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Can MNHQ set up a new discussion category called Feminism: sex & gender discussion (inclusive, non-GC)

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PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 14:59

MN, will you please create a talk group/category of Feminism: sex & gender discussion (inclusive, non-GC)?

MN appears to currently have only 2 feminism categories:
Feminism: chat
Feminism: sex & gender discussions

But the Feminism: sex & gender category on MN is predominantly GC, with its emphasis on trans exclusion ideology. Feminists who do not subscribe to those beliefs are often unwelcome and treated with derision and hostility in discussions. Certainly not always as some GC posters do enjoy open, intellectual discussions but often enough that engagement can be toxic & intimidating all around.

It is almost impossible for non-GC feminists to find inclusive/non-GC feminist discussions, and we have to wade through unpleasant (for us) GC threads while attempting to do so.

GC feminism dominates on UK parenting sites in particular. However, inclusive/non-GC feminism is extremely popular around the world (especially in places like the US, NZ, and AU) and in the UK among younger feminists and those who do not see trans rights as a threat to women & girls’ safety. Many UK feminists are non-GC but may feel silenced on MN.

The addition of another category will help open up and improve MN discussions while reducing the toxicity and hostility that many feminists on both sides experience in discussions.

So I propose the following feminism discussion categories:
Feminism: chat (general)
Feminism: sex & gender discussions (GC)
Feminism: sex & gender discussion (inclusive, non-GC)

@MNHQ

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Waitwhat23 · 04/04/2023 18:07

nilsmousehammer · 04/04/2023 17:52

Yes the whole 'those horrible women are driving hundreds of thousands of women off MN' line was the one used to get HQ to create the chat thread. There it is. HQ created it. It's not being used for much, go and use it.

Although I think to ask women not to 'derail' anti-women conversations is a bit strange, and I doubt you would accept the idea that FWR should never be 'derailed' with other views or posts such as yours?

This whole thread is just giving me flashbacks to the threads about the main board splitting.

There were so, so many posters who came on to say that all they desired was a space to talk about feminism without GC views. They were given that space - the Feminism:Chat board. They made it clear that those with GC views were not welcome to post on that particular thread, in very clear terms. I saw several posters with known GC views being told to 'piss off back to your own board'.

And all those threads and subjects they were so desperate to talk about? Never materialised. The many posters desperate for such a space apparently never felt the need to actually use the space.

I can completely understand the OP, as a new poster, not knowing the history of the split or thinking that the name of the board (I.e. chat) might not fit the needs of what she is looking for, might not know this, hence setting up this thread.

What I don't understand is the subsequent posts from other posters who have (presumably) read the thread, decrying the lack of such a space.

There is one.

onegirlandherdog · 04/04/2023 18:06

And completely agree with poster above that there needs to be much more robust discussion about the CG overlaps with far right groups - like PA in UK and Proud Boys in US - and anti-feminist/anti-abortion groups, especially amongst the hordes of GC men on twitter. There's definitely a threat to women's bodily autonomy looming and it isn't from trans people!

PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 18:06

jeffgoldblum · 04/04/2023 17:28

Oh op ! Stirring up s&g and the rf threads , this will not go well , if you thought criticism on the royal thread was bullying, your about to have your ass handed to you here!

The two threads are enough! , bad that they were split as it was, anyone who thinks feminism includes men , is no feminist and I'm shocked at your opinion but not surprised.

Hi there, JG.

If you think that my query to MN was in any way controversial or I’m going to “have my ass handed to me”, it rather proves my point that discussions unsupportive of GC feminism are unwelcome in this category.

Also not surprised at your take. Cheers.

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whatfreshheck · 04/04/2023 18:06

I think this thread kind of proved OP's point! 😂

Helleofabore · 04/04/2023 18:06

What about a thread about women who do not recognise misogyny when it is right there larger than life in front of them, and who then seek to shame women who do recognise misogyny?

StellaAndCrow · 04/04/2023 18:05

EmotionalSupportHyena · 04/04/2023 18:02

At least we can talk about the risks of castrating adolescents without fear of deletion over on the Doghouse!

It's interesting. I've seen more discussion around the evidence of risks/benefits of different ages for castration of dogs (and cats to a lesser extent) than I have for children and young people. I've actually seen NO evidence related to use of blockers/cross sex hormones/castration (testicular removal) in children and young people, as to what is the best/least worst age to do it, and the results at different ages. Is there any?

nepeta · 04/04/2023 18:04

I would love to have more conversations on women's paid work, earnings comparisons and so on. Should I take them to the Feminist Chat site or put threads up here? Sadly, even there sex would rear its ugly head as one of the main reasons why women start earning less over their working lives is that they are the ones to be taking time off to have children and the employers know this when thinking about whom to promote, retain or hire.

Also, January is a lovely month, trees showing their elegant bare knees against the white snow, the silence, like a deep breath nature takes between the wild fertility dances of spring, summer, and autumn.

Ramblingnamechanger · 04/04/2023 18:03

How do we account for the thousands of women who originally came for the parenting boards and stayed for the GC feminism?

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 04/04/2023 18:03

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 04/04/2023 17:51

Since I hid AIBU (best decision ever by the way), sex and gender threads often show up in my little trending box. It’s a busy board

this thread where people are telling me no one ever comes to FWR is showing up in trending right now in fact. is this.....irony?

Can MNHQ set up a new discussion category called Feminism: sex & gender discussion (inclusive, non-GC)
TheShellBeach · 04/04/2023 18:03

ClairDeLaLune · 04/04/2023 17:57

If you defend the rights of biological males to be in women’s safe spaces above the rights of women to feel safe in those spaces then you’re not a feminist.

Hear, hear.

StellaAndCrow · 04/04/2023 18:02

Still laughing/puzzling at "inclusive (non-GC)"

Giggorata · 04/04/2023 18:02

nepeta · 04/04/2023 17:59

I was taught that feminism is the social justice movement which is fundamentally about women's rights based on the fact that the three axes of exploitation are based on sex, race, and class. It should also be intersectional in the sense that sexism and misogyny women experience are also affected by their membership in a race and/or class category. But if you erase the sex altogether, as is now happening among the new intersectional and inclusive feminism then you have erased the whole central point of feminism and you should really call your movement something different.

I began as a very inclusive feminist when I thought that transwomen can be included in the social category of 'women' when others assume they are of the female sex, as they would then experience most of the same things all women do except for reproductive discrimination. Based on the same thinking, transwomen would be socially counted as men if they pass as they would be earning male privilege, including higher wages.

I was too naive to assume that transwomen and transmen wouldn't require the total abolition of anything having to do with sex, and I was too naive to realise that there would also be a nonbinary category of people having their cake and eating it, too, which would demand the same thing.

Once that became clear, those demands that is, I could no longer be inclusive as my not having those boundaries for my feminism let everything in it drip out and would leave me with nothing that could be fought for (thigh-high socks and short skirts as signs of womanhood is insufficient).

Indeed, as many inclusive and intersectional feminists so often tell us, women might have very little in common with each other which is one of the reasons intersectionality matters in analysis. But once you erase sex from this debate, the remaining group certainly would have nothing in common that it wouldn't have in common with some random group of people.

So for me the point of feminism would be lost. And this is why I agree with many on this thread who argue that what the OP asks for might well be worth having, but it's not feminism. It's something else, most likely trans and nonbinary issues.

Brava

EmotionalSupportHyena · 04/04/2023 18:02

ResisterRex · 04/04/2023 17:45

Good idea. People who don't like crate training should have a separate board in the doghouse, for example.

Incidentally, I wouldn't expect the suggestion of a separate board over there on the many and varied and utterly fictitious gender identities of dogs would go over too well, or attract a lot of traffic.

At least we can talk about the risks of castrating adolescents without fear of deletion over on the Doghouse!

TheShellBeach · 04/04/2023 18:00

PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 17:44

Hi @JoodyBlue
Thanks for your response.

I would expect and hope for a reasoned discussion.

I would hope that anyone engaging on those topics would do so with the understanding that some feminists simply do not agree with GC feminism and do not want those conversations derailed.

OP, I promise not to derail any threads you care to start on Feminism Chat.
Happy now?

Helleofabore · 04/04/2023 18:00

Ahh.... but how would MN monitor which board the threads should go onto? Because really, so many threads started on other boards get hidden or shunted here.

If a thread contains disagreement that males should be included as females for the purposes of the gap between the sexes for pay (and I DO mean sex) and discrimination based on a person's sex for instance, wouldn't it just get put into the main Sex and Gender board, as it is happens now. So, in effect, no threads would stay on the new board.

StellaAndCrow · 04/04/2023 18:00

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 04/04/2023 17:54

Excellent, the two of you can talk to each other on feminism chat

Exactly, we were specifically told not to use the main Feminism Chat board for those discussions that some find difficult or troubling.

nepeta · 04/04/2023 17:59

I was taught that feminism is the social justice movement which is fundamentally about women's rights based on the fact that the three axes of exploitation are based on sex, race, and class. It should also be intersectional in the sense that sexism and misogyny women experience are also affected by their membership in a race and/or class category. But if you erase the sex altogether, as is now happening among the new intersectional and inclusive feminism then you have erased the whole central point of feminism and you should really call your movement something different.

I began as a very inclusive feminist when I thought that transwomen can be included in the social category of 'women' when others assume they are of the female sex, as they would then experience most of the same things all women do except for reproductive discrimination. Based on the same thinking, transwomen would be socially counted as men if they pass as they would be earning male privilege, including higher wages.

I was too naive to assume that transwomen and transmen wouldn't require the total abolition of anything having to do with sex, and I was too naive to realise that there would also be a nonbinary category of people having their cake and eating it, too, which would demand the same thing.

Once that became clear, those demands that is, I could no longer be inclusive as my not having those boundaries for my feminism let everything in it drip out and would leave me with nothing that could be fought for (thigh-high socks and short skirts as signs of womanhood is insufficient).

Indeed, as many inclusive and intersectional feminists so often tell us, women might have very little in common with each other which is one of the reasons intersectionality matters in analysis. But once you erase sex from this debate, the remaining group certainly would have nothing in common that it wouldn't have in common with some random group of people.

So for me the point of feminism would be lost. And this is why I agree with many on this thread who argue that what the OP asks for might well be worth having, but it's not feminism. It's something else, most likely trans and nonbinary issues.

StellaAndCrow · 04/04/2023 17:58

Labraradabrador · 04/04/2023 17:45

Just wanted to say I totally get it OP. I was so confused by all the GC nonsense categorised as ‘feminism’ - I have a VERY different understanding of feminism, and my brand of feminism has a different set of priorities (employment and economic equality above bathroom politics). I also find the tone of GC crowd to be incredibly offensive in many instances. I’m sorry you have had so many unpleasant comments. At this point I have given up on discussing this topic on mumsnet - let them shout at each other.

For anyone finding this particular small board difficult, there are so many other parts of mumsnet to post in that might suit you. There's the other feminism board (feminism chat) - it doesn't allow GC discussions (i.e. discussions about how gender stereotypes are not helpful/meaningful in determining someone's sex).
There's an LGBT section, and an LGBT children's section.

This board is the only one where we're allowed to have the discussions that you find difficult. It was made that way so that people knew where to avoid if they wanted to.

ClairDeLaLune · 04/04/2023 17:57

If you defend the rights of biological males to be in women’s safe spaces above the rights of women to feel safe in those spaces then you’re not a feminist.

Eyerollcentral · 04/04/2023 17:55

@Labraradabrador ’Just wanted to say I totally get it OP. I was so confused by all the GC nonsense categorised as ‘feminism’ - I have a VERY different understanding of feminism, and my brand of feminism has a different set of priorities (employment and economic equality above bathroom politics).’ Sorry how do you address employment and economic equality without knowing what a woman actually is? In what way are GC concerns nonsense?

Hepwo · 04/04/2023 17:55

Helleofabore · 04/04/2023 15:10

This is a board for all opinions about the topic. If you are unable to present your evidenced point of view on the existing board, why do you think a second board will be of use?

And if you cannot post within the guidelines and refrain from making the negative generalisations that you have been making while you have been on this board, that is your own issue to deal with.

Hellebore hits the nail on the head.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 04/04/2023 17:54

onegirlandherdog · 04/04/2023 17:52

Me too! lifelong, active feminist in her 50s here. Appalled by what I've been witnessing these last couple of years. Plus, LGBTQ spaces have always been the safest and most feminist spaces for me - not just physically safe from sexual harassment, but safe to be myself and I've always felt welcome - in the past and now. Not going to forget that that.

Excellent, the two of you can talk to each other on feminism chat

TheShellBeach · 04/04/2023 17:53

PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 17:23

Thanks, @AmuseBish.

It’s not accurate to say all of your posts were “polite”. But sorry for use of “frothing” - I found your repeated questions a lot, especially as I was otherwise engaged.

I singled you out, unfairly perhaps, but I didn’t want to ignore you. It wasn’t just you - there are so many demands that I explain/justify/validate my request to MN.

I don’t mind debating issues around gender but that wasn’t the purpose or intention of today’s post. I just wanted to ask MN if a non-GC category could be set up because I thought the general feminism category wasn’t for ideological g&s stuff.

Well, as many people have already pointed out, Feminism Chat already exists, so you're a bit late to the party.

Viviennemary · 04/04/2023 17:52

I think it would be better if it wasn't under the feminism umberella. Though I can see the argument for that. But you can be a woman and not a feminist. I wouldn't describe myself as a feminist.

Hepwo · 04/04/2023 17:52

I haven't read the whole thread yet but what is going on?

Do the Posie detractors need some internet space with greater scope for more fibs?

I can only surmise they are not finding the salon and magazine sales as popular as they had hoped?

I will now open up the wine and check out the ratio.