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Groups for bisexual women who are not into gender woo?

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NonnyMouse1337 · 06/07/2023 20:37

Maybe FWR isn't the most appropriate place for this thread, but given it has the highest concentration of 'Gender Critical' posters, I figured it's worth a try.

Does anyone know of or is part of a group specifically for bisexual women who are gender critical / understand the reality of two sexes?

It's great that lesbians and gay men are setting up groups specifically for them since the whole TQ+ movement is not representative of same-sex sexual orientation (but also sad that it needs to be done all over again). Lesbians and gay men bear the brunt of gender activism in terms of the distortion and erasure of homosexuality.

But it would be nice to have a space to talk to other bisexual women who aren't signed up to gender woo. It seems like most bisexual women I come across in real life have swallowed the TQ nonsense. All the 'bisexual' support groups have morphed into TQ ones and now they are rebranding bisexuality as a nonsensical 'Bi+' identity.

It would be nice to not feel like I'm the only bisexual who hasn't gone down the gender rabbit hole. Surely there are more of us out there... Is there a group for GC bisexual women? If not, would there be any interest in one?

OP posts:
SerafinasGoose · 06/07/2023 21:15

Hi OP. I'm bisexual too, although I would guess I barely qualify as such these days as I've now spent half my life in a 'heteronormative' relationship. The LGB umbrella has never had much time for my ilk; it's even been viewed as a 'betrayal' (as if this accuser had no idea what the term 'bisexual' actually means) - and I'll grant you I get an easier fist of things than I would had I been living all this time with a female partner, so in that sense I do kind of take the point.

But I've been struck by what I see as an increase in biphobia lately - to the point where even our very sexuality has been viewed as 'transphobic'. Apparently that's because, to use that tired old biphobic trope, we are none-too fussed about who we jump into bed with so the only acceptable terminology is now pansexual. I find this gratuitously offensive and coercive, and will have no part of it.

I'm so weary of this shit. I had thought society was now growing out of this kind of tedious prejudice, but can only begin to imagine what it's like for lesbians.

I'm not sure I'd have any need for a group, but did want to let you know you are not alone!