread by the woman concerned you will see the issue.

Helleofabore · 11/08/2023 14:15

”I don’t want society to section off “biological women” whilst everyone else gets to be everyone else, not defined by biology. That’s othering. That’s what women have been trying to escape for hundreds of years and now we’re back to women othering themselves. It’s not long before we go back to being told we can’t do XYZ because of our poor feminine biology”

And

“I just can’t get over how any woman can believe they’re a feminist whilst consistently defining womanhood as vulnerable and biological. It’s so not helping anyone.”

Just coming back to these two posts.

This is an example of polarisation that seems to underlie that misrepresentation of the equality / equity that second wave feminists sought as I believe it. Often this is linked with a false narrative that all discrimination is bad when in actual fact, there are different types of discrimination. And discrimination in and of itself as an action is not ‘bad’. It can be good for society and individuals also.

This is lazy thinking though that some feminist academics have also been publishing so I don’t blame posters specifically for this, there are professional feminists who are saying this. And many extreme trans activists.

When you evaluate it though, it can only be a false premise.

Feminists who believe that there are some needs that are unique to female people and that they need to be fully considered in policy and law do not believe that ‘biological women’ should be ‘sectioned off’ unless there is a specific need for that. This makes statements like these falsehoods. Because it removes the limiter on the statement, in this case ‘unless there is a specific need’ and makes a blanket statement about what some feminists believe. Again, this may not be something the poster has considered and they might be simply repeating what they have read from people they have chosen to respect.

So, no. feminists who are considered ‘gender critical’ join the poster in not wanting society to ‘section off biological women’.

“Whilst everyone else gets to be everyone else, not defined by biology” is not true. If female people are ‘defined by biology’, that just leaves male people. So…. there is no everyone else outside ‘male people’. Now it is a feminist thought, I believe, that male people have been the ‘default’ in many societies for a very long time. The reality is that there is only two sexes. And both are defined by their biology. There is absolutely no truth that there is any other group of people not defined by their biology. There is plenty of arguments that males should never be the default position and that no female person should be negatively discriminated against because of their sex.

However, it is very short sighted to say that every day life is not defined for many by their sex. In many job roles, if there is not a separate male vs female lifting regulation, then the maximum lift will be set with consideration to female physical limitations. Including the impact of repetitious lifting will have on the female body. This is just one example.

The argument for ‘equality’ misses the need that feminists fought for ‘equity’. That women should never be excluded from job roles or any opportunity that was not by necessity sex exclusive (such as male carers for male people). The argument was that women can contribute just as much to a workforce as male people so employers should not fucking discriminate against them for being female.

Making accommodations for female people is not ‘othering’ them! FFS. It seems like messed up logic to declare that differences in the needs of male people and the needs of female people are non-existent and that, as a concept, this ‘equality’ is progress!

“It’s not long before we go back to being told we can’t do XYZ because of our poor feminine biology”

When I see professional feminists use this line of thought, I see it as coercive. It is threatening women with falsehoods to get them to comply or to campaign for that feminist’s view of women’s equality. It is not based on any reality at all. There really is not threat that the roles that are open to female people will begin to be limited. It is an empty threat. And it is also based on misrepresenting what other feminists are saying.

That is the polarisation part. The absolute statements being made. That is:

Feminists who acknowledge the needs of female people, including their trauma history that is certainly based on their ‘biology’, are reducing female people to their biology.

This is simply not true and it doesn’t take much to understand why.

“I just can’t get over how any woman can believe they’re a feminist whilst consistently defining womanhood as vulnerable and biological. It’s so not helping anyone.”

This is also a misrepresentation. One framed in exaggeration. Because feminists are not ‘defining’ womanhood as ‘vulnerable’. Feminists who prioritise the needs of female people above male people ‘acknowledge’ women are vulnerable to not only negative sexist discrimination in the work place, but also they will never be as strong or have the physical advantages of male people.

Women are not fucking TV super heroes, no matter how much some people wish to believe that it is highly likely that the average female person (even on testosterone) can fight off the average male people. The answer to that is, no. They MAY fight off an attacking male person but it is more likely that they will be significantly harmed and injured. However, technically, yes. All female people are ‘vulnerable’ when compared to male people.

Again, grip strength in a male in the lowest quartile of all male adults will be still stronger than all but the top 5 or 10% of female people. Punching power has large discrepancies. And female people have got less dense bones making them more susceptible to breakage AND our brains have more delicate brain fibres meaning we are more susceptible to permanent brain damage.

I ask any poster who uses the arguments that women are ‘just as’ strong as male people to show their workings. Link us up to the evidence. Otherwise you are speaking bollocks and you really need to stop because it is harmful to women and girls.

Now, where does that matter.

A person’s sex rarely matters in today’s society except when female people need extra protections due to their physical reality. And female people are hugely more at risk of having a male commit a sex crime against them. Toilets, changing rooms, prisons are all part of female single sex spaces. This IS where it matters.

Also any role where a female person wishes to have a female person look after them. For whatever reason.

So, I would now like someone who believes that acknowledging the physical reality of female people ‘is not helping anyone’ to explain to us how this is true in their eyes.

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 11/08/2023 14:15

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:10

@NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom
Sorry your response has confused me, What does L's and B's mean?

L is the female part of LGBT.

GBT services exist for humans like Laverne, a gender nonconforming homosexual male who identifies as a woman. These services also cater for gender non conforming homosexual males who don’t have inner lady-feelings (eg most drag queens).

Female bisexuals can use women only rape crisis services, as can lesbians, which is why I wrote GBT instead of LGBT.

Cox isn’t female & doesn’t actually look female 🤷‍♀️

If you're GC, what should trans people actually do?
If you're GC, what should trans people actually do?
MumOfYoungTransAdult · 11/08/2023 14:12

I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services..

You only read half the story. The charity offered a group for women, an LGBT group and a goup for men. The legal case is because the charity allowed a male (a transwomen) to join the women's group and also insisted that the women had to welcome them.

Where should she go for support?

Laverne (a transwoman presumably?) could join the LGBT group or the men's group.

The right services do exist if only people would use them.

DeanElderberry · 11/08/2023 14:10

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:01

Also curious about people's views.. Those people saying women's spaces should not include trans.. Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space? I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services.. Where should she go for support?

Women's spaces should not include men.

Transwomen are men, and should not be in women's spaces.

Transmen are women. Transmen, including Elliot Page, are welcome in women's spaces.

Rape support charities for men exist and are available to any man who has been raped or sexually assaulted. If Transwomen need specific designated support, then they should do what women have done, and organise it.

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:10

@NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom
Sorry your response has confused me, What does L's and B's mean?

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 11/08/2023 14:09

Elliot Page presumably won’t want to use the women only provision but if Elliot did prefer the women only provision the other women using it are unlikely to feel scared of Elliot’s potential for physically or sexually assaulting them.

Elliot Page is very obviously female despite the cosmetic surgery and hormones.

If you're GC, what should trans people actually do?
If you're GC, what should trans people actually do?
Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/08/2023 14:09

Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space?

Yes, EP is very obviously female, so why wouldn't I be?

ChatBFP · 11/08/2023 14:09

@vibecheck

So if you were incarcerated, you would want to be in a male prison, rather than being "defined" by your sex?

SunnyEgg · 11/08/2023 14:08

Haven’t rtft but I’d like people to present how they want but use their own sex class spaces / sports etc

No forced pronouns and just sex being biological sex not a legal difference

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 11/08/2023 14:05

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:01

Also curious about people's views.. Those people saying women's spaces should not include trans.. Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space? I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services.. Where should she go for support?

A GBT specific service (L’s and female B’s can use the women only one).

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:01

Also curious about people's views.. Those people saying women's spaces should not include trans.. Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space? I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services.. Where should she go for support?

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